First, families with similar families have little economic gap.
Similar family backgrounds can easily lead to economic equivalence. One buys a house and the other buys a car. These two families can work together to give their children a bright future.
However, the daughter's boyfriend's family obviously does not have these capitals. Not only no, but also that we always feel superior. Perhaps it is the inferiority caused by the family environment!
Without similar environment, the economic inequality between two people will lead to some problems in life. For example, if a daughter wants to buy a dress, she only needs 1800 yuan, but it's a pity for her boyfriend to give up such expensive clothes after wearing them for a while.
The daughter thinks that people are clothes, horses are saddles, and clothes are worn on the body, just beautiful. As for how long to wear it, that's secondary. Her boyfriend thinks this concept of life is wrong.
The daughter also listened to him. As an elder, I can't say anything. I just feel that the economic gap between the two countries is so big that there will be many problems in the future.
This is not an economic condition. One side is obviously higher than the other. Two people will have many problems in marriage, such as Gillian and her ex-husband. The economic conditions of the two were far apart, and they finally broke up.
There is a gap between daughters and boyfriends in terms of economic conditions. At first, they may give in to each other. Over time, there will be contradictions. I hope they can understand each other in their later lives.
Two people can promote each other, which may not be a work scene, but they can face the current difficulties together. Even if two people can't solve it, they can ask their elders for help.
Our love for our daughter is for her to have a better life. It would be great if the two families were together. As for whether she will be happy or not, that is the way for two people to get along.
The child is a good boy, but there are some contradictions between the two people in real life, which makes us very worried. I also hope that they will adjust, especially their daughters and boyfriends.
The happiness that was brewed at the beginning was wasted. As the old saying goes, it is better to tear down ten temples than one marriage. As an elder, I naturally don't want my daughter to be wronged, but I feel very unhappy when I see her scouring rice.
There is no such happy smile on my daughter's face, just a cold smile, a feeling of perfunctory me and her father. I know my daughter is unhappy, and there is nothing wrong with my son-in-law. At that time, I thought it would be nice if we were right.
The right family is not only similar in family, but also similar in thought and cognition. The two children received similar education in similar living environment. This is very important for children's happiness.
Second, the living environment is similar, and the ideological cognition will be similar.
Our family conditions are slightly better. Our daughter is at home, basically indifferent. She has participated in interest classes since she was a child. She plays the piano very well and has received a good education. However, my daughter's boyfriend is a little behind in education.
The reason is that when chatting with my daughter, I will bring out dirty words. This is not a habit, it is caused by inadequate education. As an elder, I can't point it out, but I don't think two people are suitable.
Two people have different understandings on some issues, such as buying a house. My daughter doesn't think it is important to buy a house in the city. If you buy it, a loan will do. But her boyfriend thinks buying a house is a big deal, and whose name to write is very important.
If you can't afford to rent a house, your daughter is fine with it. Are you together to leave later? Is it really that important to write someone else's name when buying a house? Even if it's important, is there anything wrong with writing two people's names?
What's more, their family can't afford the down payment. We can, uh, write our daughter's name, can't we? He thinks that writing his daughter's name means being adopted and disagrees.
The pattern of this boy is really a little small. Dare to accept, is self-confidence. Without such confidence, the road ahead will be very difficult. A person's pattern is seen from his behavior.
Daughter's boyfriend, mother-in-law, does everything her mother says. If his daughter lives with him, she will certainly be wronged. However, at this time, I told my daughter that she wouldn't listen because a big girl couldn't help her mother.
If she noticed this, she might not get along with this boyfriend. As long as he is kind to her, she will throw herself into this relationship without hesitation.
People around say that her daughter is really happy to find a boyfriend who takes care of her. However, I know that this person is unreliable. It's not to look down on people from poor families, but a person's cultivation, which can be seen from his words and deeds.
In the face of his daughter's help, he even called her delicate. A girl, during her physiological period, can't you ask her for help? This is not a question of quality. So, the attitude towards the elderly at home is always a quality problem, right?
What did my daughter say I should take back to his house? He said, give them three thousand dollars and let them buy whatever they want. The daughter said, then come to my house. What will you bring? He said that bringing some yogurt is enough. Old people are willing to drink, but also promote gastrointestinal absorption.
