Don't say, there are such people around me! But do you know the ending? She is very happy, and her husband is crying! Her mother-in-law also cried!
This man is my best friend. Before she got married, she also had a good job. Five or six years ago, she earned more than 8,000 yuan a month, so she didn't have to run for technical work. I usually go to work at 8 am and get off work at 5: 30 pm. You may have to work overtime until 9: 10 when you are busy.
Since her son was born, her husband has been urging her to resign. The reason is that the child's personality is formed before the age of three, and it needs the company of parents, for fear that the old people will get used to the children's various problems. In fact, to put it bluntly, I am afraid that my mother will be tired with her children!
My girlfriend thinks it makes sense, too Isn't it just three years with children? If you miss your child's childhood, you may regret it for a lifetime! So she resigned.
However, anyone who has taken care of children knows that going to work and taking care of children are incomparable in both energy and physical strength. Especially this kind of technical work, she is usually very relaxed. Her family is still a son, and energetic boys can always make people doubt life!
She has survived for three years, and her children are in kindergarten. She can finally relax! Unexpectedly, after not being happy for a few days, the child became ill again! From then on, she began to send her children to school, and she lay dead. The life that children take to the hospital after school!
Finally, the child went to a large class and became less ill. She was relieved and planned to have a good rest. Unexpectedly, her husband began to urge her to work! It is said that he is too tired to support his family these years. Since the child is all right, you can go to work!
She had a big fight with her husband in a rage, but she went out to look for a job. It's been five years since my last job, so it's not easy to find another job like that.
After looking for a job for three months, I finally found a similar job, but the salary is ridiculously low, only 4000 yuan a month! She didn't abandon, go to work as usual!
From 8 o'clock to 5: 30 pm, the company is a little far from home, and she needs to go out at 7 o'clock. The school at 7 o'clock hasn't opened yet, so I have no choice but to call my mother-in-law to pick up the children.
The kindergarten class is ok, and the school doesn't teach much knowledge. Even teaching is a very simple basic knowledge, and grandma can help. But after the child enters the first grade, the contradiction comes!
The children in grade one already have homework, and Chinese, math and English have homework every day. Chinese and math are ok, but English mother-in-law is really not!
The teacher asked to read an English text 10 minutes. Some words are not learned at school. Ask my grandmother when you come back. She is also confused. There is no way, so we have to let him finish Chinese math first, and wait for her to come home from work before the children do their English homework.
If you go to work normally, you will be home around 6: 30. If there is a traffic jam, I won't get home until 7 o'clock. My mother-in-law cooks and she tutors the children. After dinner, it's almost time for the children to go to bed. On the whole, the time is ok.
If one day she worked overtime until 9 o'clock 10, the child would have fallen asleep! The father of the child often socializes and can't count on it! The child's homework fell behind like this.
Not only English, but also Chinese and math homework are sometimes arranged on mobile phones. Do homework together, read a meter, the little housekeeper takes turns to go into battle, grandma is dizzy! Children often can't finish their homework because they don't have parents' reminders!
Over time, children's grades are somewhat backward. The teacher called her. She agreed, but she was too busy. The teacher called her husband again, and he pushed away all the entertainment that could be pushed away and went home to accompany the children.
The couple take turns to go into battle, and one person must accompany the children to do their homework every day! After a long time, my husband can't hold on! I used to have a lot of entertainment, but now I can't push anything, and my work is a bit too much! I have been interviewed by the leaders several times.
No choice, he had to go back to work and throw the child back to her and grandma. For grandma, the days have returned to the state of war! The child won't cry in anger, she will cry sadly!
Before long, grandma couldn't hold on! My son and I discussed bringing my best friend back to take care of the children full-time. However, my best friend's job has just been regularized, and she doesn't want to quit! She thinks going to work is more valuable and happier!
No way, my husband discussed with her that as long as she is willing to resign and go home to accompany the children, his salary will be given to his girlfriend for unified care (it turns out that he is only responsible for living expenses and does not pay wages). My best friend said: I am not rare, I can also earn!
