At 14:00 Beijing time, the much-anticipated Jiang Ge case finally reached a verdict at the Tokyo District Court of Japan: the defendant Chen Shifeng was sentenced to 20 years in prison. Everyone is already aware of this case. Let’s talk about how to evaluate Jiang Ge’s mother.

Regarding this result, a netizen said, "As a bystander, I can't accept it, let alone Jiang Ge's mother."

Life and death are separated, and it is unimaginable to live without Jiang Ge. What will Ma Jiang's life be like after being with her...

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“There is no title, because this is an identity that is too cruel to describe.”

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If the murderer is sentenced to death, can Jiang Ge’s mother recover from the loss of her daughter? Can you come out of the pain?

No, everyone with parents and relatives can know this.

But even though we know that Japanese justice may not sentence Jiang Shifeng to death, we still want to help Jiang Ge’s mother petition, because we feel sorry for this sad mother, and for Jiang Ge, who was kind and righteous but unfortunately died in vain. Between the ungrateful showgirl bestie and the crazy murderer, we choose to stand beside Jiang Ge’s mother, choose kindness and justice, choose to protect her, support her, and bless her.

I am the daughter of a mother who had a similar experience to Jiang Ge’s mother.

The victim is my brother. He was 18 years old when the accident happened. Because a worker was negligent and failed to close the valve of the gas stove in the operating room, he and another colleague were killed by carbon monoxide leaks at night.

The perpetrator finally received the punishment he deserved, and relatives, friends and neighbors who were concerned about the matter stopped visiting frequently.

My mother, who had been supporting her brother to take care of his funeral, collapsed. She was just in her early 40s. Before what happened, she liked to watch the 8 o'clock show, cook delicious food, and would visit her little sisters' houses when she had time.

After the incident, she couldn’t hear a single high-decibel sound and couldn’t help crying when she saw the lively scenes on the TV. So my dad cut off the power to the TV and turned off the game console and The Walkman is locked in the cabinet. The house began to be enveloped in silence, and the loudest sound of the day was the sound of water running in the evening bath.

She refused to go out, no longer cared about the price of food in the market, and no longer compared which fabric was of high quality and low price. In addition to preparing three meals a day, she would just linger in her brother's room.

An elder advised my mother with tears: You have to look forward, and you have to take care of these two daughters. Xiao Quan will not feel at ease when he sees you like this...

My mother had dried up her tears and leaned on the end of the sofa and said: Why wasn’t I the one who died?

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When I was less than 10 years old, I learned for the first time that life is not only about playing and candies, but also about never waking up again and living a heart-breaking life.

When I grow up, whenever I see victims in news incidents, the pain that cannot be expressed in words will overflow in my body again, and my internal organs will be pulled by a kind of tension, as if I have suffered a pain. A huge slap that hurts all over your body. You try your best to wave your hands to catch your far away relatives, but there is only a black hole. This is the difference between life and death, and there is nothing you can do no matter what you do.

Jiang Ge’s mother is a very brave mother, and this bravery is the result of Jiang Ge’s great grief for his untimely death. She is living for Jiang Ge and her love for Jiang Ge.

When Jiang Ge was born, his patriarchal father disliked her as a daughter, so Jiang Ge’s mother divorced him and gave Jiang Ge her own surname. Such a decisive and brave mother is rare in today's society. More than 20 years of single parent life did not drag her down. After Jiang Ge was murdered, she fumbled and learned how to use Weibo and WeChat to seek justice for Jiang Ge.

Judging from the information posted by Jiang Ge’s mother on Weibo and public accounts, every information is clear, organized, and well-founded. Except for her inability to control her pain, it has not harmed anyone. People outside the event. In desperation, I obtained the identity information of Liu Xin's family and published it on the Internet. Afterwards, I realized that it was inappropriate and deleted it. It can be said that he is a considerate and decent person. Therefore, a warm, kind and righteous Jiang Ge was cultivated.

She died tragically in a foreign country.

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In the video sent by a friend who helped at the scene in Japan, Jiang Ge’s mother hugged and shook hands with everyone who came to sign the petition, and she seemed to be in good condition. But I am always worried about where Liu Xin will go when she gets rid of the pressure of public opinion when the murderer reaches his predetermined end.

