Especially for girls, we must pay attention to the image when eating.
I remember being severely reprimanded for making noise when I was a child.
At that time, I felt that my parents were too strict. When I grew up, I realized that eating can reflect many things.
Psychologically speaking, a person's true face is almost always exposed through casual eating and drinking.
Juliet A. Boghossian, a British behaviorist, analyzed people's personalities according to their nine eating behaviors. A greedy person will give priority to others, and a picky eater is an expert in a certain field. ...
When a person eats, it is often the most relaxing time. At this time, the subconscious things will be revealed, and it can even be said that the dinner is the most recognizable place.
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However, what parents think most about now is how to increase nutrition for their children and make them eat better and more, but rarely consider family education at the dinner table. Every child can see the family culture behind him from the way he eats at the dinner table.
As the Book of Rites said: "A jade is not cut, it is not a tool, and people don't know it without learning."
Don't let your children's eating habits give away your family style.
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No one will tell you.
Your child doesn't have such a tutor.
Xiong Haizi's attendance at the dinner was a disaster.
Before the meal was served, my best friend's 6-year-old son was suddenly stuck by something in the morning, his face was blue and he was panting, which scared the guests to death.
Fortunately, doctors and friends were present for first aid. It turned out that when adults chatted with each other during the Chinese New Year, he stuffed all the rock candy into his mouth in one breath in order to avoid another child asking him for snacks.
When he started eating, he argued that he would not eat until his mother fed him. When his favorite sweet and sour tenderloin was served, he had to turn it to himself, and the other guests didn't eat a bite.
Chatting during the dinner, the uncle at the next table pointed to a plate of vegetables and asked Chen Chen, "Do you know what this is?" He couldn't answer, so he asked another question and didn't answer. As a result, he cried while eating dinner in the morning, but he couldn't coax it, making his uncle sweat and embarrassed.
Chen Chen's performance at the dinner party stunned everyone present!
Several children did as well as Chen Chen. We can't help asking: What's wrong with children now?
During the dinner, the children's cries, shouts, and slapstick came and went, making chickens fly and dogs jump.
The ancients said, "If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand." . Although the dining table is small, everything they say and do at this small dining table reflects their parents' level and educational philosophy.
No one will bluntly say that your child lacks a tutor, but after a meal, some people will gradually alienate you, some will secretly complain about you, some will lose their personal image because they sit at the same table with the leader, and your child's eating habits will gradually ruin you.
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The way children eat.
Hide the happiness of a family.
Children have three kinds of bad diets:
Overbearing president type: when you see your favorite dishes, take them in front of you and don't let the guests get contaminated;
Wolf type: the food is not served, no matter what, eat first;
Emperor patrol type: over 6 years old, parents should feed, and they will be angry if they disagree.
The Chinese nation has always been a country of etiquette. When we pay attention to eating, we pay attention to etiquette. Even stars who are active in the public eye pay special attention to the education of children's eating habits.
In the program "Where is Dad?", Max took a bite of steamed bread and handed it to Chun Wu. Chun Wu took it and ate it without hesitation.
Wu Xinyi asked her father, "Do you like it? Why do you eat everything? "
Chun Wu patiently told the children: "There are still many people in this world who have nothing to eat, so we should cherish food and not waste it."
Huang Lei once posted a photo of Duo Duo having dinner with his sister in Weibo. In the photo, two daughters are at home facing a big bowl of tomato and egg noodles to open a gourmet mode.
Duoduo looked down at his sister with chopsticks, as if asking her "Do you want to eat more". My sister looked at the ground in the bowl cleverly and smiled sweetly. The picture is super warm and charming.
Zhu described in "Children's Instructions": Before eating and drinking, you must chew slowly and don't smell the sound of eating and drinking. No matter what you eat or drink, don't fight for more beauty and ugliness.
The ancients have long understood this philosophy: people who eat well must have a high family happiness index.
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Cultivate children's gratitude.
At the dinner table, cultivating children's gratitude is the core part of teaching children to develop a good "eating" education.
