As the saying goes, "A hundred people have different attitudes". Some people are strong-willed, and they will always have an indomitable spirit. This is called self-motivation. It is a good competitive state. People with this character generally don't mix too badly unless they don't use the right path.

there is another kind of person whose personality is like a mimosa. When you meet someone who is better than yourself, you will gradually become filthy, cover up your own advantages, and feel that Pepsi is not as good as others. This is called inferiority. It's a bad personality defect. < P > People like this usually have an inner show. People who have a real learning attitude and are self-motivated can calm down and study a certain skill. Don't make public, don't show off, be a low-key person, and do things with high profile; If you don't sing, you will be a blockbuster. If you don't want to do better, you will lose everyone.

in short, self-motivation is good, but inferiority is not necessarily harmful. Self-motivated, is the yardstick to test the success or failure of the mind, be brave after knowing shame, be humble and work hard, and be good!

1. Wrong mental set

Due to the inferiority complex, people's self-motivation and self-esteem have been hit, making them timid, afraid to express themselves and stopped developing themselves. Not only that, but also a wrong psychological set. The so-called mental set, also called mental orientation, is a special state of psychological preparation when people perceive and evaluate objective things. Psychological stereotype has both positive and negative effects on people's psychological activities. Once a bad psychological stereotype is formed, it will create an obstacle and affect people's understanding of things. If someone says that his teeth are ugly, when he speaks, it seems that everyone is looking at him with contempt. Inferiority will also bury and stifle talents. Many people fail, not because they can't succeed, but because they dare not fight for it.

There is a very interesting story: A mother took her son to the zoo to see elephants. There were many short wooden stakes around the elephants, and the son's mind had a question: "Mom, such a big elephant must have great strength, but why didn't it break this thin chain and escape?" His mother told him: "This elephant was very small when it first came here. At that time, it was surrounded by this small wooden stake and low shed. At that time, it wanted to break the chain and run out, but because of its small strength, it failed every time, so it lost the confidence to break free from the chain. Although it grows up day by day, I don't know that I have great power now. If I earn hard, I can escape. It didn't dare to think so, and of course it wouldn't do so, so it had to be locked here forever and die of old age. " These are all false psychological stereotypes brought by inferiority complex, which will seriously hinder people's development once formed.

2. Obstacles to interpersonal relationship

On the one hand, people with inferiority become sensitive and suspicious, and always feel that others are talking about themselves behind their backs and laughing at themselves, so they often protect themselves with a negative or wrong form of defense, and they are solitary and dare not get along with others normally. In addition, poor self-expression and lonely self-isolation will create a bad impression on others, resulting in interpersonal barriers. On the other hand, people with inferiority complex are prone to "halo effect", that is, people only see their own shortcomings and ignore their own advantages, thus forming a vicious circle of negative self-evaluation.

On the surface, they often belittle others and crowd out others to relieve their inner pressure, thus causing disharmony in interpersonal relationships.

In A Dream of Red Mansions, Lin Daiyu is a girl with a strong sense of inferiority. Since she set foot in Jia's house, she has felt a sense of inferiority. Although she is loved by Jia, she always feels inferior to other girls because of the decline of her family. This talented woman in Suzhou has a strong self-esteem and is introverted by nature, so whenever she meets various gathering occasions, in order to protect her self-esteem, she is alone in a corner and unhappy, unwilling to actively associate with others. It is this extreme inferiority complex of Lin Daiyu that prevents her from getting along well with all her sisters. Her feelings in Jiafu are indeed like what she said in "Funeral Poems", "361 days a year, the wind, the sword and the frost are pressing each other hard."

3. Psychological and behavioral troubles

People with a strong sense of inferiority are psychologically fragile, unable to withstand setbacks, have poor adaptability, are depressed and depressed, often feel ashamed of their incompetence and self-pity, always don't believe in their abilities, knowledge, experience and talents, and are timid and hesitant in doing things, or give up when encountering difficulties and setbacks. Therefore, if a person is dominated by inferiority complex, his spiritual activities will be severely constrained, so that his intelligence and creativity will be severely suppressed and he will not be able to play his role.

In psychology, inferiority is a kind of character defect, which is manifested in the low evaluation of self-ability, thus making people depressed, pessimistic and withdrawn, always feeling inferior to others, and always feeling that others look down on themselves. They avoid everything, retreat everywhere, dare not show their faces, and are afraid of making a fool of themselves in public.

