Everyone has infinite fantasies about their future family. In a person’s heart, love and marriage should be beautiful, but there are always destined people in the world that we miss. Here is what we summarized Let’s take a look at all the content about what it means to not marry a girl who is in the first grade of junior high school and not to marry a boy who is in her fifteenth grade!
What does it mean not to marry a girl who is in the first year of junior high school, but not to a boy who is in her fifteenth year? Poor parents in the world.
When two people fall in love for the purpose of getting married, they will first understand all aspects of each other. Hardware and software have become factors that everyone considers. For example, the requirement for men is to have a house and a house. Cars, the requirements for women are to be good-looking and have a decent job. Even each other’s parents’ occupations and the number of siblings will become factors that everyone considers.
Compared with people today, the ancient people’s views on mate selection were definitely relatively simple. They had no so-called hard targets for material aspects, and what they mainly valued was the inner qualities of the other person. However, there are also some weird requirements, such as the saying that "men will not marry girls who are in the first year of junior high school, and girls will not marry boys who are in their fifth year of junior high school."
Let’s take a look at what this saying means. According to our current understanding, children are born every moment, and you cannot choose when to be born. But why in the eyes of our ancestors, girls born on the first day of the lunar month and boys born on the 15th day of the lunar calendar cannot marry or get married. Woolen cloth?
If you have lived in rural areas, then you know that farmers attach great importance to the two festivals of the first and fifteenth day of the lunar calendar. Normally, on these two days of each month, the incense in the temple is very Many people regard these two days as a festive festival and will entertain relatives and friends at home.
Logically speaking, children born on these two days should be popular because they were born on auspicious days. However, according to the older generation, adults are very busy on the first and fifteenth day of the lunar month. If a child is born during these two days, then they will have to allocate half of the time originally used for the festival to take care of the child, and the child will inevitably be distressed. This is incompatible with the festive atmosphere of the day, so it will somewhat spoil everyone's fun.
From another level, due to poor care of children, their characters have defects, such as being withdrawn, irritable, sensitive, etc. We can tell from a child's character the environment in which he grew up. If a child lives in a carefree, positive and optimistic family, then the child's character will be more likable.
If a child’s living environment is accompanied by quarrels since he was a child, such a child will lack a sense of security when he grows up. And those children who grow up with love will be more loving as adults.
If we look at it now, the criteria for selecting a mate mentioned in this proverb have no reference significance. Today's young people will not give up dating just because the other person was born in the first or fifteenth year of junior high school. When choosing a partner, they pay more attention to the other person's personality. In addition, most young people nowadays celebrate their birthdays according to the New Year calendar, and they have no idea about the lunar calendar.
But from this saying, we can also feel the good intentions of parents. Although the children have grown up, they are still children in the eyes of their parents, so in important matters such as marriage, Parents will be more attentive. This saying may seem harsh, but it reveals the parents’ good wishes for their children to have a good home.