Too sharp to eat-this is the advice written by the ancestors who poured blood and brains! Anyone who does great things should cultivate the power of "hiding the dew". When you are smart, you are smart, and when you are stupid, you are stupid. If necessary, even pretend to be a "moron" and be a "fool" is also wise.
From another perspective, the human nature of being too poor and loving the rich has promoted social development. If everyone likes being poor and backward, who wants to do manual labor? Who wants to engage in creative thinking? Where do you get food, clothing, use and shelter? In this way, society will stagnate or even go backwards! Therefore, we should regard being too poor and loving being rich as a normal social phenomenon.
Why should others give you their hard-earned lunch? In other words, will you give your hard-earned lunch to others? If you don't think you can do it, why do you believe others can? Therefore, instead of pinning unfounded hopes on others, it is better to work hard and earn your own lunch!
In the face of those who are silent and expressionless, we need to be very careful in everything we say and do, and we can't rush to show our cards to him. These people are often very shrewd and scheming. If you say or do things thoughtlessly, it's easy for them to take advantage of you!
Most relatives and friends can only share joys and sorrows, but they can't share happiness. Between the boss and the employees, most of them can only share happiness, not share weal and woe.
People are not afraid of not being smart, but they are afraid of being too smart. If you are too smart, you will be blind, arrogant, ignorant and get carried away. At this time, people who seem smart are actually half fools!
The vast majority of people who have suffered disasters in ancient and modern times are smart people. People nowadays are afraid that they are not smart enough. This is stupid.
A beautiful woman begins to become ugly when she shows off her beauty. When a wise man shows off his cleverness, he begins to become stupid! A talented person, when showing off his talents, begins to become worthless!
People who mix in officialdom must be careful everywhere and always pay attention. Even if you have been honored for most of your life, if you finally make a big mistake, your life may be ruined. Life is so wonderful. Being a man is like farming, and the final harvest is the standard of evaluation.
"Take, take; Take it, take it; If you take it, you will get nothing. " In other words, if the initial expectation is first-class, the final effect may be only the middle; If the initial expectation is only the middle stream, the final effect can only be the last stream; If expectation is only the last stream, you may get nothing in the end.
On some special occasions, some smart people will take the initiative to give the leading role to others, and they are willing to be supporting roles. This is not a failure, even a strategic victory. He gave up only the name of a protagonist, but he won tangible benefits.
For a China person, how precious life is and how precious face is. If you give him enough face, he will give you everything! But if you hurt his face and self-esteem, he will hate your guts and push you to him completely!
Don't criticize others emotionally, pay special attention to the facts and avoid evaluating others' personalities, interests and family upbringing. If you can put forward solutions when criticizing, you will be more constructive and you will not forget to affirm the advantages of others. In addition, if humorous language can be used in criticism, the effect will often be better.
Sweet talk is everyone's weakness, and no matter who it is, it is easy to be fooled. Almost all women in the world like to listen to sweet words, and many women marry the wrong person because of men's sweet words.
The cleverest emotional investment skill is to give timely help, not icing on the cake.
No matter how unpleasant the other person's words are, let him finish and listen to what he really wants to express.
God always loves those who silently forbear when we see other people's scenery when we are young, so we don't have to be jealous. As long as you persist in doing things, be positive and serious, everyone will usher in their own success!
If you want to catch a fish, you must think like a fish. If you like strawberries again, the fish will not pay attention; The fish won't take the bait until it eats its favorite earthworm.
A person who does a good deed for others, don't care about it, and don't make it public for others to praise, so even a bucket of millet can be rewarded. A person who helps others with property and always asks others to return, then even if he pays two thousand gold, it is difficult to have a penny of merit.
There is a classic formula: desire-intensity = degree of pain. When desire far exceeds strength and cannot be realized in any case, it is the most painful time for a person, and it is also easy to be possessed.
A person is often the most dangerous in the spring breeze.
Where the path is narrow, leave a step with pedestrians; When the taste is strong, subtract three points for people to taste.
1. For everyone. Little friends like him and support him because they get delicious food. From this moment on, he stood out from this group of peers and became a well-deserved leader of this small group, and he will become a person with strong appeal in the future.
2. All by yourself. Nobody's watching. Put it all in your mouth. The cake is his, which is no problem. But everyone regarded him as a cheapskate, and no one played with him in the future. He lost a chance to be a wolf in the team and lost the trust of the team, and turned into another narrow lane. Growing up along this trajectory, he is likely to be an ordinary person in the future.
A casual choice determines a person's life. Understand this truth, will you still despise the necessary sharing? You know, not everything is a narrow road, and the brave win. Knowing how to share with others at the right time can benefit everyone, and finally you will be crowned the winner!
Getting along with people is often not a single choice-with or without him, but a variety of choices, which can win-win. Some people don't understand, they only know that the larger foe, either you die or I live. Examples of fame and fortune and mutual destruction are often staged around us. Such people never realize that taking a step when necessary can bring greater benefits to themselves.
There was a young civil servant who graduated from a prestigious school and was brilliant. Wherever he went, he went to the mountains and rivers with the momentum of a stock index. He thinks that others are useless ants and are not worthy to compare with himself. "I have the strongest ability, so it is most worthwhile." He always thinks so. He doesn't share benefits with his colleagues, but takes the lead in everything.