The results of the final exam came out. Of the 42 students in the class, more than a dozen got full marks in three subjects, the rest were all A's, and only his son got B! Be criticized by the teacher at the parent-teacher meeting ...
My best friend can't stop! Finally, I promised to resign and go home to tutor my children! Husband happily treated her to a big meal and bought her a necklace!
After her mother-in-law knew it, she said happily, "Wei, you are finally back, and I don't have to suffer this foreign crime!" " I'm going back to my hometown tomorrow! "Early the next morning, my mother-in-law packed her bags and fled back to her hometown, fearing that her daughter-in-law would go back on her word later!
Through the matter of girlfriends, we can see why some precious mothers and children have gone to school, but she still doesn't go to work. There are two reasons:
First, the timing is wrong! The so-called nine-to-five job is not what you think. You go to work at nine in the morning and get off work at five in the afternoon! Even if it's nine to five, you don't need time on the road? No overtime?
You don't have to go to work on weekends, holidays, winter and summer vacations? Obviously impossible! Some people may say: send a remedial class! This is also the second reason.
Second, children can't learn without their parents! The so-called one or two grades are helped to walk, the third and fourth grades are helped to walk, and the children go to remedial classes. Who will help you walk? Do you know how the teacher tutors the children in the evening homework class?
People are only responsible for children's homework today! As for where you didn't learn in school and where you need to strengthen it, it is simply not within the scope of others' responsibilities! Parents must personally check for leaks and fill vacancies!
Finally, I want to say: the happiness of a family must be sacrificed! Most of this person is a mother! Stay-at-home mom is not lazy, but life chooses her to be the victim!
Please be kind to stay-at-home mothers! It is not easy for a man to support his family, and we will not ignore it. However, their difficulties are too easily misunderstood!
Do you think I'm right?
I am an ordinary office worker. I am busy with work every day. My children didn't study in senior one. I really don't understand why so many mothers would rather give up their high salary than be full-time mothers. After grade one, I finally understand and envy how good a stay-at-home mother is. Because I found that almost all the excellent children in my daughter's class were brought up by full-time mothers.
This makes us ordinary people particularly anxious. As far as the examples around me are concerned, I can communicate with you.
1. Children's homework problems: children in grades one to three are in the golden age of study habits. My daughter does a lot of homework every day, such as Chinese, math, English, all kinds of punching cards and homework, and she has to accompany her often, otherwise she will have to drink water, go to the toilet and eat for a while. It is difficult to finish without staring, and even if it is finished, it is mostly to cope. Learn to write in the first grade, don't stare, and you can't stick to it if you don't write well; If you want to watch videos and do homework, if you don't stare, she will watch other irrelevant content; Reading, no one to accompany, she went to play. Diary, if you don't stare, you can't write well at all. I didn't pay attention to let the children overcome the problems in school in the early stage, but it was still very difficult to correct them in the later stage. But it is too limited to rely on part-time mothers to get off work at night. To put it mildly, we sometimes work overtime, and when we get home, the children are already sleeping.
2. The children's enlightenment education started earlier: the daughter is the bully in the class, and her mother gave her enlightenment education, English, ancient poems, numbers, physical exercise and so on when she was 2 years old. In addition, various astronomical and geographical knowledge is slowly absorbed. When you study with children invisibly, you can be better than others.
3. It is still a question of education. The competition for talents will be the last of 2 1 century. Children can get counseling from their mothers at an early age, not only in learning, but also in life knowledge, regardless of emotional intelligence or adversity quotient. Children who grow up in such an environment are often better than other children of the same age and are more likely to succeed in the future.
If the family economic environment is ok, I especially recommend full-time. I hope my advice can help you.
The subject asked this question out of curiosity, indicating that the subject should not be a woman.
Before I had children, my job was nine to five, with weekends off. My job is simple, but for children, I am actually a good teacher, and I will teach you which is more important, work or children.
Maybe many people think that "nine to five" must be very comfortable. You can take your children to school before work and pick them up after work.
But reality is much more cruel than ideal. What you think is nine to five, you really go to work at nine in the morning and get off work at five in the afternoon, but I want to ask you, does your family live near your unit?