1. Self-enclosed

Mainly manifested as not actively interacting with others, unable to understand and communicate with others, self-centered, refusing to make friends, and not attaching importance to friendship; I will avoid competition and competition, refuse to participate in any group activities, and I don't want to show my face and show myself.

2. Social phobia

Social phobia is a psychological abnormal phenomenon that makes an inappropriate response to social occasions and their stimuli. Its main feature is that students have a strong sense of fear as soon as they enter social occasions (or public occasions), and they can't control themselves or even associate with others at all.

3, abnormal psychological quality

It is difficult to concentrate, often suspicious, very sensitive to other people's comments, and hard to accept criticism. Degrade and envy others. They also often give up on themselves, often in a depressed, eccentric and overly sensitive state of mind.

4. Poor language expression

is mainly manifested in incoherent expression, lack of emotion or poor vocabulary. This is because a strong sense of inferiority is likely to hinder the normal work of the language learning system in the brain, and it is not good at communicating and exchanging ideas with others, which also affects the amount of information in vocabulary and language.

know yourself correctly and rebuild your confidence. People with low self-esteem are often willing to accept others' low evaluation of him rather than accept others' high evaluation. When comparing with others, most people like to compare their own weaknesses with the advantages of others. The more you compare, the more you feel inferior to others. The more you compare, the more discouraged you are, and naturally you feel inferior.

Face setbacks calmly and strengthen psychological balance. It is necessary to realize that people can't be perfect. If there are strengths, there must be weaknesses. There are advantages and disadvantages; Where there is success, there must be failure. When encountering setbacks and failures, don't blame others, and don't despise yourself. We should objectively analyze the environment and our own conditions, so that we can find a psychological balance and find that life is full of opportunities.

Take part in social interaction extensively, and enhance the courage of life. Most people with low self-esteem are withdrawn, introverted and unsociable. They often isolate themselves and rarely communicate with people around them. Due to the lack of psychological communication, it is easy to lead to one-sided psychological activities. People with low self-esteem can participate more in social interaction, feel the joy, anger, sadness and joy of others, and enrich their life experience. Through communication, we can express repressed feelings, enhance the courage of life and get out of the quagmire of inferiority; Through communication, we can enhance mutual friendship and feelings, make our mood cheerful and restore our self-confidence.

open your eyes and face others squarely. The eyes are the windows of the soul. A person's eyes can reflect personality, reveal emotions and convey subtle information. Dare not face others, which means inferiority, timidity and fear; Avoiding other people's eyes reflects a dark and open mind. Facing others squarely means telling each other: "I am honest and aboveboard;" I respect you very much and like you. " Therefore, facing others squarely is a reflection of positive attitude, a symbol of self-confidence and a display of personal charm.

hold your head high and walk quickly. Many psychologists believe that people's walking posture and pace have a certain relationship with their psychological state. Lazy posture and slow pace are manifestations of depression, and they are a reflection of their unpleasant feelings towards themselves, their work and others. If you look closely, you will find that the movements of the body are the result of mental activities. Those who have been hit and rejected are dragging their feet and lack confidence.

On the other hand, by changing the posture and speed of walking, it is helpful to adjust the mood. To show extraordinary confidence, you should walk faster than the average person. Speeding up walking is like telling the whole world: "I want to go to an important place and do something very important." A brisk and agile pace and a high posture will bring people a clear state of mind, make them feel inferior and escape, and breed self-confidence.

practice speaking in public. In public, taciturn people think: "My opinion may be worthless. If I say it, others may feel stupid. I'd better not say anything. Besides, others may know more than me, and I don't want them to know that I am so ignorant." These people often make a vague promise to themselves: "Wait until another time." But they know very well that they can't fulfill this promise. Every time he is silent, he is poisoned by a lack of confidence again, and he will lose confidence more and more.

On the positive side, if you try your best to speak, you will increase your confidence. No matter what kind of meeting you attend, take the initiative to speak every time. Many people who were originally dull or stuttered became confident by practicing speaking in public, such as Bernard Shaw, tanaka kakuei and Demosthenes. Therefore, speaking in public is the "vitamin" of confidence.

learn to smile. Most people know that laughter can give people confidence, and it is a good medicine to cure the lack of confidence. But there are still many people who don't believe this, because they never try to smile when they are afraid.

