Some parents may not be too demanding and picky about the future son-in-law's appearance and family background, but they are more concerned about academic qualifications and career development prospects. So they visit you in the hope that you can continue to study and improve and reach a higher degree. Or pursue something in career, eager to achieve something. If you are ambitious in these two aspects and really work hard, then they will think you are a useful material, have confidence in your future, and entrust your daughter to you, and they will feel at ease.
"Uncle, aunt, the body also good? A while ago, I went to work during the day and prepared for the postgraduate entrance examination at night. I'm too busy. I can still take time to see you after the exam these two days. You won't be surprised, will you? " "Our Academy of Sciences is conducting a major technical research, and I signed up. When I graduate, I can join the technical research team. The members of this research team are the most experienced experts and technicians in the Academy of Sciences, and I think I can certainly learn a lot of useful knowledge and experience from them. Uncle and aunt, what do you think? "
Some parents are Mr. Nice guy themselves, and they will definitely nod. They are content and ask for nothing, even for a son-in-law, as long as he has a healthy body and a pure heart. Marry his daughter to him. I hope he can be considerate. Being a good husband can satisfy such parents. For parents of this psychological type, as long as you have enough words to express how much you love their daughter when you visit for the first time, you will take good care of their daughter in the future, so that they will have no worries.
"Uncle, aunt, hello!
"Although I haven't known xx for 1 month, it seems a little presumptuous to visit you now, but I think xx is a very good girl, and her parents must be very good, so I can't help visiting you. You don't blame me for not being sensible, do you? In six days, it will be xx24' s birthday. This year is her birth year, so we must celebrate it. On Pingping's birthday, my parents and I are going to invite your whole family to have a potluck in the food city. One is to celebrate Pingping's birthday, and the other is to get together with your parents, so that we can always take care of each other and become more relatives. what do you think? "
In less than 1 month of love, it seems too rash to invite the woman's parents to meet them, but in their view, it is really difficult to be infatuated with you. Although in their eyes, you may still be a little childish, but your sincere and responsible attitude will make them like it, and at the same time, you also show your carefulness and thoughtfulness, and they generally won't make you too embarrassed.
For parents who have only one daughter or have daughters but no sons, they are generally reluctant to marry their daughters and become other people's families. They expect their daughter to provide for the elderly, and naturally hope that their son-in-law is their half son. In addition, there has been no heavy work on weekdays, so I hope my son-in-law is diligent, discerning and willing to bear hardships. If you don't have the conditions to live together, it's best to come and go often, so as not to make my parents lonely and helpless, so they often pay more attention to these aspects when choosing a son-in-law. If you take a fancy to the daughters of such a family, you must be psychologically prepared in this respect, and at the same time try to leave them with the impression of diligence, simplicity and composure. If you can please them, you will benefit a lot, because they will regard you as their own son. Although you have made some efforts and physical strength, you will get far more than what you have paid, and you are the real master of this family. Therefore, when visiting such a family for the first time, it is best to talk less and do more, observe words and deeds, and try to display your skills in housework and manual labor. Let them fully feel that having you is different from not having you.
"Uncle, aunt, hello! I heard from xx that my aunt was not feeling well recently, so I came back to see you with xx. For people your age, if you have any minor ailments, you'd better go to the hospital for a good examination and treatment instead of carrying them all the time. My mother knows a good doctor. I'll take you to have a good check when I'm free. Don't worry. "
"Winter is coming, it is better to take nothing today. I'll buy you something warm. "
As can be seen from the above example, to visit such a family, first of all, don't be a stranger, treat yourself sincerely and truly as a member of her family, and they will certainly welcome you.
Some parents are vain. They don't ask for the talent of their future son-in-law, but they care about money very much. In their subconscious, they hope to make money for themselves through their daughter's "cash cow" and show off in front of their neighbors. For such parents, if you really have financial strength, you might as well satisfy their vanity. If you don't have strong financial resources, you can be generous and buy some gifts for the first time. At the same time, you insinuate that although you have no money now, you may be rich in the future, which will make them look forward to your future economic strength. Plus, you are still young, and you may really get rich. You won't flatly refuse your daughter to associate with you just because you are a poor boy. Therefore, you must make a confession in this respect.
"Uncle, aunt, hello! Please accept a little token of my appreciation. I don't know if you like it or not? " "xx is a very good girl, and I like her very much. Unlike other girls, she doesn't value her boyfriend's character, but only money. I just graduated from college and am poor now, but this is only temporary. I will try my best to change all this. "
If you handle it this way, your girlfriend will think you are great and proud of you. She has been on tenterhooks, but now she is finally relieved.
Before meeting your girlfriend's parents, you can ask her to provide you with some internal information in advance, such as what her parents are, what hobbies or specialties they have, and especially whether they have any hobbies. Then choose a main topic according to different situations, and make more preparations around this topic, so as to master and understand these knowledge and contents and facilitate improvisation and love.
It is not appropriate to meet the woman's parents;
Many young people think that the most important thing in this situation is to be smart and capable, so they deliberately show their extraordinary ambitions, far better than their peers, and almost sell themselves, thinking that they can win the favor of the elderly. In fact, this is all wet.
You have to understand that in front of an elder, too clever words and deeds may not win the favor. Ordinary young people are frivolous and arrogant, but they are just too smart. Talent and wisdom must be revealed intentionally or unintentionally in order to win people's admiration, and intentional disclosure is bound to be frivolous.
The elders like you to be smart, but they don't want you to be smart enough to be complacent. They like talents, but they don't just pay lip service to them. You must understand that the ideals of the elderly are somewhat different from those of the young. If they want to choose a son-in-law, they don't have to put on airs, they have to be steady and reliable.
PS: Everything will be fine in the end. There is no scheduled topic. Just sincerely emphasize that you can give their daughter happiness and have a responsibility to their daughter. Don't talk too much, leave room, and make sure they feel your sincerity and really love their daughter. Remember: be true and sincere. Dress appropriately and talk generously, without hypocrisy or affectation. Gift is the key, and the first impression depends on it. Must have been carefully prepared and selected with my girlfriend.