Like many things, love has a shelf life, but the shelf life is different. There are many talented women in history, and they all have two things in common. First, they are brilliant, and they speak in writing. Second, sentimental, married life has suffered many hardships, as if it were a kind of fate, such as Yu Xuanji, Li Qingzhao and Zhuo Wenjun in Han Dynasty.
Among the three of them, Zhuo Wenjun was relatively lucky. She dared to love and hate, and eloped for love, but she was almost abandoned by her husband many years later. She didn't make a fuss, and she didn't lose her mind because of her sadness. After learning that her husband had changed his mind, she pondered for a long time, and then only used a poem to make him change his mind, thus saving a marriage that was about to be broken.
Zhuo Wenjun is a veritable Bai Fumei, whose father is a well-known local businessman. Since her birth, she has been the apple of her parents' eye. Other people's daughters have to learn needlework and do some housework, but Zhuo Wenjun is different. Every day, she is accompanied by bamboo and orchestral instruments, and she also likes to study poetry. History books say that she is "beautiful in appearance, proficient in melody and good at playing the piano".
With extremely superior family conditions, even if Zhuo Wenjun looks like a flower, suitors can line up a few streets. Besides, she is both talented and beautiful, and people who propose marriage are wave after wave. When a man marries a woman, at the age of sixteen, she obeyed her father's arrangement and married her unmasked fiance. A few years later, her husband died of illness. Because he had no daughter and a half, he was not welcome in his husband's family. Parents didn't want his daughter to be widowed for life, so they took him home.
After this unfortunate marriage, Zhuo Wenjun has matured a lot and vowed not to remarry easily unless she meets a man who makes her move. Perhaps she moved Yue Lao from sincerity, and soon met Sima Xiangru, a poor boy. Zhuo Wenjun's fawn bumped into her heart, and Sima Xiangru was moved by her temperament. She looked at each other and read each other's inner thoughts, and a beautiful love happened.
Sima Xiangru was uneasy, and there were two distinct voices in his heart. One advised him to give up. After all, he had nothing but talent, and he was not worthy of a daughter, Miss Zhuo Wenjun. Another voice encouraged him to go forward, and the beauty had appeared. Once he missed it, it would be a lifelong regret. Finally, Sima Xiangru got up the courage and wrote a love letter to Zhuo Wenjun. The specific content is unknown, except that Zhuo Wenjun gave up everything that night after reading the love letter and eloped with Sima Xiangru.
Love really needs courage, especially in ancient times, it needs courage to elope with others, but Zhuo Wenjun did it. Since Sima Xiangru was identified, even if she followed him to the streets, she would not regret it. In her view, only love is enough, and drinking porridge every day is full of happiness. At first, Zhuo Wenjun's father almost vomited blood, and even wanted to sever the relationship between father and daughter with her, but later he accepted Sima Xiangru and gave his daughter and son-in-law millions of copper coins, hoping that they would not be too shabby.
Sima Xiangru, who was originally poor, immediately became a "Sima Duo Fish" after receiving this huge sum of money from her father-in-law. He no longer had to worry about his livelihood, bought a fertile mansion, and at the same time had plenty of time to write articles with peace of mind, make friends with princes and nobles, and also entered the DPRK as an official with the article Zi Xufu. A man's money is easy to change his mind. This sentence sounds very hard, but it is an irrefutable fact. Sima Xiangru forgot the oath he made to his wife that he only loved her.
Sima Xiangru thinks that with his present wealth and status, he should find a beautiful young woman, while his wife, Zhuo Wenjun, is old and doesn't want to have a look. A woman's sixth sense is very strong. Zhuo Wenjun feels that her husband has changed his mind. Sima Xiangru simply puts on a showdown, admits empathy and even divorces Zhuo Wenjun. So, Zhuo Wenjun wrote down the famous poem "White-headed Poem", the whole poem is as follows:
Love should be like the snow in the mountains, pure, as bright as the clouds on the moon.
I hear you have two heart, so come to break with you.
Today is like the last party, tomorrow will break up the ditch head.
I slowly move the foot along the edge of the road, the past life is like a ditch water flow, not to return.
When I decided to leave home with the king far away, not like the ordinary girls cry.
Full of thought to marry a heart of affection, can fall in love to the old forever happy.
Men and women love to vote is like the rod like the light and soft long, fish like live waves lovely.
Men should be heavy in affection, lost sincere love is no treasure of money can not be compensated.
Judging from the content of the poem, Zhuo Wenjun doesn't have any pleading tone. She is a very wise woman. She understands that the love that comes from humble beginnings won't last long, and she also knows that her husband is not a heartless person, but only temporarily possessed. Show your attitude first, and then express your love for your husband with "I wish to be United as one, and never leave each other", which is up to Sima Xiangru.
After reading his wife's poem, Sima Xiangru felt remorse and hated himself for being fickle and disloyal. Before, dribs and drabs flashed through his mind. His wife, Zhuo Wenjun, turned his back on him, not looking for his house, his car or his savings. After all, he didn't have any of these things. He only valued him and wanted to spend his life with him. Sima Xiangru slapped himself hard and ran to apologize to his wife. Zhuo Wenjun forgave her husband. Since then, the two have been reconciled, and Sima Xiangru has never changed his mind.
Now that Zhuo Wenjun has been dead for more than two thousand years, her sentence "I wish to win one heart, but I don't want to leave my white head" has become a classic, and her attitude of loving without hesitation has made many people feel ashamed. The author just wants to sigh: Marry a wife like Zhuo Wenjun, and don't learn from Sima Xiangru. No matter whether you are poor or rich, you must never have the idea of abandoning a bad wife. She will do whatever it takes for you, and you should cherish it with your life.