Identify and reduce unnecessary interpersonal communication
Treat people sincerely and find a partner with the same frequency.
Attach importance to the promotion of self-worth
Emotional stability, positive communication
The first part | Identify and reduce unnecessary interpersonal communication
Take me for example. When I was a freshman, I attended many clubs and township meetings, and I did know some classmates briefly, but I spent a lot of time and didn't win long-term friendship by pandering. I gradually realized that college students come from all corners of the country, and it is impossible for everyone to have the same pursuit and values.
But I didn't know what my real friends were like until I met all kinds of people in college. Therefore, after experiencing complicated interpersonal relationships, the first step to gain stable and practical contacts is to realize what kind of friends you are looking for and reduce the complicated interpersonal relationships that make you feel insecure. Generally stay away from these people:
People who are enthusiastic in public and "unfamiliar" with you in private.
For this kind, you can basically pass. People look strange intermittently, or you don't want to waste time participating in communication except in public. In fact, you are not particularly attractive to him.
Someone who belittles you and then tries to win you.
In fact, this kind of person just takes a fancy to your use value and doesn't like you at the same time. Get along with this kind of person, and you will also know his negative comments on others. They are afraid that if they get along with you for a long time, they will throw a few names at you. Don't believe me, don't go near!
People with no sense of boundaries, or people with too obvious sense of boundaries.
People who have no sense of boundaries, if their emotional intelligence is not in place at the same time, you will be attracted by their sudden enthusiasm, but others may come to talk to you later. I suggest you keep a sense of boundaries with people you just met. Stable relationships are slowly brewing. As for those who pay too much attention to boundaries, keep their distance.
The second part | Treat people sincerely and find a partner with the same frequency
The most important thing is to be confident and sincere after defining your interpersonal goals, so that you can really find people with the same frequency. Don't compare with others, avoid all forms of belittling others, joke moderately, be sincere without losing politeness is the key.
People who share your frequency are more likely to become stable and practical interpersonal relationships. Similar or attractive values and ways of thinking can make your relationship more stable. After all, bosom friends are hard to find. There are no molecules in stable and practical interpersonal relationships.
Part III | Attach Importance to Improving Self-worth
Normal people like to make friends with positive people, and actively improve their self-worth in the process of interacting with friends, which can make your interpersonal circle form an invisible positive force, everyone will influence each other, and your "power desire" will be aroused. If you enjoy the benefits, people will naturally be willing to maintain a long-term relationship with you.
The fourth part | Emotional stability, positive communication
In a long-term relationship, we should pay attention to the stability of personal emotions, and don't lose your temper casually or vent your emotions regardless of each other's likes and dislikes. The collapse of many stable and practical relationships is that some people are emotionally unstable and there is no positive communication between the two sides. If you encounter emotional instability or your own emotional instability, communicate and solve it in time. If you don't communicate in time, it will only make the relationship worse and worse.
In addition, be tolerant in the face of a relationship. When we accept others, others are accepting us. Only when both sides are willing to improve and improve their understanding of each other will the relationship have a chance to improve. If both sides are not tolerant, even if the souls meet again, they will eventually face a dead end.