A woman complained to the host that her husband lost 3 million in business. Although she found a job again, she always fished for three days and dried her net for two days. They can't communicate with each other. My husband always avoids the topic of entrepreneurial failure and quarrels whenever he talks about it. The relationship between two people is deadlocked: the man is frustrated, the woman complains repeatedly and there is no hope.

She doesn't know what she should do.

Her confusion is an unavoidable problem for many families who have failed to start a business. In this era of promoting entrepreneurship for all, many people have devoted themselves to this tide. But it is also a bloody reality that there are successes and failures in starting a business, with few winners and many losers.

After a family fails to start a business, the blow is sometimes a disaster, and the first thing to bear is a big or small threat to marriage.

What women did in the Battle of Waterloo will affect the overall situation of a family to some extent.

Tamia Liu, a famous actress, also experienced the bankruptcy of her husband Kelly.

It was in 2008-2009, when the global financial crisis broke out, Kelly's business abroad was hit hard. From then on, this high-spirited person began to be depressed and fell into a desperate cage of business failure, friends turning against each other and betrayal.

In those dark days, Kelly stubbornly isolated herself from the world. No matter how good the sunshine outside is, he also lives in his own darkness, making his life as cold as an ancient tomb.

No matter in Beijing or Los Angeles, he shut himself in a dark bedroom, feeling depressed and sleepy all day. I swallowed sleeping pills when I couldn't sleep, and once I swallowed more than 20 sleeping pills. Don't go out, eat less, and fight the world in a negative way.

Tamia Liu's heart is full of pain. She had a nervous breakdown, even approaching despair.

But she still chose to radiate all her strength. Since there is no light in her husband's life, she will turn herself into a beam of light to illuminate his world.

She said: since I chose him, I won't give him up.

While secretly replacing her husband's sleeping pills with vitamins and alternative medicines, she gave her husband great spiritual encouragement: we will love you forever and will not give up on you. Take him to see the mountains and rivers, even if she is pregnant.

Later, Kelly completely walked out of that difficult time. In Weibo, he often thanked Tamia Liu for her persistence and for saving himself with wisdom and warmth.

My friend Xiaoying is also such a woman.

Her husband lost a lot of money in business three years ago, with a debt of 1.6 thousand. At that time, they had just been married for more than two years, which was tantamount to a disaster for a newly established small family, and the whole family was overcast.

Her husband used to drink in the dark every day, and a young man suddenly suffered this disaster. How can he stick it out? Xiaoying doesn't know.

She knows that it is useless to rely on her own efforts, and she can only supplement her family at most. She worked harder, but she never gave up her trust and love for her husband.

Afraid of her husband doing something stupid, she asked her mother-in-law to take care of her. After dragging her tired body home at night, she carefully prepared delicious meals for her husband, replacing white wine with beer and finally with red wine. This process is a bit long, but she is very patient. She has always believed that one day her husband will stand up again and shoulder this family for her.

Every time she meets someone who wants to pay the bill, she is afraid that her husband who has drunk will have a conflict with them, so she rushes to the front to put in a good word for the creditors. She always promises: we don't have money now, so we don't want it, but we won't deny it. Our mobile phones won't change their numbers or run away. When we have money, we will pay it back.

Thanks to her husband, he is always brave and upright, and she has a group of good brothers. Xiaoying wants to help her husband get back to normal with the help of these people, so she often invites them to come home, have a light meal and talk about home. In the end, all these friends gathered firewood, not only paid off their debts, but also helped their husband set up a home improvement company and bought an Audi the next year. Now the annual income is nearly 10 million.

At a party, Xiaoying's husband drank wine, and he felt a lot: if she hadn't insisted all the time in the most difficult time, I would definitely not be here today.

Xiaoying's mouth tilted slightly and she breathed a long sigh of relief. Surely it is worried, too? That unforgettable past made Xiaoying and her husband closer.

Adversity is a true friend, and adversity also tests a woman's wisdom and courage. When disaster strikes, how a woman treats her husband will, to a certain extent, determine whether her husband can face the disaster and get out of the predicament.

Tamia Liu did it, Xiaoying did it, and so did my mother-in-law.

My mother-in-law is a housewife. She never went to work for a day in her life, and she never got a penny back for her family. My father-in-law described my mother-in-law like this, but he still had a second sentence: but she is a great hero of this family. She worked hard and brought up two children, especially in those years when I worked outside and couldn't go home all the year round. This is all her own busy work outside.

Six years ago, my father-in-law and others were cheated to build a road, and the partner took back the project money and went up in smoke, leaving my father-in-law to bear the cost of materials, workers' wages and bank loans alone. The sky was falling.

My father-in-law sold the house and borrowed it everywhere. It took three years, and the interest alone was more than 2 million.

I remember the year before the Chinese New Year, the creditors came to collect debts, and the husband and wife echoed, one crying and one pressing, but they had no choice but to borrow a dime from usury.

My mother-in-law has never complained and accused her of such bad luck. She was only secretly sad, but she never showed it in front of her father-in-law. She knows that she is not the kind of working woman and can't help her financially, but she silently takes care of everything at home, without nagging, abandonment or blame.

Three years later, my father-in-law who made a comeback often told us about her mother-in-law's kindness: "Your mother is not like some other women. After her career failed, she scolded men, which made them even more unbearable."

Mother-in-law confided at this moment: "Your father fell asleep every day at that time, and his brow was frowning, but I could only look at it with distress, but nothing could be helped."

In fact, her complaint, blame and nagging are the greatest support, and her silence and gentleness are also a kind of strength.

Starting a business is not easy. There are few successful men, and most men can't make big money. In the face of her husband's failure to start a business, what role a woman plays at this time is the key for a man to save or recover. All smart women choose never to give up, face up to difficulties, firmly believe that he will eventually be strong and reborn, and spend the difficulties with her husband in their own unique way: you lose, I accompany you to make a comeback, you win, and I accompany you to the world.

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