For example, I work from nine to five, but I have to go out at seven in the morning, because I have to go to work across districts and it takes more than an hour on the road.
Whose kindergarten is specially opened for my family? Do I have to send my children to a kindergarten that doesn't open at seven in the morning? Our kindergarten doesn't open until after eight o'clock and ends at four o'clock in the afternoon. No teacher will wait until you get off work every day.
I may come home from work at seven or eight in the evening, that is, from nine to five. It looks beautiful. When your work unit is more than an hour's drive from your home, you can't take care of it. How do you choose?
Some people may say that if you are looking for a 9-to-5 job near your home, you have to see if there is a 9-to-5 job you want near your home.
To tell the truth, I work from nine to five, but the reality may not be nine to five, because sometimes I have to work overtime and so on. When I come home from work at night, the child may have gone to bed. Just spend time with the children. It may be similar to spending time playing mobile phones, especially male friends. Maybe you spend more time on your mobile phone than on your children.
I take care of my children full-time because my family conditions don't allow me, and no one can help me, no matter my in-laws or my parents and family. In-laws are in poor health, and my parents are the only ones. I take care of my children.
Personally, I think the subject should ask this question, or wait until you get married and have children. Curiosity is useless, because people are different, flowers are still a little red, and everyone's family conditions and family environment are different. Only when you have experienced it yourself will you realize what it's like to be a full-time nanny or a full-time father.
I have been working full-time 15 years. Isn't it incredible? Actually, I'm embarrassed, too At present, I have two daughters, one in grade three and the other in grade two, both of which are watershed stages of theoretical study.
Some people think that women should be financially independent, earn their own money and spend it themselves, and have confidence and status at home. I think that's right.
Some people think that full-time is not inferior, but also a profession and lofty, and it is a whole-hearted investment in the family. Whether a full-time job will be out of touch with society depends mainly on whether I have a plan, whether I can learn endlessly and where to learn. But full-time, at least less intrigue between colleagues, reducing the possibility of bringing work emotions into the family and affecting the family atmosphere.
I want to take this opportunity to thank my mother and husband. I'm really relieved to have my mother to help me, mainly because of the school traffic. I pick up the car from school, but when I pick up the boss, my mother can help me with my second child at home, which is very reassuring. The economy also allows me to work full-time, and my husband and in-laws never treat me as a daughter because I don't make money. When I meet the other half who is responsible for the family, my husband thinks it is natural for him to support his family. Making money is not for this family. He said that the division of labor is clear, which is good. Every time you give me money, I ask if it is enough. And at the end of the year, give me a sum of money to manage my own finances, and strive for the usual interest. But I know that my years are quiet and beautiful. I am carrying a heavy burden and hope my family will be safe and healthy.
So, whether it is full-time, according to your own situation. As for whether full-time work is good or bad for children, there is no absolute good or bad, mainly depending on whether the family is harmonious, how the relationship between husband and wife is, and how the parent-child relationship is.
Children arrive at school at 7: 20 and finish school at 4: 20 in the afternoon. Who will pick them up? Parents have to go to work on weekends, and children have to go to interest classes. Who will pick them up? Who will take part in school activities, such as parent-teacher conferences, volunteers and school activities? The child is ill. Who will take him to the hospital? How old are children allowed to run by themselves? I took my child to work for a month and was euphemistically dismissed by my boss. If you were the boss, would you hire such employees?
There is also the matter of accompanying children. I didn't have time to spend with my children during the month at work. After work, I cook, clean, wash clothes and mop the floor. When I finish, I should go to bed. My father came back at midnight. Can you tell me how to accompany the children?
What I am doing now is an hourly job that many people despise. I go to work at 8: 30, get off work at 4: 00 in the afternoon and rest on weekends. I also take time off from time to time because of the children. Some people really stand and talk easily.
I think it's easy for you to talk standing up. No woman wants to take care of her children full time. Taking care of the baby is more tiring than going to work. Anyone with a baby will feel the same way, and she is prone to mania and depression because she can't go to work and has limited contact with the outside world.
