Hello, I'm Benben (although few people pay attention, I still want to say hello). Recently, due to moving and taking wedding photos, the reading plan of Alien and Skin was completed within the originally set time, which was postponed.
Get down to business. Before reading this book, I always believed in a sentence, "Genius lies in diligence". After reading Alien, I believe this sentence even more. Hahaha, it is not contradictory.
Gladwell, the author of the book, begins with the longevity of a small town named rossetto, and tells that some researchers have investigated the factors that may affect longevity through various analysis, such as diet, exercise, genes, geographical location, etc. However, these are not the reasons. The reason for the longevity of small town residents is the social environment itself. People are very friendly, the whole town is particularly United and mutually supportive, advocating equality, the rich are willing to help the losers without showing off their wealth, and people have no pressure on life. In this way, mental health leads physical health, and finally the secret of longevity is obtained, and the author believes that success has similar secrets.
The first factor to become heterogeneous-environmental factors
In this link, the author uses the Canadian ice hockey team as an example. People usually only realize that which star has good skills and higher personal talents (yes, we are used to blaming other people's success on talent, of course, there are other reasons). This is our general idea, and in reality, the biographies of celebrities we read include some successful people we have seen and heard. All families are ordinary or even poor. Through their own hard work, they finally become successful people, win the wealth and beauty, and reach the peak of their lives. It is precisely because of this portrayal of successful people that we think that success is only the business of some people, and it has nothing to do with us people who eat melons, because we have neither the talent nor the efforts of successful people, so we can only be the people who eat melons. In fact, the author's first short story tells us that success has an important factor-environmental factors.
The selection of ice hockey in Canada started from primary school. The primary school began to divide the ice hockey players into groups according to their ages, and then selected the outstanding players from each age group for quasi-training, and so on, until the best ice hockey players were selected. Including the exam-oriented education in our country is also in this form, such as junior high school, college entrance examination, postgraduate entrance examination and doctoral study. It's all a layer-by-layer exam, and finally the best talents are selected. These seem to rely on personal efforts and talent to achieve success. In fact, as far as ice hockey stars are concerned, this is not all the result of hard work and talent. Because the selection boundary is from October to February every year, children born in October will have a gap of 1.2 months more than other peers. In fact, this is what we call the problem of birthday size. However, because they are all children born in the growth period, the gap of 1 months is definitely a huge difference in their physical maturity. According to this conclusion, the author investigated the birth date of ice hockey stars and found that
It is precisely for this reason that some people think that this assessment system is unfair and should be randomly selected in the final round of selection, or randomly selected from the beginning, rather than grouped according to age. Well, I just heard about it, hahaha. . .
The second factor to be different-opportunity
The author attributed the success of The Beatles, Bill Gates and Jobs to opportunity. Before they were unknown, the Beatles went to the strip club every day to perform. As a performance at the intermission of striptease, they only had a few minutes, so they were the best part of the performance every time, so as to keep the audience and make money. Gradually people were willing to listen, and they had to work harder. Similarly, because of his superior family conditions, Bill Gates attended the best private junior high school at that time, and only had the opportunity to contact with only a few computers in the world at that time. In the junior high school where he attended, there was one. Just like this, Bill Gates contacted the computer and liked it, and finally Microsoft's powerful empire came into being. His time in the school computer room was about 1111 hours. Joe Wang (personally admired and appreciated) lived in Mountain View, the core of Silicon Valley, south of San Francisco, and many of his neighbors were employees of Hewlett-Packard, which made Wang exposed to many electronic related things at a very young age, not to mention 11,111 hours. Jobs devoted his life to his favorite electronic devices.
At this point, some readers may be puzzled. Isn't the second element mentioned at the beginning an opportunity? But you've talked a lot about efforts, but you didn't mention opportunities. But what Benben wants to say is that only when he works hard enough and takes down-to-earth actions for his goals can he see clearly what opportunities are, otherwise it is really "opportunities come like rain, but I have dodged them one by one". Recently, I have been paying attention to catering, financial management and photography, so I pay more attention to these things. Therefore, if there is a trouble in these areas, I can't miss it or catch it when there is an opportunity.
I suddenly remembered a short story. A poor man prayed to God every day, "Good God, I'm dying of poverty. Give me some money." He prayed to God every day and eventually starved to death. Seeing God, the poor man asked God angrily, "Everyone says that you are omnipotent, but why don't you help me? If you give me some money, I won't starve to death." God said, "I want to give it to you? But you have to do something. Even if you buy a lottery ticket, you shout at me every day and do nothing. How can I help you? The story is false, but I hope readers can understand the truth. Opportunities are for those who are prepared. Only when I have everything, can I say that I only need the east wind of opportunity.
The third factor to be heterogeneous-family environment
In this part, the author makes a comparison between a child from a rich family and a child from a poor family when he was a child. The parents of the children from the rich family are very busy themselves, and they are not letting their children grow freely. On the contrary, they have enrolled their children in many interest classes, such as math classes, dance classes, piano classes, and some even have fitness classes. If they have finished all these studies, they will not let their children watch TV or play mobile phones when they get home. But to study with her.
