Etiquette, the rules of communication between people, is a language and a tool. Because of the important root of the formation of etiquette - religious beliefs - different, so that the world's people who believe in different religions to comply with the different etiquette. China is one of the four ancient civilizations, and the Chinese nation is the only civilization and nation that has been passed down for thousands of years. Chinese etiquette, which began in the Xia, Shang and Zhou dynasties and flourished in the Tang and Song dynasties, has gradually formed a system through continuous development and change. Western society, the successor of several ancient civilizations, had been echoing China in the East. After the darkness of the Middle Ages, it eventually ushered in the Renaissance and gave birth to capitalism and modern civilization, producing modern technology and culture. China and the West have very different ceremonial cultures. With the increasing pace of China's reform and opening up, cross-border communication is increasing, the differences between Chinese and Western etiquette culture is more and more obvious, the impact of such differences can not be ignored, in the Chinese and Western etiquette has not been a perfect blend of the previous, it is necessary for us to understand the differences in these etiquette. First, the difference between the language of communication daily greetings, the Chinese people mostly use "eaten?" "Where are you going?" etc., which reflects a sense of intimacy between people. But for Westerners, this kind of greeting will make the other person feel sudden, awkward, and even unhappy, because Westerners will interpret this kind of questioning as a kind of "cross-examination", and feel that the other person is inquiring about their private life. In the West, everyday greetings are greeted with a simple "Hello" or, depending on the time of day, with "Good morning!" "Good afternoon!" "Good evening!" That's all. The British will say, "It's a nice day today!" In Chinese, only people who are familiar and close to each other are allowed to call each other by their first names. In the West, however, "calling people by their first names" has a much wider scope than in Chinese. In the West, the common use of "Mr." and "Mrs." to address strangers who do not know their names, the teenage or twenty-something women can be called "Miss", married women can be called "Ms." or "Ms.". For women in their teens or twenties, they can be addressed as "Miss", and married women can be addressed as "Ms." or "Mrs.". Among family members, they can generally call each other by their first names or nicknames, regardless of their seniority. At home, you can call your father and mother by their first names. All male elders can be called "uncle" and all female elders can be called "auntie". This is not possible in China, where you have to distinguish between the generations, the old and the young, or else you will be considered impolite. In Chinese and Western languages, there are many different ways of saying goodbye. For example, when saying goodbye to a patient, Chinese people often say "drink more boiled water", "put on more clothes", "rest early" and so on, to show their care for the patient. But Westerners will never say things like "drink more water" because it is considered to be dictating. For example, they will say "take care" or "I hope you get well soon" and so on. Second, the difference between the dining etiquette of the Chinese people have a saying that "food is the sky", which shows the status of food in the minds of the Chinese people, so the Chinese people will eat as a top priority. Chinese cuisine focuses on color, aroma, taste, shape and meaning of the dishes, even more than the focus on nutrition, as long as the food is delicious and to look good, nutrition, on the contrary, seems unimportant. Western diet is more concerned about nutrition and absorption, is a scientific concept of diet. Westerners pay more attention to the nutrition of food and ignore how the color, aroma, taste, shape and meaning of food, their diet is mostly for survival and health, and it seems that they do not pay attention to the enjoyment of taste. In terms of dining atmosphere, Chinese people like to be lively when they eat, many people gather around to eat and drink together, laughing and joking, all together to create a lively and warm dining atmosphere. Unless it is in a very formal banquet, Chinese people do not have any very special etiquette at the table. Westerners, on the other hand, like a quiet and elegant environment when dining, and they believe that they must pay attention to their manners at the table, and must not lose their etiquette, for example, they must not make any unpleasant noises during the meal. Chinese and Western banquet etiquette is also distinctive. In China, from ancient times to the present day, most of the left as the honor, in the feast guests, the status of the guests will be very noble guests arranged in the left seat, and then arranged in turn. In the West is to the right as the honor, men and women spaced out and seated, couples are also separated and seated, female guests seat than the male guests seat is slightly higher than the men to be located on their right to pull open the chair for the female guests, in order to show respect for the lady. In addition, Westerners should sit properly when eating, and think that it is very rude to bend over, bow your head and eat with your mouth, but this is exactly the way Chinese people usually eat. Eat Western food, the host does not advocate heavy drinking, Chinese wine on the table is a must, to wine to cheer, sometimes to show respect for each other, drinking time is a cup of a cup of wine. Third, the difference in dress etiquette Western men in formal social occasions usually wear conservative style suits, white shirts, tie. They like black, so usually wear black shoes. Western women in formal occasions to wear dress suits. It is also customary for women to wear earrings when going out. In western countries, especially in the United