Getting married is a pleasant surprise. The good news is that women have finally entered another stage of their lives. I was surprised to come to a new environment and didn't know what to do. In the husband's family, the mother-in-law is a special role. Father-in-law and husband usually don't know much about trivial matters at home. It is daughter-in-law and mother-in-law who take care of the house directly, and they inevitably have direct contact. If you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, you can completely ignore others, and she will stand in front of you if something happens. Otherwise, you will be miserable. Life must be unhappy if you suffer from anger on several sides.

There has always been a tradition in China that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult, and it has not improved with the development of social economy. At present, there are widespread cases in which two people quarrel and divorce because of their mother-in-law. As a new daughter-in-law, as soon as she walks into her husband's house, she will inevitably have butterflies in her stomach. Why does the mother-in-law pick her nose at her daughter-in-law? In fact, it is not difficult to solve this problem as long as you master the psychological activities of your mother-in-law and then prescribe the right medicine.

1. Mother-in-law is a long-time daughter-in-law.

My mother-in-law was also a new daughter-in-law in those days, and she was also facing her own mother-in-law. The mother-in-law of the previous generation was more influenced by tradition than the mother-in-law of today. Relatively speaking, as a daughter-in-law, she should be humble to her mother-in-law. With the passage of time, the daughter-in-law of that year has also become a mother-in-law, influenced by the experience of her youth, and suppressed for decades, it is rare to relax, so the mother-in-law is picky about her daughter-in-law.

Besides, the mother-in-law will compare her daughter-in-law's behavior with her own. If the daughter-in-law does less, the mother-in-law will feel bad. Just as you watch your colleagues do less work in the office and do more work by yourself, you don't get more than others. At this time, the daughter-in-law can only be more tolerant.

2. The mother-in-law is not ready for her son to leave the nest.

In modern society, many people study abroad as teenagers, so it is taken for granted that parents at home are used to it. In fact, it is precisely because they left home at a young age and didn't have much time to get along, so parents are doubly concerned, especially as mothers.

My son is studying and working outside. At present, at home, he can only satisfy himself by telling his neighbors and friends about his children's honor. Suddenly a few years later, my son got married, had his own family and belonged to another woman. Mother felt very uncomfortable.

some people say, isn't marriage urged at home? In fact, urging marriage is just worrying that her children will be under social pressure, which does not mean that she is ready for her son to belong to another woman. When her son gets married and really organizes his own family, she will feel lonely when she has less time to pay attention to her parents. Tossing a daughter-in-law is a way to vent.

3. Mother-in-law thinks her son is the property.

this kind of mother-in-law is the most difficult to deal with, and the biggest possibility is that it can't be handled. Chinese parents always treat their children as their own possessions. When children grow up and have opinions, she doesn't show them on the surface. In fact, this idea has never changed.

If the son is strong and has his own ideas, which makes her feel uncontrollable, let him go. If her son's personality is not so strong, she will be very strong, and it is not surprising that she has intervened in all aspects of her son's life.

In addition, there is an idea that filial piety is the greatest in China society, which gives powerful mothers a good reason. What do we usually hear? Are you trying to piss me off? 、? I raised you with great pains, and that's how you find a wife to repay me? And so on, all come from this concept of filial piety.

As a new wife, don't be depressed after you meet your mother-in-law. Mother-in-law is also a person and a woman. It means that there is still room for a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law. How can a new wife communicate with her mother-in-law to please her? After understanding her mother-in-law's thoughts, she can put them into action.

how should a daughter-in-law please her mother-in-law?

1. Go shopping together.

Men can't understand why women go shopping. Shopping is not only what you like, but also your mother-in-law. After all, they are all women, and everyone has a love for beauty. No matter what age women are, I believe shopping, especially buying clothes, will always be their favorite thing to do. Mother-in-law has always taken her grandson with her, so her clothes will definitely not be too particular, and she has no time to go shopping. Especially after the baby goes to nursery school, isn't it time to dress up the old lady?

In the process of shopping, I not only relaxed my mother-in-law's mood, but also found that they actually liked plaid skirts of the same style and curtains and tablecloths of the same color. These * * * languages can be a bridge to build friendship between two people.

2. Take your mother-in-law to eat together often

People are usually in a good mood in front of delicious food. Therefore, don't patronize yourself as a gourmet. Not only do you like delicious food, but your mother-in-law also likes it. She is just bound by her previous ideas and wants to save money, so there is no requirement for food. If you occasionally take her mother-in-law to eat snacks and delicious food that she hasn't eaten once a month, even if it doesn't suit her taste. Cannibalism is soft? If you don't get praise, I believe she won't say anything wrong with you, so that your mother-in-law can really feel that you are good to her.

Love the same food, plus your mother-in-law is a master who loves cooking, so much the better. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can * * * study how the food in other restaurants is made. In the long run, with the friendship of classmates, how high is the chance of friction cold war?

3. Teach your mother-in-law to surf the Internet

The online world is rich and colorful, and new things emerge one after another. Who says that only young people like surfing the Internet, and who says that the elderly are slow to respond? Nowadays, more and more elderly people have become netizens. Therefore, as long as your mother-in-law is literate, you should quickly carry out computer literacy for her, so that the old lady can be fashionable, and secondly, you can finally have the opportunity to educate her.

Although it may be a little bitter and tiring, you will soon find that it feels good to be trusted by her. While her mother-in-law broadens her horizons, she will naturally be grateful to you, increase her usual entertainment and divert her attention. How can she find time to pick your shortcomings?

we have all seen it on TV, and many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law exist? Hatred as deep as the sea? The contradiction. In fact, it is very simple to resolve this contradiction! And don't forget, both of them have the same link: the man. Sometimes, when tit-for-tat is necessary, it is also a good practice to lubricate it through a middleman. Since the two families are the intersection of this man, it should be incumbent on him to help ease the contradiction between the two sides.