I am a child of a poor family. I grew up in a free-range environment. Up to now, I can clearly feel the gap between myself and my peers (I am a rural baby, and my peers are relative to rural cities), not only in terms of skills (please allow me to call some basic knowledge skills, such as the time to contact the computer, the skills to communicate with people, the time to learn some software, and realize that I still have to work hard to narrow the gap with others even though I am small. Take McDonald's as an example. When I was a child, I only saw McDonald's advertisements on TV, and I never ate them. I didn't eat McDonald's for the first time until college. I still remember that I didn't dare to go to the front to order food because I didn't know how to order. I believed that it was an ordinary thing that couldn't be ordinary, but for me, it was the "knowledge" that I only knew eight years ago (now I am 27 years old). For another example, a kid like me is afraid to talk when he meets strangers, and he is willing to be a quiet handsome man or stay away because I don't know how to communicate with strangers and dare not talk to them.
Having said so much, I don't want to express that a child must be born in a rich family to be successful (as we all say there). I just want to express my child's family growth environment, which will affect his later life development track (personally), or take the example just now, if I knew that McDonald's was like this at a very young age, if I knew that there was a computer at a very young age, if I knew at a very young age that it was important to read whenever, if I knew that I was exposed to mathematics, dance, martial arts, musical instruments and calligraphy at a very young age. . . . I believe that many people will not be the current life track, not to say that they will definitely become experts in a certain field, at least they will have more choices, unlike themselves who graduated from college, and they don't know what they should do, because they don't have any specialties or advantages.
But I'm glad that it's not too late to realize this, because I'm still young, haha. The gap created when I was a child must be redoubled by myself now, so there is no reason why I don't work hard now, and there is no reason why I don't work harder than others. Moreover, I must make all preparations before I become a father, so that my future son or daughter can not only be rich in life, but also be extensively cultivated in interest cultivation. Personally, I fully agree with the collaborative cultivation mentioned in my hand. In fact, it probably means that children should have the ability to handle things independently and be unfamiliar. This, I feel, is the most easily overlooked place by many parents, especially many elderly people who take care of their children. They really regard their children as the apple of their eye, and they do all the things and problems instead of their children. In fact, sometimes too much doting and interfering with children will stop their own growth. We can't give them orders directly and let them carry them out. Instead, we should let them consider this problem from the perspective of adults, and let them realize their mistakes by a hundred times (personally).
So, educating children is really a big deal.
In this chapter, the author also gives an experimental example to prove that a person with super high IQ can hardly succeed in the social environment if he can't have normal social skills and life skills. If IQ is regarded as a gift, then the most basic skills such as communication must be acquired. After careful tracing, it is not difficult to find that it ultimately comes down to the environment and family environment, because before a child goes to school, his personality mainly depends on the influence of his family.
well, this paragraph is a little too much, and I don't know if it's off topic.
the fourth element of being different-cultural inheritance
To be honest, I didn't read this chapter very carefully, because personally, I can't reach what level of this cultural inheritance through my own efforts. However, I still read this part, because although I can't change it, I can at least understand, avoid and learn from the influence of culture on success.
In this chapter, the author cited some examples of air crashes. Korean Air, which has a very low accident rate, used to have the highest accident rate in the past. After a lot of investigation and research, some experts finally locked the cause of the accident into the influence of Korean culture, because they heard the conversation of the crew before the plane crash from the black box of the crashed plane. After analysis, they finally came to the conclusion that the way they spoke was too modest and polite, and the description of the problem was not direct enough, and their subordinates were afraid of their superiors. I remember an example that the bad weather delayed the landing and had to land later. However, due to the euphemistic communication of the co-pilot, the base station dispatcher didn't know that the fuel of the plane couldn't wait for the second landing, and because there was no correct and direct communication between the crew, there was always a captain who had the greatest power and the most right to speak. At this time, the captain just rested for four hours a day and was in a state of severe fatigue, which led him to commit a low-level fuel shortage. Finally, under the analysis of psychologists, English is used as the communication language of the crew, because English is not too modest, can be expressed accurately and directly, and all crew members on the plane are equal, not a monarchy in which the captain is in power. All these problems have been solved before Korean Air can be rated as one of the safest airlines today. (The above is my personal understanding. Please advise me if there are any mistakes. Because it involves a deeper level, I dare not say too much. If there is anything wrong, please point it out and delete it immediately. )
The last two chapters of the book are about the influence of China's rice field culture on China's mathematics and Jamaican's unusual. I didn't read them carefully, but I generally meant the influence of culture on success.
to sum up.
success = environment+opportunity+family+effort (11111 hours rule)+culture (family and effort are put together in this paper)
We can't change the environment, we can only adapt to the environment, and find out what opportunities are in this environment through our own efforts in this big environment, and we will find success by finding opportunities and our own efforts. It's not that family is not important to personal success, on the contrary, it is particularly important, but now that I have grown up and realized these influences, I can only say that it is impossible to narrow the gap and rejuvenate myself. However, I especially suggest that reading this book, even if it is only the family part, will have a certain impact on our way of educating children. Some things we have always taken for granted are actually not all right. Not much to say, see the book for details. Ha ha.
I feel that I have a lot to express every time, but I feel that I haven't written well and I haven't written what I really want to express. As a result, I'm not happy every time I finish writing, and I feel that the structure is chaotic and I can write wherever I want. It seems that I have to work harder, read more and write more. After all, if there is more ink in my stomach, I can speak it out. You have to keep working hard. Maybe the success you want has been waiting for you all the time, except for your 11111 hours.
I don't know why, but I finally want to end with Jobs' extraordinary advertisement in 1997
Because the people who are crazy enough to think that they can? Change the world, are the ones who do.
Good night, everyone.
The above ideas are all my own understanding. If you don't like to spray lightly, you can leave a message for discussion.
I've been reading "Skin" and books related to financial management with the WeChat reading APP recently, and I'll come back one after another.
written at 11:58 pm on May 4th, 2117.