When Qian Zhongshu taught her daughter to eat, she mentioned a point: Eating is sometimes like getting married.
Eating is not just a simple matter. The dining table also has social functions, such as connecting feelings, talking about business and so on.
Politeness and restraint at the dinner table will benefit children for life.
Jay Chou, the little heavenly king, revealed the reason why she married Hannah Quinlivan, because she was particularly grateful and had a sense of ceremony.
She would sit together and pray before eating, thanking the hard-won food and the love that kept her family together forever. The strong family atmosphere deeply infected him.
I visited an old man the other day, and his descendants are excellent. He told me that the dining table is the best place to cultivate children's gratitude.
In the school canteen, students are often seen spilling the whole bowl of white rice on the ground and leaving their feet, but they have no intention to cherish it.
So I will secretly sit on the dining table of these students, have dinner and chat with them, and quietly clean up the dishes and chopsticks after dinner without wasting a drop of food. Students will be embarrassed to throw it out again when they see me doing this.
Gratitude is the origin of all morality. Children who are always grateful will be satisfied and cherish today's hard-won life.
Every little gesture in the process of eating reflects everyone's upbringing.
Everyone's "eating" is not personal. In social occasions, eating with friends has become a social etiquette.
Civilized "eating" should be cultivated from an early age, and parents and elders should first set a good example for their children.
What good habits should children develop at the dinner table?
1 Before eating (elders first, younger generation later), the family members should take their places, and chopsticks can only be moved after the whole family is seated;
2 Learn to eat the bowl correctly: put your thumb on the side of the bowl and the other four fingers on the bottom of the bowl (dragon with beads, bowl in your left hand; Phoenix nods, eating with spoon and chopsticks in his right hand), forming a habit;
3 always keep the desktop clean and tidy when eating;
4 when eating, chew slowly and don't talk when the rice is in your mouth; Eat and drink soup silently;
5 don't rummage for food in the plate; Use public chopsticks when eating vegetables; Chopsticks don't pinch food when they touch it;
6 keep quiet when eating (don't talk when eating);
7 One hand cannot hold two kinds of tableware at the same time;
8 don't wave tableware at people;
9 three meals are regularly quantified, not partial eclipse and overeating, and cherish food and waste it;
10 When you leave, you should put away the residue in the bowl, put away the chair and say, "Please enjoy your meal, I'll go first".
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Teach children to eat well.
It is the highest family style.
You should know that family is the basic cell of society and the first school in life, so you should go home for dinner more often.
No matter how the times change, no matter how the life pattern changes, we should attach importance to family building, family education and family style.
In family dinners, developing a good family diet style is helpful for individuals to achieve success in society. If you want your child to "eat" well, you can start with the following points:
Appropriate "laziness" to enhance children's independence.
From the age of 4, children should be supported to participate in housework and do something within their power.
For example, get up in the morning to fold the quilt, sweep the floor, wipe the table and take out the garbage, take the children to the vegetable market, choose vegetables to buy food, calculate the price and so on.
If guests come home for dinner, let the children set the table and make some preparations for hospitality.
Second, tailor rules for children.
Simple and unified rules are acceptable for children.
As long as parents persevere and ask their children to spend 65,438+00 minutes with them every day to review the implementation, praise good behaviors and put forward suggestions for improvement, the children will gradually "do things according to the rules".
Third, cultivate children's sense of sharing
Mr. Lu Xun said: "Children's behavior is changed by nature and environment, so Kong Rong will let pears."
For example, at home, children can be encouraged to share fruits and cakes with every member of the family. And to express gratitude to the child, let her feel the joy after sharing.
Besides sharing food and toys, it can also help children share their emotions. For example, parents spend time with their children every day to share what they have seen and heard, and guide their children to share his.
Eating is a comprehensive embodiment of a child's upbringing. If we pay attention to training in our daily life, he will definitely become a family business card at the dinner table.
The way children eat hides the future of the family, which is the highest family style.