Almost all problems unique to large rooms can be attributed to adaptability. When every aspiring young man enters the university campus with lofty sentiments and begins a new stage of life, due to the great changes in living environment, learning content, ideal goals, hobbies and interpersonal relationships, their mentality becomes complicated, and various contradictions and problems often appear, which is called "freshmen are not suitable". Specifically including:

Living environment is not suitable. Freshmen from their former parents depend on themselves for everything in college life. This dependence and psychological contrast can easily make freshmen feel uncomfortable, break their original romantic imagination of the university, and breed loneliness, nostalgia and nervousness about new things.

Suggestion: communicate with classmates and roommates more. Everyone has similar feelings in this regard. If you can't adapt, you should ask for help in time. At this time, parents should not continue to encourage dependence, but should trust their children and believe that they can adapt to college life well.

Learning is not suitable. This maladjustment is mainly manifested in the maladjustment of learning mentality and goals. Mentally, freshmen pay attention to the outstanding students in high school and become ordinary members of the university. The loss of sense of superiority and the loss of the original support point of learning have made many freshmen feel empty and bored, and even began to lead a muddled life. There are significant differences in learning objectives between universities and senior high schools. The goal of high school study is clear: get high marks in the college entrance examination; Senior high school students are not the main body of learning, but the passive recipients of learning in "cramming teaching". When entering the university, many freshmen can't clearly understand the goal and significance of learning, and they don't have the ability of autonomous learning. The resulting sense of pressure and powerlessness has become a new problem.

Suggestion: Adjust your mentality and find your own learning interests and goals. Consult teachers and brothers and sisters more to improve the ability of autonomous learning.

Second year of college

The second year of college is a frequent stage of psychological problems, and learning, love and interpersonal communication have all become the source of the problems.

Interpersonal relationship problems. Interpersonal relationship has surpassed learning to become the most concerned issue for college students, and it has also become the main source of psychological distress for college students. Interpersonal problems are often manifested as difficulty in getting along with others, lack of intimate friends and lack of necessary communication and communication skills. Some college students don't have the time and energy to learn interpersonal skills in high school, they don't know how to communicate with others, and they are nervous with roommates, classmates and even teachers. So this has become an important problem that they have to face.

Suggestion: the ability to do well in interpersonal relationship is not a mysterious thing, and the ability of interpersonal communication can be learned completely. As long as you pay attention to the following principles, it is not difficult to have good interpersonal relationships. This includes: giving up egocentrism; Sincerely care about others; Ask for advice and help yourself; Pay attention to serving others; Participate in group activities and community activities.

Love problems. The development and maturity of college students' physiology has led them to the period of "opposites attract". On this basis, due to the acquisition of autonomy, the influence of conformity psychology and the influence of social environment, college students' love has become one of the most concerned and energetic things for college students. Because of its own characteristics, college students' love shows some differences: diverse motives, short cycle, fast frequency and many tragedies. This makes it easy for college students to feel lost and nihilistic in love, and to feel lost and disillusioned in life on the basis of the disillusionment of love dreams. On the other hand, college students who always feel that they lack the attraction of being loved often feel inferior because they have no lover.

Suggestion: Take part in various activities to enrich your spiritual life, and don't fall in love because of emptiness and loneliness. Be proactive in dealing with people and eliminate the mystery of the opposite sex. Once love is frustrated, reflecting on yourself and focusing on your study and life can help you get through the psychological low tide as soon as possible.

Third year of college

Junior students often have a sense of pressure to suddenly realize that they are senior students, and most students begin to consider their future career development and postgraduate entrance examination. The deepening of specialized courses also makes some junior students feel heavy pressure. Internet and game addiction or falling in love has become their way to escape these pressures.

Internet addiction. The Internet is as attractive to college students as the money and power in the world are to adults. According to conservative estimates, the proportion of college students' internet addiction is 7%, and the number of boys' internet addiction is more than that of girls. One of the reasons is that in college, students are too loose, and everyone cares about their own, so they can't form close relationships with others and groups in reality. Some college students began to use the Internet to kill time. Over time, they became extremely dependent on the Internet. Addiction to the internet makes many college students hate and escape from real life, which leads to problems such as alienation of interpersonal relationship, self-loss, and inability to complete their studies.

