Life is never easy. There are always various ups and downs and troubles. Many people will succumb to setbacks and bend to reality, constantly suppressing their desires and rounding off their edges. Hiding in the comfort zone and spending time in mediocrity will end your life hastily.
But there is always another kind of person in life, who never takes things lightly with life and himself, just like a sunflower, trying to grow towards the sunshine, as if there is never any gloom in his heart, and he is always full of positive power.
When I was in college, my roommate Xiao Dan had an average appearance. He had neat short hair at that time, and his clothes were simple and simple like those of rural children. The inferiority complex of rural children like me.
She is meticulous in her work. No matter how fast she writes, she will ensure that her handwriting is neat and her academic performance remains at the top of her grade. Every step she takes is extremely practical and determined. She can join the club at least to the ministerial level. She is re-elected as the league secretary in the class, and as the class monitor, she becomes an effective counselor. Her personality charm always conquers people invisibly. People around you. I often wonder why Xiao Dan is so strong. He can easily obtain things that others may not be able to obtain even after several times of effort, and he can prosper wherever he goes.
We once talked about our future life in a corner of the campus. I said that I only wanted to go to Beijing in the future, and there was no specific reason for it. Beijing was the only city I was familiar with, but Xiaodan said that she had never thought about it. If you want to go to a big city like Beijing, as long as you have a suitable job, you will be safe and stable for the rest of your life.
She always has an aura of stability and aloofness, and she feels as if positive energy is always flowing in her heart, so she keeps working hard toward the bamboo.
As graduation approached, many companies came to our school to recruit. Once, a large-scale job fair was held in the school activity center. All the prospective graduates from the school gathered here, and the originally empty and spacious place was packed with people.
There is a booth for each company. Behind the booth is a roll-up banner introducing the company's background and recruitment requirements. There are three or five recruiters standing in front of the booth. We can't count how many companies there are, but we can only remember the scene. Just like a market, no, more crowded than a market. Everyone holds a stack of resumes and submits them hopefully to companies that meet the requirements.
Halfway through, the four of us in the dormitory found that it was so crowded that we could not move forward or backward. It was so dull and crowded that it was suffocating, as if the boat was moored in the middle of the sea and could not move forward or backward. At this time, Xiao Dan held us by the hand. One of them used his immature shoulders to create a gap and stumbled through the sea of ??people in one go. As a follower from behind, I felt the strength in her hands and the energy in her body to push forward, and I couldn't help but feel admiration and envy for her.
At that time, I felt that as long as Xiao Dan wanted to do it, there was nothing she couldn't do. She might not have a long-term plan, and she didn't know where the ultimate goal was, but there was always an upward force in her heart. Be present in the moment at all times, do what you think is right in your heart, look toward the sun, and strive to grow.
My cousin dropped out of school before graduating from junior high school due to family difficulties. She went to Qingdao to study cosmetology at a young age. While others were still studying in school, she started running for a living.
My cousin is very beautiful and good at dressing up. It may have something to do with the industry she is engaged in. She is very particular about dressing and makeup. She once spent several thousand to get a hairdressing membership card. My cousin has done this more than once She told me that she didn't know how to live a good life, but I was very envious of her casual life, where she could earn as much as she could spend.
She is now twenty-four or five years old. In rural areas, a young man of this age would be considered an older leftover before she got married. Her family is worried about her and has entrusted many people to find matchmakers for her. In rural areas, a young man of this age She has been married for a long time and even has children. Everyone thinks that the conditions are about the same and they ask her to stop being so picky, but she doesn't want to, and even after several blind dates, they failed.
Some time ago, it was said that she had a conversation with a friend online, but the conversation failed once in person. In her words, she just didn't have the same language. She said: "I'm not in a hurry anymore. A lifetime of happiness cannot be compromised casually."
My mother once advised her: "Nier, the boy I introduced to you is really good. Why don't you want to do it? He is still a college student. After all, you are uneducated and can't be so picky." She said with a smile: "I just don't feel it, Auntie, I just don't have a diploma, but I still have some culture, haha..."
Her words are not false. Although she dropped out of school prematurely, she has since worked. , she has been insisting on reading. As long as she has time, she will pick up books and continuously improve her cultural literacy. She does not want to succumb to fate and feels that she has lost the opportunity to learn knowledge in school, but books can be read by everyone. , there are many books on her desk that I have never read.
She has a cheerful personality, loves to talk and laugh, and is serious and sincere about her work and customers. She is selected as an outstanding employee every year, and her monthly salary can reach up to NT$20,000, which puts me, a top graduate student, to shame.
She loves life. After her busy work, she travels all over the scenery around the imperial capital. She can often be seen in pottery workshops, painting studios, and libraries. She goes looking for delicious food with her friends and takes her old friends with her. Mother travels abroad.
Her life is always so colorful, and it feels like her vitality is always growing like wild grass. There is a strong energy in her heart that makes her unwilling to be mediocre, pursue the breadth and depth of life, and strive to let the flower of life bloom freely.
After graduating from graduate school, a friend of mine gave up a stable and well-paid job within the system and chose a more challenging position as a medical representative in a foreign company. Although he did not have to sit in the office and the working hours were relatively flexible, working from home was burdensome. with greater pressure.
