It is often said that the three most painful things in life are "the loss of a father in a teenager, a spouse in middle age and a child in old age". Alan's younger brother, Arvin, experienced these pains in turn, and the two brothers and sisters became the dependence of each other for life.
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When Alan was 6 years old, his mother gave birth to a younger brother. My brother's name is Arvin. He is a child of bad karma. Not long after she was born, my mother got a strange disease. In that era of lack of medical care and medicine, when people were sick, they were often close to each other. It would be nice if they could get through it, but there was nothing they could do.
Dad is a carpenter, and he is busy working all day, just to support his wife and children. The 8-year-old sister shouldered the laundry, cooking and other work done by the hostess. Alan feeds food and water before the bed, carries excrement and urine, and takes care of his mother wholeheartedly.
When the villagers saw it, they all secretly wiped their tears and sighed, "Pity these babies". Mother's illness is getting worse every day, and my brother can't eat milk. Every day, my sister and Alan hold their younger brother to a family with a nursing baby in the village to beg for milk for him, often after eating this meal.
Therefore, whenever I recall, Alan will say with emotion, "Awen grew up eating hundreds of meals." A few months later, my mother died.
Without enough milk from snacks and mother's care, Awen has always been weak. Alan and his sister took on the task of taking care of their younger brother. Although they try their best to look after their younger brother, they are all children under 1 years old after all.
The two sisters like Awen very much, so they are always willing to kiss Awen's cheek. Over time, Awen has a drooling problem, commonly known as "saliva".
Perhaps because of his poor health, Awen has been quieter than other boys since he was a child, and he is always willing to follow his sisters and enjoy the feeling of being protected by them. Both sisters are very sensible, they take on all the housework and never let their father worry.
When Awen was 7 years old, his father asked him to go to an old gentleman's house in the village, which was the only private school in the village. Awen likes going to school very much, but it doesn't last long. Just two years later, the old man fell ill and died soon. There is no place to go to school in the village.
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When the children are a little older, dad works as a carpenter and sometimes goes out to work. The children of the poor are in charge as early as possible. When Awen is ten years old, his father will take him with him when he goes out to work. My father wants Awen to do whatever he can, mainly because he wants to pass on his skills to him, so that he can have a skill to make a living in the future.
once, my father took arvin to work in a rich family dozens of miles away, and even ate and lived for two months. A rich family has a child named Afu. He has a special teacher. Every day, besides teaching him to recite something, he also teaches him to write in Chinese calligraphy.
Ah Wen is about the same age as Ah Fu. When they were both resting, Ah Fu begged Ah Wen to make him a wooden pistol, and they soon got to know each other.
Sometimes, when Ah Fu hasn't finished practicing his calligraphy, Ah Wen will watch him write with envy. He also took a wooden stick to learn from Ah Fu's gestures. Every time I see such a scene, my father's heart is very unpleasant. Make up your mind secretly, earn some money, and find him a teacher.
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It's time for elder sister to find her husband's family. In the same village, Awang asked people to act as matchmakers. Dad felt that Awang was lazy and had no special skills, so it was difficult to support his family. At first, he didn't agree to this marriage, but Awang's family was relatively rich. When he promised to give a sum of money, his father wavered.
Elder sister doesn't like Ngawang at all, but it was the words of my parents' matchmaker in those days. Although there is no mother, I still have to listen to my father. While the elder sister continues to worry about the whole family and play the role of mother for her siblings, she also loses no time in telling her father that she doesn't want to marry Awang.
She said to her father, "I don't want to get married, especially with him. I would rather take care of my brothers and sisters at home all my life. " But dad said, "My brother needs to study, boys have to study, and we have no money."
My elder sister loves her younger brother deeply, and since she found a nurse for her younger brother, she treated him like her own life. Now, for her younger brother, she is at the crossroads of choice. She is asking herself: "Do I need to exchange my marriage for my brother's study life?"
That's true. "The hardest thing in life is not the struggle, but the choice."