It seems that there is plenty of time for nine to five, but do you know when the primary school and kindergarten are closed now? Primary school finishes school in the morning 1 1. Even if you sign up for the lunch class, you finish school at 4 pm, which is sometimes indirect. Kindergarten is basically 5 o'clock. If there is no old man at home to help with the children, who will pick them up? Can you take a day off to pick them up? Once or twice is ok, but it will take nine years to pick it up. Children have to eat when they go home, and they have to help with their homework after dinner. Really more tired than going to work.
Many full-time nannies have no elderly people to take care of their children, and my daughter-in-law has not been to work for 8 years. It's just picking up and dropping off children all day, so we fight a lot. She is bored and wants to go out to work. She said that staying at home all day was driving her crazy, but there was nothing she could do. No company will let you pick up and drop off your children all day, and no company will tolerate you picking up and dropping off your children all day, so you can't go to work if you want, so you can only endure it.
One more thing, besides enterprises and institutions, how many people can work from nine to five now? In our third-tier city, it's all from eight to six, and we can only take one day off every week. Who will take care of the children on Sunday?
The above points are the main reasons why many people take full-time care of their babies at home. Speaking of which, I really should say thank you to all the women who take care of their babies full time. It is because of the sacrifice and dedication of these women that the family can be supported.
I'm not a full-time nanny. I want to raise two babies and go to work. But I still want to say that the main point is to live in the clouds or at the highest level of society, which is not a real human life at all.
Let me talk about the time when my children go to school and leave school: Zhengzhou, a public school. The eldest son enters school at 8 am, the second son at 9 am, the eldest son at 3: 40 pm and the second son at 3 pm. You work nine to five again, wear a wool!
Now parents are responsible for half of their children's homework, including accompanying their children to study and study, especially at the stage of forming study habits in primary schools. If you don't care, just wait for the teacher to criticize you every day, and then beat the parents when the children are finished. On the other hand, even if the teacher doesn't criticize, some homework of junior children can't be completed without parents. No matter what homework, help children develop learning attitudes and habits first.
Without the help of the elderly at home, you can't go to work at all. Maybe people want to know how I get to work. Let me talk about it.
I am a learning parent. I have nothing to do and love to study, so there are many job opportunities. When the boss was in primary school, school ended at 3 o'clock. I didn't want to be idle, so I found various part-time jobs. I really can't find it, because most part-time jobs are in the afternoon, evening, or all day. Even when I go to the restaurant to serve food, I get off work at 3 pm. Helpless, I can only pick up the children myself.
Later, I found a job at the gate of the children's school. The boss of a training institution was willing to let me go. I could pick up and drop off the children at any time, and the treatment was higher than that of ordinary teachers. The reason is that I know psychology and have studied family education. I am familiar with their courses and know all kinds of Rubik's cubes. I can help them with drainage classes, deal with their parents' objections and manage them.
I have been working for more than a year, but I can't continue for various reasons. After resigning, a classmate started a business and asked me to invest in technology. I just need to guide them every weekend. This classmate was in his hometown county, and didn't want to do it at first, but my father was in poor health, so I chose to agree. Because the second child hasn't gone to school yet, he runs with the second child, working while helping his mother take care of his father. After more than a year, my father died, and I ended my life in both places with my second child to prepare for my second child's primary school life. During the epidemic, the second child was only in the middle of the big class, not in preschool, and I took him to two places. I am really worried about his adaptability when he enters primary school, so I will accompany him wholeheartedly and cultivate his thinking and learning ability. At the end of May, send children to spring preschool. I found another job in June, but the boss still agreed to pick up the children at any time. During the summer vacation, I often take two children to work.
When primary school starts, we go to work at 9: 00 and go to school at 2: 00, so I go to the company at 9: 30 and come back from the company at 2: 40 every day to pick up my children and take them to the company to do their homework. It takes about an hour to go back and forth. In order not to make my boss and others uncomfortable, I take the initiative to work overtime for more than an hour every day. I need to fly home in Dayue. Some people may think I'm pathetic. I have to work and take care of my children. But I think I am very happy, because I can still take care of my children at work, and I am grateful for what life has given me.
