The most precious part of books is the way of thinking that is different from our intuition and instinct.

People who read a lot don't just talk a lot. Faced with the same fact, they can also turn all kinds of "psychological devices" in their minds and release all kinds of "elves" to stand around the fact. They can see a more three-dimensional and complex world. Those who don't study are at a loss about it.

Give up details and only look at the outline; Shielding keen perception and reinterpreting everything with "dull perception".

In the face of other people's problems, some people are worried, some people don't care much, and some people turn a blind eye. People's feelings are different, but it is very clear that only by ignoring all kinds of unpleasant problems and treating them calmly can we live a cheerful and generous life.

People who succeed in all walks of life certainly have talent, but behind their talent, there must be a useful sense of dullness.

Good and evil are only between thoughts, and the difference between thoughts is only between square inches. No matter what we see on the surface, if we can't trace the motives of others and understand their situation, our moral judgment will inevitably turn pale.

We always imagine the ending. But after the ending, there will always be another ending.

When we see an insect, we immediately think of its main features and then classify it-it is a fly. In this cognitive experience, some beautiful things have also been lost. Once we label the things around us, we don't want to observe them carefully. Language is a part of our rational self, and giving it up temporarily is to give our intuitive self a more free space.

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A good strategy is not to let us win in a specific game, but to let us have more choices.

The same is true of reading. It may not make you successful, but it does give you more choices.

Going to a strange place, lying on paper or sightseeing on the spot, we all have a purpose-to go beyond our original life.

The "self" is invisible. Only when you hit something and bounce back, will you understand "self".

Many times, we are really a "container of concepts and ideas". Therefore, it is said that Dostoevsky wrote a sentence: "Love concrete people, not abstract people; Love life, not the meaning of life. "

There's too much information. Only by ignoring the process, details and feelings of things and thinking with labels can we maintain inner peace and not be overwhelmed by the heavy burden of knowledge.

There is a saying: "The dust of an era falls on a person's head, which is a mountain." The reverse is also true: a mountain of the times may be nothing more than a grain of ash in the eyes of individuals.

It is also a feasible way to resist the trend of simplification and labeling of the world through reading. Going back to the specific person and seeing the real, complex and multidimensional world through his eyes is the opportunity brought by reading.

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Meaning, not so mysterious, is just to find something bigger than yourself, "something bigger than yourself" and then put yourself in it.

Civilization obtains meaning through "historical precedent"; Individuals gain meaning through "personality template".

Because of Tao Yuanming, all frustrated China people in later generations, whether passively frustrated or voluntarily resigning, can come and sit down next to Tao Yuanming's name when they are bored, and talk with him, listening to him say, "Picking chrysanthemums under the hedge, leisurely seeing Nanshan" or "Going back and forth, the countryside will be destroyed in Hu Bugui". From then on, we in China knew that apart from a successful career, people could have another direction to work hard: try their best to blend into the mountains and rivers and live an ordinary and interesting life.

Tao Yuanming is just a small example. Most of our reading is actually collecting such personality templates. With them in our hearts, no matter what challenges we encounter, we will never feel lonely.

A person who loves reading can benefit from books in two ways.

One is to learn the knowledge from books and then turn it into the competitiveness of the real world; The other is to gain meaningful resources by perceiving historical precedents and personality templates, integrate yourself into a larger community, find allies, and gain strength.

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The so-called "optimization" is the quantitative management of things. Without quantification, there is no optimization.

Everyone's advice is poison and everyone's experience is a treasure.

What is useful is not abstract truth, but concrete action instructions.

A well-written "proposal for action" is always compassionate. It will know the real situation of readers, and then embed specific action instructions in these real situations.

Action suggestion is not important, what is important is that it should be embedded in the real scene of the person who listens to the suggestion.

The same is true of a good book, which gives us confidence and accompanies us to the end of the road.

As long as human beings take action, they will create an event. As long as there is an event, it will definitely produce results. And this result will definitely exceed the predictions and expectations before the action. This is how the world rolls forward in human actions, constantly producing unexpected new things.

The definition of "common sense" by knowledgeable experts is often quite different from that of ordinary people. It's easy for children to take their professional knowledge in their research field as common sense and ask them to master it. "How can they not understand this?" Therefore, the expert's "common sense" is a handful of dust, which is a mountain on the head of ordinary children.

"A writer's influence on another writer is just like the influence of sunlight on trees. It's the same, but it's important that trees are receiving nutrition from the sun. They grow in the form of trees, not in the form of sunlight. Don't be afraid of influence. All the influences will only make you more and more like yourself, not like others. "

Let the wonderful characters fully influence ourselves, and we will only become more and more like ourselves, not like others.

The brain is a miracle of biology. But like other parts of us, it likes to be lazy and will choose the path of least resistance when possible. To this end, the brain will degrade some processes or even skip some processes to save energy. This means that the brain always likes to take shortcuts to avoid considering every detail. In real life, the brain will be perfunctory, causing us to make mistakes every day.

