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I am a boy in Grade Two, and I have no confidence in chasing beautiful girls.
Hello, I'm a junior in the psychology department of Northeast Normal University. Before answering the question, I want to make it clear that I obviously can't make a decision for you. I can only remind you of a few questions that I think you need to think about before chasing her:

First of all, maybe you should take some time to think about whether you really love her. According to you, your only contact was almost the meeting in the canteen, and the reason why you like her seems to be "she's beautiful" and "you've been dreaming about her a lot recently"-are there fewer reasons? Although according to psychological theory, men are usually more likely to fall in love at first sight, it is really too thin to fall in love with a person just because he is beautiful. Another psychological statistic shows that men's dreams are usually far from real life. For example, you will dream about the beautiful salesgirl you met in the mall during the day, but you won't dream about your beloved girlfriend often. In other words, maybe you dreamed of her just because her beauty really gave you a big shock at the moment you met her, but it doesn't mean you love her. What we usually call "thinking during the day and dreaming at night" is a woman on a larger level (many women dream about a man every night after they like him). So I think you can make friends with her first, then get to know her better through contact, and then think about whether you really like her. What attracts you is whether there is something deeper than her appearance.

Secondly, I can see that you are a very responsible man. You thought about your future before you decided to pursue her ~ ~ This is a very mature attitude, which shows that although you like her easily, at least you are serious about your feelings.

However, there is still one aspect missing in your consideration, that is, whether you can really accept her yourself-in fact, love is a very complicated thing. Have you ever thought that you can accept all her shortcomings? Maybe at first you will ignore her many shortcomings because of love, but over time, these will become problems. So my mother told me that before considering whether I like a person, I should put aside his advantages and think about whether I can accept all her shortcomings. Only if you can accept all her shortcomings can you last long.

So, I think, you'd better take some time to understand her various "problems" first?

Thirdly, I believe there is a question that you have never thought about, and that is, are you mature enough to fall in love? More importantly, is she mature enough? Maybe you will say, I am already a man in Grade Two! However, in fact, the so-called puppy love is not about age, but more about whether your mind is mature enough. Of course, I'm not saying that you are immature, but I hope you can seriously consider this problem. Let me give you an example, just to remind you, in case you catch up with her. A very sensitive topic is the sex between lovers. Many people think that it can happen as long as they really love each other, but in fact, true sex should mean completely accepting each other. So many lovers who love each other but don't think clearly are for this reason ...)

Besides considering whether you can bring him material and spiritual enjoyment, you should also consider whether you can face all kinds of risks and difficulties, whether you intend to be truly loyal to her, and so on.

Fourth, I heard you say that the classmates around me are all very sweet in love. I think this must be an important reason why you want to chase her. Every love will have a good start … but "falling in love is always simple, getting along is too difficult …" Are you ready?

Fifth, you have considered the influence of your impulse on her, which is good! You are really a responsible person. You really should consider her acceptance more seriously ... especially whether she already knows how to get along with someone who loves herself and loves herself.

Sixth, if you have considered all the above questions very maturely and decided to pursue her, then there is another problem. I think she is so beautiful, there must be many suitors, so how can we make ourselves different from them? According to my experience, the average girl will habitually directly exclude boys who have "wild desires" for themselves. Friends, on the other hand, will let her down her guard, accept you seriously and get to know you. You don't want your confession to be thrown directly into the trash can by her like other men who write love letters, do you?

Therefore, I think you should get along with him as a senior and friend first, and help her in her study (your good grades are a very favorable condition) and life (but don't act like a suitor), so that she can gradually discover your goodness. Don't you think if she falls in love with you, your feelings will be stronger and more real?

Finally, love is beautiful. I am satisfied with your serious attitude. I hope you can seriously consider my suggestion and wish you a happy life. Come on!