That's it. We also have a foreign aid, which is an unreliable grandfather. Grandpa took the boss, because the boss's study habits have been developed, so he took it. Otherwise, I dare not let grandpa take care of it. Some people may scold me for helping me, but I still say it's not reliable. To tell the truth, I'm telling the truth. I'm not saying it's unreliable, I'm just saying it's not reliable. Because people can still help me pick up my children, but the rest, no matter. Just tell you two things. During the epidemic, both children took online classes. One day, I had to go on business. I told my grandfather that today is not a weekend, you just have to stop them from watching TV and listening to online classes. When I came back, I was sitting on the sofa watching TV with my two grandchildren. I am really speechless. One more thing, in May, my father died, and Zhengzhou was not allowed to leave because of the strict management of the old school. Let him and his grandfather be in Zhengzhou. I told grandpa that we are not at home at night, so you can stay with the children. I asked my neighbor to check my homework. As a result, people promised nothing, so they went out to the theater and came back at midnight.
Anyway, there is a little advantage to having grandpa here, that is, he can help you take the children home, and the rest will be alone.
I feel like a positive young man, but I can't talk about work and career, let alone career planning, because all my choices are from the perspective of benefiting children.
I expect I can live to 120, so I have time to finish my dream. I want to say that I understand that many mothers don't want to go to work, but they are too busy to go to work. Of course, there must be some families that need stay-at-home mothers.
Finally, I want to say that if the topic owner runs a company, I can help the topic owner introduce some mom employees on weekends, because such jobs are hard to find, and not everyone is so lucky!
It's definitely not a woman who asks questions! Stay-at-home moms don't want to be full-time, but you're not from mom's point of view. You don't know all the trivial things in life, you don't know how the food sent to your mouth is made, and you don't know how effective the company of children is!
A woman's life is children, kitchen and housework. Yes, some people may say that some women are different from this, but most women have to go through this period! Few men can take care of their children patiently, but many men are keen on mobile games! The battlefield of the kitchen, most families are the battlefield of women. Housework is a woman's job, whether it is a full-time woman at home or a woman who is not at home at work. Men want to help you, but they don't take the initiative to help you every time!
Normally, from Monday to Friday, it's early, and when everyone is eating, the chef begins to plan to wash the dishes and clean up the house after dinner, or send the children to school in time. After the children are sent to school, the mobile phone will keep ringing all day. Then I began to clean up the house, plan what to eat for dinner, and go to the supermarket to choose a match. As for stay-at-home mothers, they will basically make do with what they eat at noon, because it is difficult to cook alone! After noon, there is no time to sleep and wash clothes. Time passes easily and happily! Then we will start preparing dinner for the whole family. The soup that children like and the meat that husbands like will be within the planned scope.
You think this is over! Don't! Come back in the evening, have dinner and clean up the kitchen. The real battlefield has just begun, and the children's homework has been sent to the mobile phone before they get home! Watching children learn, most of them are so-called full-time mothers taking their children to learn! Finally, I went to bed, and then my mother ate it all at ease! But the day passed and I was tired. After cleaning up the chores at home, I will soon enter the dream!
Don't think that eating your mother is an excuse for women to be lazy. You are not a woman, let alone a mother. You simply can't understand that many women's choices are for their families and children! This is not an excuse, this is the choice of women in real life!
I have been taking care of my baby full-time for three years, and I just found a job from eight to five this year. Let me talk about my experience.
My husband and I are classmates, and our family conditions are very poor. We live in the countryside, and we have a younger brother. My parents are farmers, and my mother is in poor health. When she married her husband, she had no house or car, and she was married naked. My husband is very kind, considerate and active to me. After getting along with him for several years, I naturally entered the marriage hall.
After marriage, my husband and I went to work in Shanghai. He is a programmer and I am a salesman. The treatment is ok. They scrimped and saved a little money and got pregnant. After pregnancy, my husband didn't have time to take care of me. I went back to my hometown to have a baby, and we started a life of separation in different places.
Our original plan was that after the baby was born, I would give it to my mother-in-law, and then my husband and I would go to Shanghai to work, and we would work together to save some money.
