Commandment 28 Taking Care of Yourself and Dating in College If you’re heading off to college soon, we want to help save you four years of heartache.

Here are seven mistakes you can’t make, and now the commandments will become part of your “required course”.

1. Don’t check his class schedule or follow him around campus in the hope that he will eventually notice you.

It's good exercise, but don't bother, he either notices you or he never will.

2. Don’t hang around in restaurants hoping to catch a glimpse of him, only to end up gaining a lot of weight.

(Do you really just want to spend your college life sitting in the cafeteria wondering “when is so-and-so going to walk in?”) 3. Don’t let your female best friend ask his best friend what he thinks of you

How does it feel, maybe he doesn’t even know who you are.

And don't become good friends with his best friends or roommates.

(Don’t waste your time, no one can make him love you, not even his college classmates.) 4. Don’t find his favorite records or CDs and play them all the time, and don’t wear his favorite rock band T-shirts

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(It’s weird that women think men like women who dress like them—sportswear or something a little grungy, when in fact it’s girls wearing cute jeans and trendy shirts that really win a man’s heart.) According to the Commandments

, your clothing is not to imitate men, but to attract men.

5. Don't be a cheerleader or a sports fan just because he's on the football team.

The same goes for smoking or drinking, don't just do it just because he does it.

Many women we know who drank mineral water on dates with boyfriends who smoked and drank are now married.

If it's a matter of habit, it's better to stick to your own principles.

6. Don't help him with his homework and expect him to date you, and don't help him write a literary report on Shakespeare, especially if he's not good at it.

He may want to date you, he may not, but don't force it.

7. Don’t be fooled into thinking that dating is safe. Date rapes are happening frequently in schools these days.

Be careful. It is better to study in a public hall or library than to study alone with him in a dormitory or an apartment off campus.

Tell your friends where you are going every time before going out, so that they can find your whereabouts.

A law-abiding girl takes no chances and don’t ignore the seriousness of date rape!

Now that you know what not to do, what should you do to attract men on campus?

1. Study hard. After all, this is the purpose of going to college. Being smart is sexy in itself!

2. Reasonable diet.

Even if your friends invite you to an all-you-can-eat buffet or order pizza delivered to your dormitory in the middle of the night, don’t be tempted. We recommend eating fruit as a midnight snack.

While eating pizza at a party, tell yourself that your jeans will still fit in tomorrow.

Remember, being overweight is against the law.

3. Wear makeup.

Read Komenbodin and other popular magazines.

4. Join some extracurricular activities, preferably clubs that interest you, where you can meet men naturally.

5. Don’t stay alone in your room reading Saudi Arabia on Friday and Saturday nights.

Saturday night is a great time to socialize, save Saudi for Monday.

6. You should be proficient in the subject you major in and have a career goal.

While you'll likely meet your future husband on campus, college is about more than earning a "Mrs. So-and-so" degree.

So you still need to use your head, not just for yourself but for him.

Don't be a fool.

Commandment 29 Next Steps and Dealing with Rejected Commandments Life is not always fair.

Fortunately, the commandments ensure that you avoid harm from men.

When getting along with men according to the commandments: you are independent and busy, not aggressive, not pestering, and will not put yourself in a vulnerable situation.

However, we can't make certain men like us, or prevent a man from meeting someone he likes better and dumping us, and we can't stop his ex-girlfriend from winning him back, so what do you do when you get dumped?

Maybe our natural reaction is to freeze, withdraw, wish we were dead, not wash our hair or put on makeup, cry, fall asleep, listen to plaintive love songs, and swear we'll never meet someone as perfect as him again.

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Maybe we can find comfort in what’s in the refrigerator, or talk about him endlessly with friends.

Obviously, this is ridiculous, allowing yourself to behave like this for two days and then having to stand up again and start over.

The secret recipe for dealing with rejection is to wear a new dress and some pretty makeup.

Follow that up with another party, or a bachelor's dance.

Tell your friends that you are now available on a blind date or with a man you have never met.

I hope you followed the commandments until the breakup, so that your calendar will be filled with other appointments.

Don’t, unless the ring is already on your finger, or you are already his unique girlfriend - the so-called unique means that he is serious about marrying you, it is just a matter of time, rather than waiting for a horse.

Another better girl comes along - otherwise you should just keep dating someone else.