However, one child received a cake that he couldn't swallow. When he saw the cake, he immediately collapsed and cried. He thought to himself, I would rather not receive such a cake as a birthday present than celebrate my birthday.
Why? Because there are no cute cartoon characters on this cake, it is a cake full of books and workbooks for subjects other than Chinese. The most unacceptable thing for children is that it also says "As long as the earth is not destroyed, you have to do your homework". Netizens feel that this child is so pitiful and distressed. Parents always remind him to do his homework, and children are really not allowed to have a moment of leisure.
Whether parents decide whether this cake is for fun or just to urge their children to study hard, this behavior of parents will have a psychological shadow on their children. Because today's children used to go to school, make up lessons and do homework every day, even on holidays, they are on their way to make up lessons, and when they get home, they are all kinds of homework. Children rarely have time to stare at the sky in a daze.
I finally look forward to my birthday, thinking that I can always take a day off and have fun, and I am emotionally devastated by this cake. I'm in no mood at all. Maybe this birthday cake will make the child never want to eat cake or have a birthday again.
A colleague of mine told me that her child's birthday is in the third grade of primary school. Originally, the child wanted a Barbie doll that she had been thinking about for a long time. She said that her mother would buy her a birthday present on her birthday, but because her birthday is just near the final exam, her mother wants to play with Barbie dolls, which will affect her study. Because the exam is coming, you'd better buy some study materials and exercise books. When my daughter thought of Barbie doll with anticipation on her birthday, but her mother gave her a lot of review materials, the child cried on the spot and said that she would never have a birthday again. After a long time, my daughter doesn't talk to her parents much. Later, her mother realized that her behavior was harmful to her children and bought them Barbie dolls, but her daughter said she didn't like them.
Learning is important, but children should also combine work and rest. If you chat with your child all day, there is nothing but the topic of study, which invisibly increases the pressure on your child. This kind of birthday gift of smashing cakes and reviewing materials will not only make children have a happy birthday, but also cause many bad effects on children.
1 will cause psychological shadow to children. Many times, what adults think is a joke is actually no big deal, but it does great harm to children. The psychological shadow left by childhood may always accompany children to adulthood. Parents hope to motivate their children to learn through this cake, but it may be counterproductive.
2. Let children lose trust in their parents. Many parents will complain that it is difficult to control their children when they are older, and they will not listen. Some children just ignore their parents. On the one hand, children grow up. Have parents reflected on themselves? What have they done to disappoint their children, which made you lose their trust in you, so they are unwilling to communicate with you.
3. Children don't respect their parents. Respect and trust are mutual. To win the respect and trust of children, we must first respect and trust children. It is very important for children to celebrate their birthdays, but the whole birthday mood is ruined by a cake or gift from their parents. Just like we adults work every day and finally have a day off, will you be annoyed and angry if the leader drags you to work overtime or colleagues keep calling to ask you about your work?