States, people usually like to wear casual clothes, such as T-shirts and jeans. Nowadays, Chinese people are dressing more and more westernized, the traditional Zhongshan suit, cheongsam and so on have been out of the history stage. Formal occasions, men and women dress in the same way as in the West. In the usual city life, but will see a lot of people wearing undershirts, shorts, slippers and other unseemly clothing. Etiquette is a kind of culture, which has vertical inheritance and horizontal borrowing and integration. With the accelerating pace of globalization in the world, the economy, culture, high-speed collision and integration of the background, a large number of Western culture into China, China's traditional etiquette is also constantly subject to the impact of Western etiquette and culture. How to protect the traditional etiquette of the Chinese nation and remove its dregs, and make a reasonable and effective integration with the Western etiquette has become a topic that people constantly think and discuss. More and more people realize that Chinese and Western etiquette and culture will penetrate each other and develop continuously. Take catering as an example. Nowadays, foreign fast food and western food account for a large proportion of China's food market, and more and more people are beginning to try and accept these foreign foods. McDonald's almost represents a cultural fashion, and has become the symbol of American culture in the field of catering. At the same time, the aristocratic culture of France and the gentleman culture of England also flooded into China with food. With the exchange of Chinese and Western food culture, not only brought cakes, bread, cocktails and other Western dishes, but also brought some advanced Western production technology and dietary methods. All these have injected new vitality into the ancient Chinese food culture. Of course, the influence of our long and splendid food culture overseas is also growing, and a large number of Chinese restaurants have appeared in almost all parts of the world, and Chinese food is increasingly welcomed and loved by people from all over the world. For example, Peking duck has become a local delicacy in the hearts of foreigners. However, in the process of fusion of Chinese and Western etiquette and culture, Chinese people are blindly enthusiastic about the West, and unconsciously fall into two misunderstandings: First, it is to take the Western etiquette to replace the traditional etiquette of our Chinese nation. Etiquette is the most representative thing of a nation. For example, among young people, the tendency to hold foreign-style weddings, to celebrate Western festivals, and so on, is a tendency that should not be ignored. Western etiquette just as folklore knowledge to understand what is not wrong, if the tendency to over-ambitious, the loss of national self-esteem, the nation's traditional etiquette will also be submerged. Secondly, the focus of etiquette education is concentrated on the operational level, such as how many degrees of bowing, handshake to stop for a few seconds and so on. It is not impossible to talk about these issues, but if they are only superficial, etiquette will become empty formalism. It is undeniable that today's internationally accepted etiquette is basically Western etiquette. The reason for this phenomenon is not merely the power of the West, but the deeper reason lies in the unity of Western values, in the high degree of recognition and deep consciousness of Westerners of their own culture. All this is closely related to the social foundation of Christianity, because liturgy is an important way of religious activities, due to the devout belief in religion, Westerners have been receiving such liturgical education and inculcation since childhood, so that liturgy can be naturally manifested in human behavior. The high degree of spiritual and material, political and cultural integration makes people gain a high degree of self-confidence and a sense of superiority, and it is the self-confidence and sense of superiority of Westerners that gives Western culture a strong infectious force, so that its culture of etiquette is regarded as the world's standard. Comparing with our present Chinese social condition, the gap between us and the West is obvious. The fusion of Chinese and Western etiquette and culture, in our today's China, is more or less borrowed from the West. But whether we are borrowing from the West, or whether we are creating our own system of etiquette, it is not formally difficult. What is difficult is for us to have a complete value system, a high degree of recognition and a deep awareness of our own culture. We should learn from the Western etiquette, not only its form, but also its inner soul, only then we can build up our own self-confidence and sense of superiority, and can establish our infectious power. The revival of the nation is not only a revival of strength, but also a revival of culture. Only when others recognize our culture, can we really make our etiquette work in the world. Without etiquette, a person cannot stand, without etiquette, a matter cannot be accomplished, and without etiquette, a country will not be peaceful. A society with a lack of etiquette is often an immature society. And a society with less uniform or even contradictory standards of etiquette is often an unholy society. Etiquette is the foundation of the whole social civilization, and it is the most direct and comprehensive expression of social civilization. To create a harmonious society, we must start with etiquette. China is facing unprecedented challenges today, whether it is material, spiritual, cultural aspects, there is an urgent need for a complete and reasonable set of values for unification. And etiquette culture is undoubtedly the unification of the "vanguard", only recognize the differences between Chinese and Western etiquette culture, the two reasonable and effective integration, in order to establish a contemporary Chinese society suitable for the etiquette culture system, to achieve the ideal of a harmonious society.