Before being invited to an activity, it is necessary to verify the host of the banquet, the location and time of the activity, whether to invite a spouse, and the host's requirements for clothing. Pay special attention to long-term activities to avoid going to the wrong place, or the host does not invite the spouse but both of them participate.
To attend the banquet, the arrival time is sooner or later, and the length of stay reflects the respect for the host to a certain extent. According to the nature of the activity and local customs, being late, leaving early and staying too short are regarded as disrespect or deliberate neglect. High-ranking guests can arrive later, and ordinary guests should arrive earlier. After the guests leave, they will leave one after another. In our country, people usually attend the banquet on time or two or three minutes in advance or at the request of the host. If you really have something to leave early, you should explain it clearly to the host and leave quietly. You can also say hello in advance and then leave.
When you arrive at the banquet place, take off your coat and hat in the cloakroom first, and then go to the host's welcome room to greet the host. If it is a holiday, congratulations should be expressed.
Step 2 leak
When attending a family dinner, give the hostess a small amount of flowers according to the situation. Some hosts will give each attendee a small souvenir or a flower. At the end of the banquet, the host asked the guests to bring it over. At this time, you can say a word or two of praise to this small gift, but you don't have to express your gratitude seriously. Sometimes, foreign friends want to take the banquet menu away as a souvenir, and sometimes they ask people at the same table to sign the menu as a souvenir. Don't take all kinds of entertainment items, including candy, cigarettes, etc. Unless the owner specially indicates it as a souvenir.
Step 3 Sit and eat
When invited to a party, you should obey the host's arrangement. If it is a banquet, you should know your table number and seat before entering the banquet hall. When you sit down, pay attention to whether your name is written on the seat card on the table. Don't sit around at will. If the neighbors are old people or women, they should take the initiative to help them sit down first. After being seated, the host greeted him and began to eat.
Don't overeat when eating. Finish the food on the plate. If it is not enough, you can take it again. If you encounter a dish that you can't eat or don't like, don't refuse it when the host takes it. Put a small amount on the plate and say "thank you, that's enough". Don't look embarrassed about those bad dishes.
Eat gracefully. Shut up and chew, don't drink soup, and don't make any noise when eating east and west. If the soup is too hot, let it cool before eating. Don't blow with your mouth. Don't spit out the fishbones and bones in your mouth directly. Cover your mouth with a napkin and take it out by hand (chopsticks can be used to eat Chinese food), or spit it gently with a fork and put it on the plate. Leftovers, used tableware and toothpicks should be put on the plate, not on the table. Don't talk with food in your mouth. Cover your mouth with your hand or napkin when picking your teeth.
4. Conversations and toasts at the banquet
When we attend a banquet attended by Chinese and foreign friends, no matter the host, guests or guests, we should talk to the people at the same table, especially the neighbors. Don't talk to only a few acquaintances or only two people. If you don't know your neighbor, you can introduce yourself first.
When you attend a banquet hosted by a foreign friend as the guest of honor, you should know the toast habits of the other party in advance, that is, why and when to toast, so as to make necessary preparations. When clinking glasses, the host and guest touch first, and many people can raise their glasses at the same time, not necessarily clinking glasses. Be careful not to cross glasses when toasting. When the host and guest make speeches and toasts, they should stop eating and talking, pay attention to listening, and don't take this opportunity to smoke. Stand still while playing the national anthem. After talking with guests and clinking glasses with distinguished guests, the host often goes to other tables to propose a toast. In this case, they should stand up and raise their glasses. When clinking glasses, greet each other visually.
It is friendly and lively to toast each other at the party, but don't drink too much. Drinking too much is easy to get rude, even rude, so I must control it within one-third of my alcohol consumption.
5. Take off your coat
In social occasions, no matter how hot the weather is, you can't unbutton and take off your clothes in public. At an informal small dinner party, if the host invites the guest to take off his coat, the male guest can take off his coat and put it on the back of the chair.
Step 6 drink tea and fruit
When drinking tea and coffee, milk and sugar are usually put in different containers. If you want to add milk and sugar, you can add it to the cup yourself. After stirring with a small teaspoon, the teaspoon is still put back in the saucer. When drinking, hold the cup handle in your right hand and the small plate in your left hand.
Eat plows and apples, not whole ones. Cut them into four or six petals with a fruit knife, then peel and core them with a knife and eat them with your hands. When peeling, the knife edge goes inward and cuts inward from the outside. Peel the banana first and cut it into small pieces with a knife. Oranges are cut into pieces with a knife, and oranges, lychees and longan can be peeled and eaten. The rest, such as watermelon and pineapple, are generally peeled and cut into pieces, and can be cut into small pieces with a fork when eating.
7. water bowl
At a formal banquet, when chicken, lobster and fruit are served, sometimes a small water bowl (copper basin, porcelain bowl or crystal glass jar) is served, with rose petals or lemon slices floating on the water surface, which is used to wash hands (once someone mistook it for a drink and became a joke). When washing, wet your fingers with your hands in turn, rinse them gently, and then dry them with napkins or small towels.
8. thank you
In social activities, sometimes after attending a private banquet hosted by a foreign friend, you should send a memo or business card to express your gratitude.
9, buffet and cocktail party to take food
If a buffet or cocktail party is held in a hotel, the waiter should not rush to get it when serving, and then take it in front of me. When people around you don't get the first copy, don't rush to get the second copy. Don't stand around the food table, just stand back and let someone else take it.
10, the use of tableware
Chinese tableware is mainly chopsticks, while western food is knives, forks and plates. Foreigners are usually invited to eat Chinese food, which is mostly eaten in the west. Chopsticks and knives and forks are set. The use of a knife and fork is to hold a knife in your right hand and a fork in your left hand, cut the food into small pieces and then send it to your mouth with a fork. Europeans don't change hands when using, that is, they hold the fork in their left hand from cutting to feeding. Americans, after cutting, put down the knife and send it to the food entrance with a fork in their right hand. Take it from outside to inside in the order of knife and fork when eating. After each dish is finished, put the knife and fork together and put them on a flat plate to show that you are finished. If you haven't finished eating, put it in a figure of eight or a cross, and the knife edge should be inward. When eating chicken and lobster, the owner can tear it with his hand when he signals, otherwise he can cut the meat with a knife and fork and cut it into small pieces to eat. When cutting meat with bones or hard shells, the fork must firmly hold the meat, and the knife should be cut close to the fork edge to avoid slipping. When cutting vegetables, be careful not to hit the plate too hard and make a noise. Foods that are not easy to fork, or foods that are not easy to fork, can be gently pushed onto the fork with a knife. Don't eat with a spoon except soup. Soup should be put in a deep plate or a small bowl. When drinking, scoop it up from the inside out with a spoon and put it in your mouth. When you finish eating, you can lift the plate out slightly. Eat fishy food, such as fish, shrimp, game, etc. Add lemon. You can squeeze out the juice by hand and drop it on the food to remove the fishy smell.
1 1. Encountered an unexpected situation.
In the banquet, if something unusual happens due to carelessness, for example, the knife and fork hit the plate too hard and make a noise, or the tableware fell to the ground, or the drink spilled, and so on. You should be calm and don't worry. When the tableware makes a noise, you can easily say "sorry" to your neighbor (or your host). If you drop the tableware, you can change it. If the drink spills on the neighbor, apologize and help dry it; If the other person is a woman, just hand me a clean napkin or handkerchief and dry it yourself.