Real laughter can not only cure one's own bad mood, but also immediately dissolve the hostile mood of others. If you sincerely smile at a person Zhan Yan, he will have a good impression on you, which is enough to make you confident. As a poem says: "Smile is the rest of the tired, the day of the depressed, the sunshine of the sad, and the best nutrition of nature."

We should not have inferiority complex, but be full of confidence to overcome it. Once you break through the shackles of inferiority, you will have a brand-new understanding of your inner potential, and you will surely achieve great things in the near future.

self-motivation, which enables you to make continuous progress and discover your self-worth, is a positive attitude.

Inferiority is a psychological function. Being too concerned about the influence of the outside world on yourself, often living in the eyes of others and losing self-appreciation. If this negative emotion continues for a long time, it will make you negative, lose interest in life and lose self-confidence.

Sometimes I feel inferior. If I turn this negative feeling into a kind of motivation, I will push myself forward and try to change my own shortcomings. If I fall behind, I will become active and urge myself to change my inferiority.

In fact, everyone has his own advantages and strengths, and everyone has a life envied by others. You don't have to just see the advantages of others, live your own life, be the best you can be, Do not forget your initiative mind, be positive, face life with sunshine, and you will find that you are also great!

Solving psychological problems is a very important topic in life, and it is also a profound knowledge. It seems easy to say, but it is difficult to do it in practice. In short: as long as you learn to know and adjust your self-psychology, try to solve your inner troubles, embrace happiness and establish a good health consciousness. Inferiority: when you can't meet your expectations, you often have a little inferiority complex. Life itself is unfair. No matter what your situation is, you can only go all out. Inferiority: if you think too low of yourself, you can't do anything, and people can't be proud and think too high of yourself. In the end, no one can respect you.

Inferiority and arrogance are both taboos in life, both of which can ruin people's bright future. However, I think the former will do more harm, because arrogance will only have one side of self-confidence.

If a person has been self-deprecating and self-pitying for a long time, and feels that he is nothing like a human being and looks down on himself, then this person is basically decadent, just like a boat that is out of line, a broken kite, floating in the wind, letting it sink into Egypt, and ending his life, the sages said that sorrow is greater than heart death. If people get to this point, they are dead and not buried, so what is the meaning of life?

People who feel inferior are cowards, who dare not face the reality, setbacks, difficulties and challenges, have no wisdom in life, are short-sighted, narrow-minded, lack of ideological realm, weak will and feel inferior, which is undoubtedly a fatal blow to life. Never fall into it, and never dial it yourself.

only self-improvement, self-encouragement, perseverance and courage are the choices for success, and there is no other way.

inferiority complex = one of negative emotions.

People with inferiority complex account for more than 81% of the total number. It can even be said that everyone has a certain inferiority complex. What is important is how to adjust it.

Because we know social animals and are very emotional, we will make an analogy. The important thing is that we will be attracted by the advantages of strangers, and we will naturally feel that we are not as strong as him or her.

I didn't know that the other party thought so.

If the psychological endurance is not good, you will hurt yourself in inferiority, or even erase your own advantages.

feel redundant.

I have a clever way to deal with inferiority complex, because I used to be an inferiority complex.

people should be self-motivated when they are alive. The ancients said that people live with a face and a tree with a skin, so people have self-motivation, and a positive attitude can make people forge ahead, so that they can create the value of life, and talents will not feel inferior. Conversely, complaining about others will make people feel inferior. From then on, life will not be wonderful, so they can't feel inferior.

Zeng Guofan has a saying that striving for strength in self-study should not be based on winning others. By extension, it means that you are better than yourself, and tomorrow is better than today, as long as you make progress every day, instead of comparing with others. If the motivation for progress comes from the contest with others, you will eventually suffer from greed, jealousy and inferiority, which will cause disaster.

Inferiority is a manifestation of unhealthy psychology, and you have no confidence in yourself and lack confidence in doing things. Of course, you can't be arrogant, and arrogance is even more undesirable. A person should be confident and steady when doing things, in order to do things well and achieve the ultimate.

haha. Inferiority is not "there are many evils but no benefits". When emotions affect other aspects of you, you can transform them.

First of all, "inferiority complex" means feeling that you are not good enough. What needs to be distinguished is that I just "this part" is not good enough. Instead of "all my places are not good enough".

Then I can turn "inferiority complex" into "motivation for progress": "I can do better". Be aware of your own shortcomings and face them squarely. Do what you can, change what you can, and change "deficiency" into "I can do better" through action.