Interviewee: Mix (pseudonym), 36, from Harbin.

I don't know if this society is too sinister, or if I am too simple and easy to be deceived. My husband, who has always been simple and honest, always separates books, never philandering, and has been with my best friend behind my back for more than a year.

I am 36 years old. I used to have a happy family, but I didn't expect it to be rewritten three months ago. Because three months ago, I found out that my honest husband was cheating on me, and the other person was actually my best friend.

I have a good sister named Xiaobo. Xiaobo and I are good friends, just like sisters. We got married and had children in the same year. The two children are also good friends. If they don't meet for a week, the two little guys will miss each other.

Xiaobo and I are good friends, that is, we can share everything except our husband. There are no secrets between us. She knows all my troubles, including my husband's indifference. I also know all her family secrets, including her husband's affair. I helped her when she was in trouble and comforted me when I was in trouble. Many times I think that she is my best friend in my life.

Xiaobo's husband is very kind and obedient to her. Although he once had an affair, based on his present performance, Xiaobo forgave him, and I also regarded him as my good friend.

Moreover, my husband and I have been married for more than ten years, and our feelings are always stumbling. Sometimes, I even envy Xiao Bo. Although her husband is wrong, he is still so kind to her, much better than my husband is to me. My husband belongs to that kind of boring person and doesn't like to show himself.

Some time ago, with a woman's intuition, I found that my husband was "not right." I used to be informal at home, and my mobile phone was readily available. Now I always carry it with me. Sometimes answering the phone and reading text messages will make people feel "something is wrong"

I secretly printed out my husband's mobile phone bills in the last three or four months, and found that he and Xiaobo had many records of phone calls and text messages. All these clearly show that the relationship between them is extraordinary. I took the list and asked my husband, "What's the matter?" My husband begged me to forgive him, saying that Xiao Bo took the initiative. She told him that she had been secretly in love with him all these years, and would not destroy each other's family, as long as she could be with him. My husband said he was wrong and did something wrong to me. He promised that he would never have any contact with Xiao Bo again. At that moment, my tears were completely out of control.

I found Xiaobo, and she cried and said, "We are just taking part in accidental amusement, and you can still live with him." I can feel that she likes my husband very much, and even thinks that God is unfair, so I met my husband first. She asked me to forgive her for the sake of the children and not to tell her husband. She said that if her husband knew, her home would be gone.

I still love my husband in my heart, and I don't have the courage to ask for a divorce for the sake of my children and family, but the thought of my husband and my best friend makes me as sick as swallowing a fly, and it will be difficult to forgive them for a while.

Teacher Li's comments: With the improvement of social civilization, people's tolerance for cheating is also increasing, and respect for human nature brings about the weakening of marriage stability. Judging from the contact cases in recent years, there are quite a few female friends cheated by their girlfriends. There are three main reasons: first, girlfriends are familiar with each other's marital status and know the weaknesses of each other's marriage, so it is easy to get involved in each other's marriage; Second, there are frequent exchanges between girlfriends, and some of them are still friends, so it is easy to hide in friendship. The third is to be with your girlfriends at will, let your husband take it home, and have difficulty arranging her husband to help. Inadvertently created many opportunities for girlfriends to contact their husbands alone.

Female friends must keep in mind the "fire prevention, theft prevention and girlfriends prevention" in the new era. No matter how good a girlfriend is, she is also an outsider. "It is indispensable to guard against people." The secret between husband and wife can't be leaked to girlfriends casually, so girlfriends and husbands should keep a certain distance so that they won't regret it for a long time.

Being cheated by your best friend is a double deception to your friend and husband. It will be painful and it will take some time to get out. This female friend expressed her love for her husband after being betrayed by her husband and best friend, which is a reasonable cognition. Female friends should know that a man's infidelity does not mean that he has no love, nor does it mean that he wants a divorce. He may just be quick-witted, as his girlfriend said, just taking part in accidental amusement. Maintaining a marriage is not easy. Under such circumstances, we must be calm. We must conscientiously sum up the reasons why husbands and girlfriends do this, and strive to repair the fence that binds marriage. I suggest this female friend reflect on her past, don't completely blame her best friend and husband, and don't cling to this matter. She should learn to divert her attention, find out what she did badly and try to avoid similar situations in the future.