I think it's actually good to be a lazy mother. The specific reason has to start with an incident that happened during the winter vacation. It was the day of winter vacation in February, 20 17. I came home from work at six o'clock in the afternoon, tired and hungry. There was no one at home except me. When I went to the kitchen, it was a mess, and the appearance of eating at noon was intact. I didn't start cleaning up the tableware and leftover food, so I just ate some snacks and then sat down to have a rest. That afternoon, my husband went to work, and my daughter (18 and a half years old, a freshman, resting at home during the winter vacation) was at home alone. It is outrageous that she didn't even help me finish this housework in the afternoon. At 7: 30 in the evening, my daughter and husband came back from her mother-in-law's house. I asked my daughter why she didn't clean the kitchen. She stammered a few words without any justification. Instead of cleaning the messy kitchen, I asked my daughter to clean it.
Sun Yunxiao suggested to his parents: "Parents should keep half their love for themselves." That makes sense. Perhaps most mothers will do housework by themselves in this situation. But why don't I take the initiative to clean the kitchen? I feel lazy, and I really want to "keep half my love for myself." Leave the housework that should belong to her daughter and let her do it herself. After a busy day, my mother is very tired. It is normal for my daughter to rest at home and do some housework for her parents in those days when she is an adult. It should have been finished in the afternoon, but she was too lazy to do it. She has to do it sooner or later. Even if it will be 12 in the middle of the night, I will let her finish before going to rest. Otherwise, she can't sleep. Because of her responsibility, she didn't do it. Sooner or later, she should do her duty. I can't do it for her because it's not my responsibility. If I do this for her, she will lack a sense of responsibility in her future work, which will encourage her dependence and she will not appreciate her parents or respect others' work. That's too poisonous. Let her do whatever housework she can, the purpose is to cultivate her sense of responsibility, gratitude, care and consideration for her family and self-care ability. Sun Yunxiao, the chief family education expert, said: "If a child has never done housework, it is empty talk to cultivate a sense of responsibility, because taking on housework is the most basic responsibility and something he can do. At the same time, children can not only understand their parents' hard work, but also increase their life intelligence, which is of great significance to people's lifelong development. "
That afternoon, my daughter didn't take the initiative to finish housework in time. Obviously, she made a lazy mistake. When a child does something wrong, I object to adults wiping her ass and taking some responsibility for her, because the child will never grow up. Only by letting her accept some labor exercises and take some responsibilities in small things can she grow up and mature day by day.
Educator Chen Heqin once said, "It is best for a mother to have only one hand." The meaning of one hand: be a lazy mother at the right time. The so-called laziness is not laziness in the true sense, not taking the initiative to do housework, nor being careless and careless about children's lives. On the contrary, I didn't do housework at the right time. For example, when I am sick, tired or in a bad mood, I should "actively show weakness" and be willing to use my children to do some housework within my power. Just like today, this should be a child's job. Adults must not rush to do it, but let the children do it.
I like the following passage: "It is because of the long-term selfless and unrequited efforts of adults that lazy children, selfish children and heartless children are cultivated. Because in the child's mind, a psychological stereotype has been formed that parents and others are naturally good to me. Therefore, in order to put forward clear requirements for children, the first thing parents should do is to manage themselves first and not to pay unconditionally for a long time. It is also reasonable to ask children for some love and talk about some small conditions occasionally, which is the need to develop habits. " -Sun Yunxiao
Mothers, don't give unconditionally for a long time. Sometimes being a lazy mother, letting children do housework and share some for you, not only cultivates children's sense of responsibility and love, but also exercises their ability to solve and deal with problems, which is beneficial and harmless. Why not do it! ? (End)
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About the author: Zang Xiaoyun, female, 197 1 February, 49 years old, Aquarius, a teacher who loves education, cares about students' growth and likes reading and writing in her spare time.