I'm not interested in this thing. I mean, a person's quality can be as bad as none left. As a junior, you don't have to be equal to both sides of the family. Is it more filial to your parents-in-law to pay attention to your girlfriend?
Be kind to your family, everyone will, because there is blood and love in it. For the other family, you can see a person's quality. His behavior shows that the education at home is not in place. Seeing his home confirmed my point of view.
In his family, his mother is a general, and he and his daughter are both soldiers. They are busy there under her command. I can't take it anymore. I think my daughter will definitely suffer when she comes to his house.
Because they were not married, they ordered her to do so. I'm just saying, you accompany me to go out and enjoy the scenery in the country! After taking my daughter out, I chatted while watching the scenery, but my daughter still didn't find any problems.
The marriage was really unpleasant, and my daughter didn't want to go home and tell me, because this marriage was her own choice. She may feel embarrassed to say it, but I see it in my eyes and it hurts in my heart.
As a mother, I naturally want my daughter's life to be happy. Seeing her frown, I felt that my lively and cheerful daughter was gone. Her face, there is no such happy breath, only that kind of bitterness, which is also caused by their different living environments.
If the daughter can be with her ex-boyfriend, their living environment is similar and there are many similarities. Their lives should be happy. If it weren't for my daughter's willfulness, they wouldn't be separated. It's all right now. You look sad. This is the price of not knowing much in advance and being willful.
Third, similar education will have similar ways to deal with problems.
My daughter's education is the kind of formal school education. She is lively and interesting at school and happy at home. After falling in love with this boyfriend, the smile on her face is much less. Ask her why, just sigh.
In an accidental conversation, my daughter told me that her boyfriend was very concerned that she had a boyfriend before and had been with her ex-boyfriend. What age is this? People like me can accept it. Why can't a young man accept it?
What's his education? Have you received a college education? Ask carefully, he worked hard on his own after graduating from high school, and achieved the position of small leader a little bit.
I met my daughter who graduated from college. I like her very much and am crazy about her. The daughter didn't know what was wrong with her, so she agreed and they began to live together.
In the process of getting along, my daughter found many problems. Her boyfriend has a bad temper because of something at work. Bad work can't be a reason to lose your temper.
Just face the problem and solve it. His daughter advised him so, but he just didn't want to change the problem. What is even more frightening is that he still has some violent tendencies, not hitting his daughter, but throwing things around.
If you can't solve the problem, it's no use throwing things. Just letting off steam. There is no remedy for this problem. In the process, I also hurt my daughter and frightened her.
My daughter once said that she broke up, but he actually said that she would never lose her temper in a self-destructive way again, and her daughter actually changed her mind. Such people, without a good education, take extreme measures in the face of problems, and such people are followed by pain.
The daughter saw his sincerity and softened her heart. As a result, after marriage, she was injured and the children suffered. There is nothing wrong with the son-in-law. If this habit is not changed, it will be hard to accept.
Sometimes, I really want to tell my daughter that the happiness of children is very important, and my own happiness is also very important. In the face of such a person, I am on tenterhooks all day, and I don't know what happened to him. His bad mood is like an untimely bomb, which makes his daughter walk on thin ice.
If she is with her ex-boyfriend, two people may have a bright future. At least he dotes on his daughter, which gives me the feeling that she is the princess in the castle. It's nice to feel sunny every day.
The daughter didn't cherish him and chose a man with poor family background and low education as her partner. His way of dealing with problems is simple and rude, which is a headache.
An adult should know how to deal with problems and manage emotions. If we can't even do this, there will be more and more problems at work. If you bring your work home, your home will be a mess.
I can't even handle things at work and at home. Can such a man be entrusted for life? As an adult, you need to control your emotions and distinguish between work and life.
It is a blessing for two people to get along well. However, just because a person loves each other, it is not necessary to accommodate each other indefinitely. There will be no happiness in such a life.
Daughter and boyfriend have different education, different lives and different ways to deal with problems. If two people are forced to be together, happiness is only short-lived. As a mother, I naturally hope they are all well. However, there is no dawn of their happiness at present.
Many female stars are single mothers, such as Jison and Liu Bei. They are also very happy and have found their own happiness. Daughter, I hope you can know your mother's heart, and I only hope you can find your own happiness.