When I first knew the word emo, a friend said he was emo. Judging from my ingenuity and context, these three letters may mean "mourning".

Later, I looked up the definition of emo: I am emo, which means having feelings. Generally, they are negative emotions, which can be understood as "I am decadent", "I am depressed", "I am stupid" and "I am not mainstream"

This reminds me of the floating layer in Cloud Village, which is a reference to the human atmosphere, sad and burning.

202 1, Year of the Ox. As a nobody of an era, the law of history has also drawn a stroke on my life spectrum. Even if nothing can penetrate me, I still feel that there is a string missing in my life.

So without exception, I fell into the situation of "I am emo", so that a friend called me to stand up.

In this world, everyone is sick, especially heart disease.

Work frustration, lovelorn, divorce, friends indifference, money disputes ... At any time, there are big and small things that overdraw a person's mind, but it is inevitable that everyone will never encounter them.

The so-called emo is actually that a person's emotions are being pulled by foreign objects and are still desperately drilling. However, there are always people who can accept it calmly. There are always people who often live in the past and eventually get sick.

Who doesn't want to live their own lives and know what they want? Everyone is at midnight emo, and everyone wants to get out of emo. ...

I summed up the reasons for late-night emo, which are nothing more than single interest, rampant perfectionism, too much expectation and unwillingness to admit that I am sick:

1 simple interest

Everyone will form their own boundaries in the process of growing up, which is a circle. If the boundary is too small, you will keep spinning in the same place, and that kind of "frustration" will wrap around every inch of your skin, because you can't escape.

"I'm embarrassed by these things again."

"Why is this annoying job always assigned to me?"

"I am obviously working hard, but I am not recognized."

Work troubles are always everywhere, but some people don't take them to heart, and some people always start an "immersive experience" in their troubles.

As long as human beings are free, they will keep thinking about all kinds of things, most of which are bad.

If you have a hobby of painting and singing after work; If you are willing to break your boundaries and get in touch with more new things, your troubles have no time to bother you. When your troubles get busy, it will find someone else.

So, be a curious person and cultivate your hobbies. When you are upset at work, you can draw pictures; After quarreling with your lover, you can sing; When arguing with friends, you can choose to go. ...

2 perfectionism is rampant

0 or 100.

"All or nothing."

I have a few perfectionist friends around me. If something has a little bit on it, they will "hate my dog" and deny it.

Perfectionists are also afraid of failure. People are creatures who hate failure and mistakes, and want to avoid failure and even make the failure rate zero.

Therefore, perfectionists often have a strong sense of insecurity, demanding of themselves and not confident enough. Moreover, it is difficult to be curious about other things, because perfectionists think these things are incomplete.

I have a certain degree of "spiritual cleanliness" myself. A friend once reminded me: "Never be neat, life is black and white, and everyone is impure."

Later, under the "friendship incitement" of my friends, I came into contact with more things that I once rejected and didn't care about, and really opened up a world for myself.

"Natural selection, survival of the fittest."

However, it takes time to change from a perfectionist to a grayist who shakes hands with the world.

There are too many expectations

Disappointed, because it does not meet expectations. Without unrealistic expectations, there would be no emo, because that psychological line has been drawn to the lowest level.

A friend once told me: Do you know why I always want to talk to you?

"Because this trash can dares to hold anything."

"Because you have a response, I am willing to share these good and bad things with you. I've talked to XXX about this before, but she's always talking about my internal friction and my leisure. I don't think she understands me ... "

"Nothing, you are all my future writing materials."

"You his mama ..."

At first, this friend had different expectations for me and another person, so he was disappointed in that person. However, when her expectations here are high, maybe one day, I can't understand her pain and joy.

"Well, people's joys and sorrows are not connected, so don't expect too much."

Unwilling to admit that he is sick.

Being sick seems to be a hard thing to say, especially mental illness.

Most people may find that only a few of the "elite friends" left after screening know their inner sloppy appearance, and even feel hurt to talk to these people.

Because this intimate and emotional thing really doesn't meet the label of an adult maturity, let alone have the courage to solve problems everywhere.

You know, most people are sick, so are we. Being sick is no big deal. Getting sick without knowing it is a big deal.

We all need to reconcile with ourselves, with the world, write down our emotions, acknowledge their existence, and solve them with confidence.

Finally, I want to send you a few words:

"The way to reduce work stress is to find hobbies outside of work."

"Cherish intimate friends who can complain freely."

"Stop fidgeting and concentrate on what you should do now."