When I watched the film carefully, one question stuck in my mind. Does Matsuko's tragic life really stem from the lack of fatherly love?
If this is the case, then the tragic life of Matsuko should not be an example, but the norm.
Unconditional love is a scarce resource at any time, and the parents who can give it are absolutely few. The concept of treating children as an independent individual, treating them with equality and respect, and irrigating their lives with love has only been born for a hundred years. Prior to this, China was a long feudal society, and Europe was a dark Middle Ages. Its * * * feature was that children were regarded as wealth. The cultures in Southeast Asia are very similar. China is a country with three cardinal principles and five permanent members, while Japan is not much better. In this ethical system, the relationship between parents and children is rigid, which is manifested in the fact that fathers are always particularly inaccessible. Just like Jia Zheng in a dream of red mansions, looking after children is training. He never smiles and is called "strict father".
Although the feudal society has ended, the thought of "strict father" has always existed. Rural areas are more serious than cities, and the bottom of society is more serious than the top. I remember watching TV when I was a child, and there was a scene where the father was holding his daughter. Generally, the father in the city holds his daughter in the city, but the father in the countryside is much more dull. I don't know whether it is the deep love or the lack of love. In short, they seldom express their love for their children. When it comes to lack of love and fatherly love, many people are much worse than pine nuts, and not all of them are bad.
So where did the tragedy of pine nuts come from? Three views. Matsuko's outlook on life, world outlook and values revolve around men, and life without men is meaningless to her. All her efforts are to get the love of a man, just a man. As for love or not, it doesn't matter that much, as long as the man is willing to be with her.
She is hungry for men, but whenever a man has a little interest in her, she is willing to devote herself wholeheartedly and become a rib in this man's body She does whatever a man tells her to do, whether she likes it or not. All these outrageous efforts, as long as they can get cheap "together", she feels it is worthwhile.
In her opinion, a person's life is hell, she can't be alone, she must pull a man to be better. This is her greatest sorrow.
The sign of a person's independence is that he can be alone and enjoy being alone. People who have never enjoyed being alone are not enough to live a lifetime. Pine nuts are not an independent person. Her so-called love is not true love, but a dying struggle to escape loneliness. She is a person who is extremely lacking in heart. She doesn't feel her existence. How can such a person give love to others?
Matsuko's three views on male career should be the product of long-term edification of society, family and school. This is not uncommon in Japan. Many Japanese women become full-time housewives after marriage. Although Japan's laws are sound and the rights and interests of full-time women can be guaranteed, in a word, this is a backward concept. Pine nuts should grow up in the fifties and sixties. At that time, although Japan's economy was developed, its concept was not enlightened. During the formation of Matsuko's Three Views, it was accepted that women should take men as their career.
If there are no men, women are worthless, which is the real reason why pine nuts indulge themselves. As long as pine nuts have hobbies and a little enterprising spirit, they will not degenerate into prostitutes or live in garbage dumps. She wears makeup, dresses up and exercises just to find a man. When she was completely disappointed in men, she stopped cleaning herself up and became fat and lame. The room is full of black plastic bags full of rubbish. Why can't she take care of her own life? It is natural for women to please themselves.
God gave her a better card than most people. She has a good family, excellent appearance and figure, and can sing. As long as she has a little heart at work, takes care of her work and life, meets the right man and has a leisurely love, it is the envy of many people. And with her conditions, how can any down-and-out writer, punk or barber get your eye? She played a good deck of cards to pieces, and the fundamental reason was that she lost herself.
She is like a Leng Yue. She doesn't shine and give off heat. She can only give off a little light by a little reflection from the sun, and the sun she lives on is those unreliable love rat. How long does her light and heat last? Dimness is the inevitable result, because that is her true colors. She is not so much giving love as asking for it crazily.
How can a person who is crazy and asking for trouble and destined to be rejected get the respect of others? Songzi's tragic life is not the product of the lack of love, but the product of the distortion of three views.
Sadly, at the end of the film, pine nuts turned into a virgin, and I saw the writer's ulterior motives. Obviously, a woman with a distorted outlook on life is obedient to men in order to get a little warmth, and finally destroys herself, but is beautified into love and dedication. Is this for future generations to follow? Take the Bible as an example, saying that "God is love" and "the value of a person lies not in what he gets, but in what he gives".
This poisoned chicken soup needs a rest.
A person who has lost himself, who is qualified to give love to others?