A person should learn to control his emotions and be calm in everything. During the Three Kingdoms period, Zhuge Liang's wife Huang was a famous ugly woman in history. She is yellow, black and ugly, and none of the boys nearby want to marry her. However, although Huang is ugly, he is quite talented and has excellent moral character. One day, Huang's father Huang met Zhuge Liang and heard that he wanted to find a wife. He said to him, "Wen Jun chose a wife. He has an ugly woman with a yellow head and a black face." I didn't expect Zhuge Liang to really value talent over color, and immediately asked for relatives, so Huang married his daughter to Zhuge Liang. Zhuge Liang has benefited a lot from Mrs. Huang's help. Later, he was sealed and made great achievements, thanks to the help of Mrs. Huang. In the play and in the picture, Zhuge Liang always wears gossip clothes and holds a goose feather fan, which is a gesture of strategizing and winning thousands of miles. Legend has it that this goose feather fan was a gift from Huang. Zhuge Liang came out to assist Liu Bei. Before leaving, Huang made a fan with the wings of Dapeng bird that her father gave her. There is an eight-array picture painted on the handle of the fan. Zhuge Liang should carry it with him, not forgetting the love between husband and wife, which is of great benefit to marching and fighting, and admonish him to be calm. Huang said to Zhuge Liang: you talk to my father about world affairs, and I find that you talk about your lofty sentiments and ambitions with great momentum; Speaking of Mr. Liu Bei wanting to invite you out of the mountain, he is very happy; Speaking of Cao Cao, frown; When it comes to Sun Quan, I feel worried. A gentleman must be calm when doing things. I gave you this fan to cover your face. "Zhuge Liang picked up the goose feather fan and shook it, and his mind soon calmed down. Therefore, after Zhuge Liang left the cottage, he never left the gossip suit and goose feather fan. It turns out that "covering your face" means holding your breath first, and then you can calm down.
In the Tang Dynasty, Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, always went out for a walk after hearing Wei Zhi's exhortation, just because he realized that he was about to lose control of his emotions and tried to "take it in stride" so as not to kill Wei Zhi by mistake because of a moment of anger.
Sometimes, when we meet people who are angry, crying or coquetry, we may say that such people are natural and sincere. This statement is actually connivance. People are different from animals. People should be rational and intellectual, and emotional resolution will never solve the problem. Next, let's look at a story of Girls Don't Cry: In 2006, 77-year-old Italian legendary female journalist farage passed away. She interviewed Deng Xiaoping twice before her death, and part of her interview with Deng Xiaoping in 1980 was included in Selected Works of Deng Xiaoping, which made her a household name in China. When farage was 7 years old, because of one thing, her father beat her and she squatted in the corner crying. Dad went over to her and said, "Son, if dad is right, what's the point of crying?" Is it unfair to cry? No, you should study why you were beaten and how to stop being beaten in the future. What's the point of dad calling the wrong number and crying? Does crying mean that you are afraid to defend yourself? Then tell dad that you have the wrong number, so as not to make a mistake again. "farage understood at the age of seven, crying is a kind of helplessness, a kind of helplessness, a kind of wrangling, can't solve the problem. The conclusion is don't cry. Therefore, from then on, she stopped crying. These words made the legend of "girls don't cry" and were recorded in her biography.
Don't tell everyone about your difficulties and experiences.
Many people like to talk about their company and leaders in front of others. I often hear such complaints: our boss is very stingy; Our factory director always makes us work overtime, and the overtime pay is not much; Our company's business is not good recently, and customers are returning goods. I don't want to do it. If there is an opportunity, please tell me immediately ... Many people have this problem, but actually I don't understand that people who complain to everyone can't use it anywhere, because people dare not use it!
Chen Wugang is from Taiwan Province Province. At the age of 50, he went bankrupt, borrowed money everywhere, borrowed everything he could, and was almost desperate. But his wife said, "Even though he is broke and has no money in his pocket, my husband still wears a suit and tie and carries a briefcase. He drives to work every day, just like a chairman, and he is not defeated ..."