The baby was born smoothly, and my husband took paternity leave for half a month to take care of our mother and son. After the holiday, he went back to Shanghai to continue his work. I am going to take the baby to his grandmother when he is half a year old, and then go to Shanghai to find a husband.
Plans can't keep up with changes. In the process of taking care of the baby at home, I found that the child was taken care of by my grandmother. This is the second question. Most importantly, I found that his grandmother had a strange disease.
My parents-in-law and I live in my hometown. My father-in-law works at the construction site, but my mother-in-law has never been there. Since her mother-in-law got married, she has been at home and occasionally grows some vegetables. My children and I live upstairs and my in-laws live downstairs.
One morning, when I took my child downstairs, I saw my mother-in-law lying in bed tossing and turning, and her expression was very painful. It's just me, her and the children at home. I walked in and saw my mother-in-law incontinent in bed. I suddenly panicked. There was no one at home then. I put the baby in the stroller to take care of her and change her clothes and sheets. I was so anxious that I didn't have time to cry and ask why. Anyway, that day was a special collapse. I have to take care of my baby for several months and my mother-in-law who can't take care of herself. I was dizzy and finally stayed up until my father-in-law came back.
Later my father-in-law told me that my mother-in-law was born with this disease. The symptoms of this disease are: general weakness, knowing in my heart that I can't speak, and I can't take care of myself. The time of illness is one day, and it will be fine the next day. Sure enough, the next day my mother-in-law woke up as if nothing had happened. My mother-in-law's illness worries me. I go to work, my mother-in-law is sick, and there is no one at home. What should I do?
No way, the plan can't keep up with the changes, so I have to take care of the baby myself. The probability of mother-in-law getting sick is sometimes once every three months, sometimes once a month, sometimes once every six months. This disease is more frequent when the weather is cold. I need to lie in bed all day, feed her, help her get up and go to the toilet, and be fine the next day, as if nothing had happened.
Later, when the child was two years old, my husband came back from Shanghai, and we ended the state of long-distance separation. He got a job not far from home and came home from work every day. We also bought a suite with a loan in the city. Life is finally slowly moving forward.
When my child was three years old, I sent him to kindergarten, and I went to a nearby company to find a job as a clerk. Every day from 8: 00 to 5: 00, single and double holidays. Every day after work, I cook for the whole family, take care of the children, take care of the family, and my mother-in-law helps pick up the baby. Although this is the case, I am still a little worried that my mother-in-law will be ill one day and no one will be at home.
After working as a full-time nanny for three years, my feeling is that there is actually no freedom to take care of children at work. There is a fixed rest at work and a fixed attendance. I don't take care of children. I play all the time, especially when the child has a fever and is sick. Coax children at night, take their temperature, take medicine, and the body can't rest. I'm too anxious to sleep. I'm simply exhausted, for fear that something will happen to my child.
Therefore, I understand the hard work of a full-time nanny. If you are a full-time nanny, I will think you are great. Every day, you have no time and space of your own. Children are your world. Many stay-at-home mothers are prone to depression when they work hard around their children because they can't get the understanding of the people around them. Please give full-time nanny more understanding and care.
I have found a job now. Although the salary is not high, I can take care of my family during working hours.
I mainly feel that I have to rely on my husband to make money, spend money at home, and get a loan. Children have to study, and they really can't save much money before they make up their minds to find a job, hoping to share the burden at home. Plus the children go to kindergarten, and the mother-in-law can also help me pick them up.
-Summary
1. If you don't want to be a full-time nanny, you can rest assured that you can find a job to take care of your family.
If no one looks after your child, your child is still very young, and you can't consider looking for a job until the child grows up. You know, raising children is equivalent to making money. After all, hiring a nanny costs thousands to 10 thousand a month, not to mention that nannies are not careful about their children. You are making money by taking care of children.
It would be great to earn some pocket money in my spare time if I can do some part-time jobs when I am a full-time nanny. But it must be done in a safe way, and don't be cheated.
If you feel unreliable, it is worthwhile to take a part-time job and spend more time with your children.