1 The three most classic chat expressions
First of all, naturally invite to chat
When I first added my sister's WeChat, self-familiarity can make your chat less detours and eliminate the strangeness with my sister in the fastest time. When the strangeness is eliminated, isn't it much easier for your sister to let down her guard and chat with her again?
When communicating with unfamiliar sisters, many boys always subconsciously ask their sisters, "How old are you?" "Where are you from?" "What do you do?" "What's your name?" There are no technical problems, such boys are relatively straight, have low emotional intelligence and generally have no love experience.
You know, asking questions is just for chatting with strangers. This kind of chat can easily make your chat into a strange situation, and "strange" girls will be psychologically defensive to you. How can a girl chat happily with you?
Look at the following chat words:
1, "Looking at the photos of your circle of friends, I think of my primary school classmates, and I feel like my childhood again" (like)
2. "Big wavy hair with your velvet coat makes you look very elegant" (great details)
3. "Why don't little night owls sleep" (nickname, suitable for night)
4. "The horoscope says we are suitable for chatting today" (creating curiosity)
5. "Your clothes are very similar to the runway, and I think your clothes are very good" (cold reading)
Second, show high value.
Love itself is a value game. Men pursue women with fair skin, beautiful appearance and long legs, while women like men with confidence, intelligence, high emotional intelligence and ability, so you should know how to show your high value in chatting and gradually increase your sisters' goodwill towards you.
What the old irons need to pay attention to here is that showing high value does not mean showing off, such as "I drive a BMW and have a duplex house in the city", "Look, my watch is Bulgari" and "I just talked about a 5 million project". This will only make girls think that your emotional intelligence is low.
What is the correct way to show value? It is told in an indirect way by telling stories.
Look at the following chat words:
1, "I feel full of power now. I just worked out in the gym for an hour, and now I'm going home to take a bath "(indicating that I like fitness and have a healthy lifestyle).
2. "When I went out to eat with friends and didn't serve food, I felt hungry (I lost a photo of a high-profile restaurant)" (to show my taste in life)
3. "Recently, our company has several projects to do, and we are very busy every day" (to show our self-motivation)
4. "Every time our company gets together, they push me to sing on stage" (to show my good character and singing skills)
5. "I like this feeling of freedom (losing a travel photo)" (indicating that I like to travel and have a rich life)
Third, emotional chat.
We all know that girls are more emotional than rational animals. Emotion is their greatest feature. Happy is happy, angry is angry, which is basically dominated by emotions.
Why many boys can't stimulate girls' desire to chat is because they only pay attention to literal meaning, don't pay deep attention to girls' emotions, and have no emotional interaction with girls, so it is naturally difficult to chat.
Therefore, it is necessary to grasp the interest points of girls and have more emotional interaction with them, so as to have a continuous and in-depth chat with girls.
Look at the following chat words:
1, "With my intuition of fortune telling for more than 20 years, I feel that your personality is like a cat."
2. "Your women's sixth sense is really accurate. We men seem to be naked in front of you."
3. "Do you want to be as thin as lightning and make women all over the world jealous of you?"
4. "Although you are good-looking, there is a heart that won't give up easily under the good-looking appearance."
5. "Looking at your photos gives me a very literary feeling, and literary girls are generally more romantic. Are you like this? "
2 Chatting with girls, oral expression ability
Exaggerate and admit mistakes
When a girl points out your shortcomings, don't excuse, don't lie, and don't deny it. Admit it and exaggerate it.
For example, a girl asks, "Do you often meet such girls?"
You replied, "Yes, you are the100th person I accosted today."
Identify false questions and bypass them without answering them.
Not all questions need answers. Sometimes she just asks them out of curiosity, but she doesn't really want to know. For example, a girl asks you, "Do you like children?"
The easiest way to deal with it is to pretend not to hear it.
Admit it first, then deny it.
Contrary to the exaggerated admission method above. Pretend to admit the girl's accusation first, and then lead to a new explanation, so that the girl can find herself stupid.
The girl asked, "Are you chasing girls?"
You replied, "Yes, I picked up a lot of girls ... I picked up a lot of girls in the swimming pool."
The girl asked, "Do you want to chase me?"
You replied, "Yes. I recently finished sprinting and prepared to participate in the Olympic Games, lacking a sparring partner. "
Ask a rhetorical question
Rhetorical question is a common way to jump out of the trap of the other party. Those politicians like to play this old trick during the US presidential election.
In fact, the essence is still "broken frame." The other party designs a frame, and instead of jumping in, you throw her a new frame.
Some questions give you two choices on the surface, but in fact they don't give you a chance to choose. Whichever answer you choose is a trap.
Just like the alternative questioning method in marketing: "Do you want one tea egg or two?"
The girl asked an embarrassing question: "If your mother and I both fell into the water, who would you save first?"
You can ask, "If your father and I both fall into the water, who will you save first?"
Replace "I …" with "you …"
Any question that makes you feel embarrassed is because you try to answer it with "I …". If you jump out of the circle and turn "my question" into "your question", you won't feel embarrassed and difficult to answer.
"I" refers to myself, not defense. Answering questions with "I ..." is an excuse to make you look weak and make it worse.
"You" means pointing at each other, not attacking. Answer the question with "You …", aggressive, tit for tat, strong and confident!
For example, if you talk to a girl and say you want to know her, she asks, "Why?"
If we use "I …", we can think of the answer as "I think you are beautiful …" "I fell in love with you at first sight …" "I'm not a bad person, so what does it matter if I know you?" None of these answers are strong.
Do you remember the devil's answer: "Because you don't look like a bad person."