Even if you go bankrupt one day, don't tell everyone about your pain and suffering. Even if you open the door of the company, there are only two people-one is you and the other is a cleaner. You should be like Chen Wugang, wearing a straight suit, making a cup of coffee by yourself and sitting there working like the chairman. Because people are strange, you live like a chairman, and the opportunity will come soon. Chen Wugang was like this, and soon he had the opportunity, that is, Christina, to open the door to the direct selling industry.
It is not easy for ordinary people to live to 50 years old, but Chen Wugang has the ambition to make a comeback and started a direct selling business at the age of half a century. He has a famous "spider theory": spiders never attack casually before they make a web. Spiders weave webs in order, first warp and then weft. Once the web is made, the spider is always waiting for the opportunity. Once any small prey touches the net, it can react quickly.
Think before consulting others, but don't speak first.
Calm people leave their words behind, unstable people put their words in front. What's the advantage of negotiating with your competitors or customers and leaving it for later? First, it is a kind of respect to let others speak first; Second, the person who speaks first will definitely have flaws and loopholes; Third, you can prepare your answers when others are speaking.
Let me give you a suggestion: don't say anything when negotiating and communicating. Impatient people like to speak first. They don't respect customers, and may say the wrong thing because they don't have time to think, leaving many flaws and loopholes. Once the other side strikes back, there is little chance of winning. If you have something to say, let others say it first, and then fight back against the problems exposed by your competitors, so you have a good chance of winning.
Don't nag about your dissatisfaction every chance.
Women like to talk about family very much, probably because men and women have different personalities: men are more interested in career and money, while women care more about their husbands and children. Some women start talking about their family affairs as soon as they go to work, such as criticizing their children in front of others and telling their conflicts with their husbands or in-laws. This will not only be respected, but will become the laughing stock of others. Don't nag about your dissatisfaction every chance you get. Because people who like to nag, it is easy to be considered as people who are not reliable in doing things. Moreover, if you talk about your misfortune, if you walk with your front foot, your back foot may become the object of ridicule.
5, important decisions as far as possible to negotiate with people, at least overnight release.
Important decisions should not be announced immediately. This is my own personal experience. It still hurts a little to think of something between my eldest daughter and me. My eldest daughter likes listening to jazz very much. She has a large collection of jazz CDs, and her mother and I also bought some for her. She wasn't there when I threw away the CD. After she knew it, she rushed out and saw that the CD was gone. That night, she cried while doing her homework. I regret it a little, and bought her a jazz CD a few days later: "This is a newly published jazz, please listen." She smiled and said to me, "I don't like listening to jazz now." This incident taught me a great lesson, that is, it takes at least one night to make major decisions.
But because of this lesson, I also achieved good results. Once, I wanted to fire the deputy director of our company. All the personnel lists were signed and put in my drawer. But I got up the next morning and tore it up. No one in our company knows that I tried to fire him. In fact, the mistake he made that time was not serious, but it was not serious enough to be fired. I'm sorry for his mistake, but if he is really fired, the company will lose a reliable cadre.
A calm person will not make important decisions at once, but will try to negotiate with others first. In addition, it is important to remember that major decisions should be released at least overnight, because you are likely to wake up with completely different ideas.
6. Don't panic when you walk or talk.
Some people often stumble when they walk. If you are the same, I suggest you pay a little attention and try to restrain yourself, because such people are usually very flustered. Once a person falls into a panic, he will not be calm and will do something wrong. It is a good way to cultivate your composure through some activities and entertainment projects. For example, many people like to play Go and regard playing chess as a kind of accomplishment.
In the home, the company and the surrounding environment—
Who do you think is unstable?
(2) What things (more important) are not calm enough?
Stable rooting culture method
1. Don't show your emotions casually.
Don't tell everyone about your difficulties and experiences.
Think for yourself before consulting others, but don't speak first.
Don't nag about your dissatisfaction every chance you get.
Try to discuss important decisions with others, and publish them at least every other night.
6. Don't panic when you walk or talk.
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