I often have to sort out various reports until early in the morning. In order to maintain customer relationships, I have to run around in various hospitals. In order to talk to a certain customer, I am surrounded on the way to and from get off work, but what I get is the customer. There are all kinds of cold looks and even harsh words, and if the targets are not met, they have to bear the accountability and roar of the leaders.
She also often complains that sales work is not done by humans, but after a sleep she is full of passion and never treats work perfunctorily. She is like a complete workaholic. Her every quarter Her performance was always first in the group, and she received generous rewards for her super-intense efforts. She only worked in the imperial capital for two years and bought a three-bedroom house with a mortgage in the provincial capital city on her own.
She was also hospitalized because her father had a sudden cerebral infarction, and had to take leave to return to her hometown hospital to take care of her father. She said: "While in the hospital, I was still worried about my job in Beijing, worried about sales, and needed money to sell goods. , I need money for a mortgage, I need money for medical treatment, the landlord has sold the house, and the rent is due in more than half a month, and I have to rent a house again, find a house and pay the rent, everything is rushed together, and I can’t help myself while eating in the morning. Tears are pouring down my face, it’s so difficult.”
But she did not give in, and finally got through it. Her father's condition improved and he was discharged from the hospital. She moved. Although her life was a little tight, everything became calm again with her efforts. Back under her control.
She has always said that she would like me to help introduce a partner, but before I could find a suitable candidate, she solved the major life issues by herself. The speed was staggering. She just saw the announcement of her relationship within a few days. She showed off her marriage certificate, her husband is tall and handsome, and with her sunny and cheerful personality, they are a perfect match. At the same time, they have turned on the dog-food mode, and they are so sweet and enviable. If a person works hard, it is difficult to be happy.
I learned that she was pregnant some time ago, but she still hasn’t changed her true nature as a hard-working mother. Sometimes she has to work overtime until early in the morning. Sometimes she is even so busy that it’s past meal time. Three meals a day are combined into After two meals, I really didn’t care about my baby for the sake of work. I said, "You should stop working so hard for your baby."
She just laughed and said, "You have to make money even if you have to work." But this is also a kind of prenatal education. It is good for the baby to be a workaholic regardless of his gender in the future, so that he has enough ability to support himself. Life has never been easy. I hope it can support itself.
She not only works hard, but also knows how to enjoy life. She puts warm wallpapers on the rental house in the narrow area, gets up early every day and spends her time cooking various breakfasts that are both eye-catching and stomach-pleasing, and buys expensive cosmetics as a treat for herself. As a reward, I can watch a movie with my husband or go for a walk or visit the park. I have a very pleasant time when I am not working.
My friend’s attitude in life often makes me feel ashamed. Compared with her, I am a bit muddle along. I am happy when what I want comes, but it doesn’t seem to matter if it doesn’t come. I have never worked hard for it, even if She has worked hard, but it is nothing compared to her efforts. It is not scary if others are excellent. What is scary is that people who are better than you work harder than you. Her life and mentality are like cheating. I'm afraid even if she doesn't Even if you stop running, you can't catch up.
But there are still many things worth learning from her, that is, insist on being yourself. The excellence of others has nothing to do with you, and there is no need to compare with others. You should find the light in your heart. It’s enough to work hard to grow in its direction!
Life is not always sunny and sunny, and there may be storms at any time. The key is our attitude towards it.
"At the beginning of human beings, nature is good." Everyone likes truth, goodness and beauty, hates falsehood, evil and ugliness. They also desire to gain happiness and do not want to be in the quagmire of misfortune. But how many people can truly control their lives, and how many people are being controlled by life. Their ideals have long been submerged, and they are just drifting with the tide, living like a zombie. There is a saying: die at 25 and be buried at 75. Although it is cruel, it is a true portrayal of many people.
The life that we can see at first glance is definitely not what we want. Many people are willing to change and work tirelessly for it, but they suffer from no direction and are limited to the comfort zone and cannot find a breakthrough. We should How to find your own pursuit and find the sun in your heart?
Wang Yangming, the master of psychology, said, "My nature is self-sufficient and I don't need to seek outside." Everyone has a conscience and does not need to look outside. Pick. If the conscience is compared to the sun, then the seven emotions and six desires are like clouds. If the emotions are too rich and exceed a certain limit, they will obscure the conscience. What we have to do is not to be afraid of the clouds covering our eyes, constantly illuminate our conscience, and disperse the clouds of the seven emotions and six desires. Let your heart always be filled with sunshine. Because everyone has a conscience, we naturally know right and wrong, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, and we naturally know what we want in life. As long as we insist on growing towards the sunshine in our hearts, persevere in things, and ultimately affirm You can grow into what you want in your mind.
Someone once asked Huang Lei: "What is happiness?" He said: "The happiness I understand is to live in the way you like." He said and did the same. As a man, he was keen on being a househusband. This behavior seemed a bit effeminate to others, but he was happy with it simply because this was his hobby and the way of life he liked.
Everyone can live in the way they like, as long as you insist on doing so, facing the sun like a sunflower, and working hard to grow
Postscript: The three protagonists in the article are mine. Classmates, relatives and friends, I see a kind of strength in them, they are so passionate about life and so unyielding to hardships. They are always neither humble nor arrogant, as if there is a beam of light in their hearts, guiding the direction of their efforts, like sunflowers. It keeps growing under the sunshine, and gradually grows into a posture that makes people look up.