All good things are close to the goal in twists and turns, and all straightness is deceptive.

Reading can improve people's minds, isn't it because those beautiful words can write what is in their hearts into human affairs and ordinary things that happen in the universe?

Enjoyment is the sensory acceptance of external stimuli; Interest and hobby are more ways to grasp the world and form an "interest-ability" cycle.

Love music, have you ever specialized in a musical instrument? You love food, have you ever improved your cooking skills? As you love traveling, have you ever studied the history and scenery of a place? You love movies, have you ever tried to shoot or edit videos? If you have tried, you are already on the road of "hobby". If you haven't tried it, then you are just an ordinary entertainment consumer.

It is generally believed that the best time in life is the moment when the heart is carefree, the feeling is sharpest and completely relaxed, but this is not the case. Although we may feel happy at these times, the happiest moment is usually when a person works hard for a difficult task and exerts his physical and intellectual abilities to the extreme.

In the most unforgettable competition, a swimmer may feel sore muscles, his lungs almost burst, and he may be so tired that he almost fainted-but this may be the most wonderful moment of his life. It is not easy to control life, sometimes it is simply a kind of pain, but the best experience accumulated over time will converge into a sense of control-more appropriately, a sense of participation that can decide the connotation of life by itself-which is the closest we can imagine to the so-called "happiness".

On the positive side, "pain" and "boredom" are not bad things. They're all signals from God-

If it hurts, it means that we should do something useful quickly to get resources and relieve the pain.

If we are bored, it means that we should do something interesting quickly.

Boredom is not the end of a tired life, but a prelude to a new journey.

A casual "idiot" and "bad guy" actually hurt our own ability to obtain intellectual resources from the outside world.

Human nature is constant. A generation living in prosperity, security and progress can't stand the sudden self-attack of the dark side of human nature.

When suffering comes, it usually doesn't look like a disaster. It will attack little by little, imperceptibly make people see a little hope, and then push out the most unbearable side of human nature little by little.

Are the fruits of our personality development worth those people suffering for us?

Many sad things are even more uncomfortable, because we think we have suffered such pain alone.

We think our worries are a curse or reveal our evil and despicable nature. In this way, our suffering has no dignity at all, but is a punishment for our bad nature.

We need help to find glory in the worst experiences, and art can make these experiences socially expressed.

Only by raising sadness to the whole human experience and making it a kind of public welfare can individual sadness gain dignity.

What we see today is only the daily life of our predecessors.

The result of reading is not to remember any information, but to be able to see those you admire, feel their situation, feel happy for them, admire them, cry for them, and let them live in their own world from now on. Every time we have such a personality in our life, we will take a step towards a better self.

By reading and then calling the "personality reserve" in our minds, the answers to these questions are not difficult to imagine.

Descartes famously said, "I think, therefore I am." In fact, we can also use this meaning in reverse.

When a person's personality exists in our world, he is helping us to think. Most of the time, he doesn't have to really talk. He's here, so he thinks.

The decision to choose is more about location. Therefore, calling the personality model in the brain is also doing a thinking experiment-forcibly switching yourself to someone else's position and then imagining what you should do.

Seek the help of "personality", even if you don't rely on others, it is enough to have yourself. More precisely, imagine yourself in different situations.

Suppose you are a parent, you are scolding your children, and you are angry. At this time, a conical question appeared: Are you really angry? You may say, I'm confused about childishness, but I'm angry. Then let's assume a situation: the child's class teacher suddenly calls. When you answer the phone, can you immediately hold back your anger and calm down?

You can control your temper when facing the teacher, because you will naturally change your emotional state. And you can't hold it in front of the children, just because you think you have power in your hands.

There is a very interesting way of thinking called "10 plus 10 plus 10 thinking model". This means that when we make a decision, we need to imagine three other selves: 10 minutes later, 10 months later and 10 years later. Imagine what they will think of the current events.

One day at 1985, Andy Grove and Gordon Moore, two founders of Intel, had a very interesting conversation.

I still remember one day in 1985. We have been wandering aimlessly for a year. On this day, I talked with Gordon Moore, Chairman and CEO of Intel Corporation, about our predicament in my office.

I looked out of the window. In the distance, the ferris wheel of the Great American Amusement Park is spinning.

I turned to Gordon and asked, "What do you think he would do if we were kicked out of the board and they found a new CEO?" Gordon hesitated and replied, "He will give up the memory business."

I stared at him and said, "Why don't you and I walk out this door and come back and do it ourselves?"

If we find some things difficult, it is only because we have too many unnecessary burdens. At this time, if you change the perspective of a stranger, you can go into battle lightly.

Through reading, we can enter the kaleidoscope-like magical world. The body is as quiet as the slowest plant, and the mind runs like the wildest animal.

In this way, we have reached the ideal distance from words.