Some psychological experts say that it takes three or four years after a loved one dies suddenly for his family to get out of the gloom. My mother's recovery period was longer than three or four years. During that time, my family was almost completely closed off. My mother was not interested in any topic except recalling my brother.

She suddenly stopped and shed tears while doing housework. She would suddenly wake up while sleeping, and then stare at the door hoping that someone would come back...

My sister and I first In a short time, I learned to speak softly, and I also learned how to encourage my mother, comfort her when she sheds tears, and stay with her when she doesn't want to eat. My mother feels sorry for us and will always be tough. Hold on and eat something.

Even so, if we accidentally take five pairs of chopsticks while eating, our efforts will collapse in an instant.

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Looking back now, the general feeling is that during that period, our heart wounds kept bleeding, there was a lingering haze above our heads, and we couldn’t see the sun when we went out. The wind blows and it doesn't feel cold.

Such a state of numbness in which one must be cautious and forced to be strong is actually a stage that all those who experience the death of a loved one must go through.

Some people say that as time passes, the wound will heal slowly. People will encounter various setbacks in this life, and their bodies are covered with invisible and tangible wounds. Some will heal, and some will bleed for the rest of their lives until their life is exhausted.

People who are lovelorn can buy a trash can from their ex with a smile. People who have been seriously ill will heal their scars and forget the pain after recovery. The lives of mothers who have lost their children can no longer be complete.

Even if you encounter happy things, there will be bitterness in your smile.

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In the last year of junior high school, my mother went to school to attend my parent-teacher meeting. When she came home, she met a group of senior high school seniors. They were tall and sunny, chatting and laughing. Pass us. My mother stopped abruptly. When she regained her composure, she said patiently and miserably: Your brother used to be like this too.

More than ten years have passed, and all my peers have become other people’s parents. My sister has also been promoted to a new mother. My mother happily started to help my sister take care of the children.

Now she seems to have a lot of things to do. She likes delicious food and good-looking clothes. She also watches TV dramas every day when she has time.

But I know the hole in her heart is still there.

On the eve of the Lantern Festival the year before last, she was taking a nap on the sofa. She suddenly woke up and called my brother's name.

For Jiang Qiulian who lost Jiang Ge, and Father Lin who lost his wife and child, the rest of his life is scarier than most people imagine.

There is a joke that goes like this: "We know your life is meaningless, but oil is really expensive." Life may be meaningless to you, but to your parents and family members who love you, you are more important than their lives.

So, love them and cherish yourself.

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Finally, I would like to say a few more words. Girls who are single must learn to protect themselves correctly. I will share with you an article on the Internet that is very protective and instructive. . Author Ai Xiaoyang.

1. As women, please always remember that you are a vulnerable group in violent crimes. This is not sex discrimination, but gender equality. Therefore, women should always put self-protection first in life, rather than protecting others.

2. The second point that girls should keep in mind is that they should avoid direct conflicts with men at any time. Don't argue with men alone.

3. The biggest magic weapon to avoid conflict is "I don't look at you." 90% of conflicts can be avoided by avoiding eye contact with unkind people.

4. When conflict occurs, it is good to think badly of others. Psychological early warning is very important. Only with psychological early warning can you correctly judge the situation and don't be stubborn. If you want to make your psychological warning more sensitive, you have to think a little bit worse about people.

5. Be responsible for your own affairs and be measured in the affairs of others.

6. We must not only believe in the good of the world, but also understand the evil of the world.

7. We must understand that no matter how strong their career or strong their character, women are completely vulnerable when facing violence. It is wisdom and not shameful to show weakness and accept cowardice.

8. Fate is greater than reason, greater than wealth, greater than love, greater than everything else.

Please note: All men who dwell on a breakup are at risk. They are typical paranoid personalities: suspicious, sensitive, stubborn, and self-centered. For a man with no flaws in his character, if a girl is determined to break up, he will not get entangled even if he loves her again.

In this kind of matter, talking about love hurts IQ. Real love is to respect the other person's choice and let the other person live out their own life.