What was the result? Colleagues in the department joined hands to form an alliance, compete with this "excellent talent", drag him down, hold him back, and make trouble for him everywhere. No matter how selfless and conscientious you are, we just don't cooperate. It is really more difficult for a person to make a difference in this environment than to ascend to heaven!
In the end, of course, it is the young man who can't do his work well and runs into a wall wherever he goes. His talent is trapped in his stomach, and he can't even complain! As a result, the leader complained bitterly and his colleagues were not pitiful. He didn't make a good impression in front of everyone. At this point, the chair assigned to him by the unit should be taken back.
Do you think it's sad to just want to monopolize the interests and lose everything? There is a saying: "There are no eternal friends and enemies in the world, only eternal interests." This sentence shows that the fundamental problem of communication between countries and people is actually the distribution of interests. Knowing the distribution of benefits actually reveals the essence of human nature and the truth of society.
There is a saying in "Caigen Tan": "Human feelings are repeated, and the world is rugged. If you can't go anywhere, take a step back; If you can go where you want to go, you must give up one-third of your job. " It means that the world is changeable and the road of life is bumpy. Where the road to life is impassable, we should know the truth of paying in one step; Where you can go, you must also give people three points of convenience in order to turn your luck into success and be smooth sailing.
It is not only a way to be human, but also a wonderful strategy to broaden interpersonal resources. You give him a step today, and he will give you two steps back tomorrow, which is equivalent to making a good friend and opening a convenient door to social success. If you don't understand the principle that all benefits are shared and all benefits are absorbed by yourself, then no matter how powerful the talent is, it can only be useless white paper! If you learn shareism, the benefits will be distributed to everyone, and everyone's psychology will be balanced, so that everyone will definitely join hands with Qi Xin to help you succeed.
All successful "cattle people" know this without exception. Most of them spend a lot of money to benefit their followers, so they are dead set and go through fire and water. Even the smartest big businessmen follow this idea. For example, if you have the ability to undertake a big project, you should also pull your partners to develop it together, so as to show your tolerance of "staying one step on the road and letting three points go" and declare that you are not the kind of person who breaks people's financial resources and monopolizes the source of happiness.
That's the truth. Being alone is the most dangerous. Everyone has soup to drink, this is king! This way of life is a "hidden rule" that China has been pursuing for thousands of years. Do you know that this way of life determines whether a person's life is bumpy or smooth!
The eagle stands like a sleep, and the tiger walks like a disease, which means catching people and biting people. Therefore, a gentleman should be smart and not show off his talents, so that he can have the strength to shoulder his responsibilities.
The eagle seems to be asleep when standing, and the tiger seems to be seriously ill when walking. In fact, this is a clever way for them to feed people and eat people. Therefore, a really smart person should not show off or show off his talents, so that he can do great things.
Too sharp-edged is easy to have no food-this is the advice written by the ancestors who poured blood and brains! Unfortunately, many people just don't understand this truth. They think they are smart and capable, and everyone is tofu, but in fact they are a flower and care nothing. This kind of person is most likely to have no food, and even lost his life for it.
Everyone has heard the saying that "smart people keep their mouths shut, smart people keep their mouths shut", which means that really smart people are all stunted and never show off everywhere, but wait for an opportunity to make a splash. It is good to have talent, but no matter how strong your ability is, you can't show it off all day. Just like wealth, having money is of course a good thing, but will you show off in the street wearing gold and silver and carrying a cash box every day?
Talent is the foundation of a person's success. A talented person can get many opportunities to perform. An incompetent person can't succeed even if he shows himself again. However, a talented person shows off himself too much, suppresses the performance space of others, harms the interests of others, and will inevitably arouse the unanimous envy of all. If it develops to this point, his future and career will be very dangerous and may be dragged down at any time!
Zhuge Ke in the late Three Kingdoms was the son of Zhuge Liang's brother Zhu Gejin. Born into a noble family, the family education is strict. At an early age, he showed the characteristics of quick thinking and extraordinary talent. Everyone thinks that his talent surpasses that of his father, Zhu Gejin. However, Zhu Gejin was not happy to have such a good son, but felt that Zhuge Ke would bring misfortune to his family. Why? Zhu Gejin said, "However, he is impatient and willful. He likes to express himself too much. His sharp edge is too exposed, which will eventually lead to great disaster. " Sure enough, as my father expected, when Zhuge Ke grew up in power, he acted arbitrarily, overreached himself, thought he was superior, and became arrogant, which eventually caused public anger, was designed and killed by his ministers, and the family involved was also eliminated.
In this world, talented but excluded people can be seen everywhere. The talent in their hands is like having a sword handed down from ancient times. Everyone will brag about it and hold it in his hand, for fear that others will not know that he has amazing talent and foolishly make himself a living target that adults want to fight. They couldn't see the fire pit under their feet, so they fell into it unconsciously.
Talent is like a double-edged sword, which can stab others as well as yourself, so you should use it carefully and put it in the scabbard. Many times, being too sharp will lead to the jealousy and frame-up of villains. Anyone who does great things should cultivate the power of "hiding the dew". Hong Yingming said in "Caigen Tan": "The article is good, and it is just right." The use of intelligence should be the same, which is beneficial, but just right. When you are smart, you are smart, when you are stupid, you are stupid, and stupidity is also a kind of wisdom. When necessary, it is wise to pretend to be an "imbecile" and be a "confused person"
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