When I was in college, many friends were away from home for so long for the first time, perhaps for the first time, living on campus and planning their lives for the first time. When away from family, friends seem to be a straw away from loneliness!

Everyone tacitly chose a group of people to party together and get rid of loneliness together, but a person's life seems different, and they are afraid that others will look at them differently. "Hey, how does this person walk alone? She is so poor "and then burst out laughing.

For this reason, I always forget that life is not for others to see. As long as I am happy, the world is full of sunshine.

There is a term in psychology called "herding effect", which is also called herding effect. It refers to the phenomenon that most people blindly follow this behavior and thought because they are in the same environment. The terrible thing is that people trapped in it will only follow what the public thinks is right and do it, and will not take the initiative to think about whether it is reasonable.

Just like a common phenomenon in life, when I see a long queue in the milk tea shop, I must buy a cup and try it, but I forget that I don't like milk tea very much.

Some gregarious, have quietly, let you gradually lose self-awareness. Sometimes an unsociable person is just lonely in appearance and unsociable, which is the real inner loneliness.

In fact, loneliness is not terrible, but loneliness is terrible. Everyone is an independent individual, and low-quality gregarious is not as good as high-quality solitude, so even if a person does anything, you just follow your own plan and arrangement.

It is foolish and ridiculous to blindly follow the footsteps of others and disrupt your own goal planning and life rhythm for the sake of so-called gregarious. Your life is not for others to see, and other people's evaluation can't be the only criterion for you to live well.

So follow your inner choice carefully and choose whether you really want to fit in or be alone at this moment. You don't have to cater to others. The most important thing is not what others think of you, but what you think of yourself.