A woman complained to the host that her husband lost 3 million yuan after starting a business. Although she found a job again, she always fished for three days and dried her net for two days. They can't communicate with each other. My husband always avoids the topic of entrepreneurial failure and quarrels whenever he talks about it. The relationship between the two people is deadlocked: the man is depressed, the woman complains repeatedly and there is no hope.

She doesn't know what she should do.

Her confusion is an unavoidable problem for many families who have failed to start a business. In this era of promoting entrepreneurship for all, many people have devoted themselves to this tide. But there are successes and failures in starting a business, with few winners and many losers, which is also a bloody reality.

After a family fails to start a business, the blow is sometimes a disaster, and the first thing to bear is the threat to marriage.

What women did in the Battle of Waterloo will affect the overall situation of a family to some extent.

Tamia Liu, a famous actress, also experienced the bankruptcy of her husband Kelly.

At that time, in 2008-2009, the global financial crisis broke out and Kelly's overseas business was hit hard. From then on, the high-spirited man began to get depressed and fell into a desperate cage of business failure, friends turning against each other and cronies betraying.

In those dark days, Kelly stubbornly isolated herself from the world. No matter how good the sunshine outside is, he lives in his own darkness, making his life as cool as an ancient tomb.

Whether in Beijing or Los Angeles, he shut himself in a dark bedroom, feeling depressed and sleepy all day. I swallowed sleeping pills when I couldn't sleep, and once I swallowed more than 20 sleeping pills. Don't go out, eat less and face the world in a negative way.

Tamia Liu's heart is full of pain. She collapsed, even approaching despair.

But she still chose to go all out. Since there is no light in her husband's life, she will turn herself into a beam of light to illuminate his world.

She said: since I chose him, I won't give him up.

While secretly replacing her husband's sleeping pills with vitamins and alternative drugs, she gave her husband great spiritual encouragement: we will love you forever and will not give up on you. Take him to see the mountains, rivers, lakes and seas, even if she is pregnant.

Later, Kelly completely walked out of that difficult time. In Weibo, he often thanked Tamia Liu for her persistence and for saving himself with wisdom and warmth.

My friend Xiaoying is also such a woman.

Her husband lost a lot of money in business three years ago, and his debt exceeded 65438+600,000 pounds. At that time, they had just been married for more than two years, which was tantamount to a disaster for a newly established small family, and the whole family was overcast.

Her husband used to drink in the dark every day, and a young man suddenly suffered this disaster. How can he stick it out? Xiaoying doesn't know.

She knows that it is useless to rely on her own efforts, and she can only supplement her family at most. She worked harder, but she never gave up her trust and love for her husband.

She was afraid that her husband would do something stupid, so she called her mother-in-law to help take care of her. After dragging her tired body home at night, she carefully prepared delicious meals for her husband, replacing white wine with beer and finally red wine. This process is a bit long, but she is very patient. She has always believed that one day her husband will stand up again and shoulder this family for her.

Every time she meets someone who wants to pay the bill, she is afraid that her husband who has drunk will conflict with them, so she rushes to the front to put in a good word for the creditors. She always promises: we have no money now, so we don't want it, but we won't deny it. Our mobile phones won't change their numbers or run away. When we have money, we will definitely pay it back.

Thanks to her husband, he is always brave and just. She has a group of good brothers. Xiaoying wants to help her husband return to a normal life with the help of these people, so she often invites them to come home, have a light meal and talk about home. Finally, all these friends collected firewood, not only paid off their debts, but also helped their husbands set up a home improvement company and bought an Audi the next year. Today, the annual income is nearly 10 million.

At a party, Xiaoying's husband drank wine, and he felt a lot: if she hadn't persisted in the most difficult time, I wouldn't be here today.

Xiaoying's mouth rose slightly, and she breathed a long sigh of relief. Surely it is worried, too? That unforgettable past made Xiaoying and her husband closer.

Adversity is a true friend, and adversity also tests a woman's wisdom and courage. When disaster strikes, how a woman treats her husband will, to a certain extent, determine whether her husband can face the disaster and get out of the predicament.

Tamia Liu did it, Xiaoying did it, and so did my mother-in-law.

My mother-in-law is a housewife. She never went to work for a day in her life and didn't get a penny back for her family. My father-in-law described my mother-in-law like this, but he also had a second sentence: But she is the great hero of this family. She worked hard and brought up two children, especially in those years when I worked outside and couldn't go home all the year round. This is all her own busy work outside.

Six years ago, my father-in-law and others were cheated when building roads. The partners withdrew the project money without a trace, leaving my father-in-law to bear the material money, workers' wages and bank loans alone. At that time, the sky collapsed.

My father-in-law sold the house and borrowed it everywhere. It took three years, and the interest alone was more than 2 million.

I remember that one year before the Spring Festival, the creditor came to collect debts, and the husband and wife echoed each other from afar. One cried and pressed, but in desperation, they borrowed a dime loan shark.

My mother-in-law never complained and accused her of bad luck. She was only secretly sad, but she never showed it in front of her father-in-law. She knows that she is not the kind of working woman and can't help her financially, but she silently takes care of everything at home without nagging, abandoning or accusing.

Three years later, my father-in-law who made a comeback often told us about her mother-in-law's kindness: "Unlike some other women, your mother scolded men after her career failed, which made them even more unbearable."

Mother-in-law revealed her heart at this moment: "Your father fell asleep every day during that time, frowning, and I could only watch in distress, but there was nothing I could do."

In fact, her failure to complain, criticize and nag is the greatest support, and her silence and gentleness are also a kind of strength.

Starting a business is not easy. There are few successful men, and most men can't make big money. In the face of her husband's failure to start a business, what role a woman plays at this time is the key to a man's recovery or recovery. All smart women choose never to give up, and face up to difficulties, firmly believing that he will eventually be strong and reborn, and spend the difficulties with her husband in his own unique way: you lose, I accompany you to make a comeback, you win, and I accompany you to the world.

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