Suggestion: Take part in various group activities. In group activities, we can not only deepen mutual understanding, but also show our abilities beyond learning and enhance our sense of belonging to the group. This kind of emotional attachment helps to reduce the attraction of personal activities to college students. Surfing the Internet is exactly this kind of activity. On the contrary, when individuals are outside the group and are not accepted by the group, it is easier to turn to the network for spiritual support.

Senior year of college

Senior year is the closing drama of college life and an important turning point in life. The job market is difficult, the postgraduate entrance examination is confused, and the love that has experienced the test of separation is the three biggest heart diseases of graduates.

The problem of employment. With the fierce social competition and the increasingly prominent employment contradiction, the employment problem has become a big mountain in the minds of college students. The harder it is to find a job and choose a job, the easier it is for college graduates to bear all kinds of psychological burdens. For example, they are worried about the employment opportunities provided by society and cannot actively participate in the competition in the job market; Can't find your own job search direction; The expectation of employment is too high, and choosing a job is divorced from reality.

Suggestion: On the surface, the senior year has solved the employment problem. In fact, the senior year is only a harvest period, and the employment problem is not just a senior year problem, but a problem that the whole university will face in four years. The behavior before the senior year basically determines the situation faced by the senior year. When choosing a job in senior year, we should make a career choice according to our own characteristics, and if necessary, we can make a career evaluation as a reference for choosing a job. It is necessary to avoid the adverse effects of comparison psychology and conformity psychology on their job selection.

The sadness of separation. For most graduates, the employment problem will be solved sooner or later. Once they breathe a sigh of relief, they will find that the university campus they are leaving is so beautiful and the college students are so kind. Looking around, it is a foggy society. And some students have to face the parting feelings of Lao Yan. All this impacts the hearts of graduates. Sentimental separation and emotional fluctuation are the most normal emotional reactions. However, if you can't extricate yourself from the sad mood, even depressed, and can't face the society and real life, it will have a bad influence on your future.

Suggestions: vent your feelings in an appropriate way, properly handle your love, cherish your last college time, complete your unfinished plot in a reasonable and legal way, and prepare for your future life. All good things must come to an end, and we should also remember that "however, as long as China keeps our friendship, heaven is still our neighbor".

After enumerating the common psychological problems and suggestions of college students, it needs to be explained that psychological problems are the most normal phenomenon, and psychological problems often contain positive meanings, which are often just opportunities for spiritual growth and self-transcendence. The process of solving one psychological problem after another is also a process in which individuals gradually move towards maturity and society. I wish all college students: Youth grows with you!

Give you one more time:

A college teacher's heartfelt words to freshmen [repost-11-2515:1:24]

Studying hard in the cold window 12 years, years of dream catalysis, the teaching and help of teachers and classmates, the blessings and expectations of relatives and friends ... You experienced the sprint in June and the waiting in July, and we harvested the fruits of the season in August and gained greater dreams and hopes from the heart. Here, I wish you all the best, dear children who are about to step into the university campus. I would like to send this article to the freshmen who are about to enter the university campus. Author: Starting from tomorrow, you will face a completely different learning environment and a completely different living space. Tomorrow you will pay more attention to our society, and tomorrow you will pay more for your future. ...

A new life, a new school year, is a new starting point, a continuation of learning and teaching, and the beginning of pioneering and innovation. Let's cherish the glory and glory of the past, take it as the cornerstone and climb up the stairs; Abandon those bitterness and tears as a test on the road to struggle. There is a road in the mountain of books, but there is no limit to learning the sea. Diligence can make up for mistakes, and there is sweetness in bitterness. ...

In the new school year, I hope you will take the rejuvenation of China as your own responsibility, consciously shoulder the historical mission of fighting for the prosperity and future of the motherland, and be honest and trustworthy people with lofty ideals and noble character. Be a firm, persistent and confident person; Be a future person and a world person with extensive knowledge, broad vision, courage to innovate and struggle!

Today is September 5, 2008, and it is also a Teacher's Day. As your predecessor and your teacher, I feel it is my duty to encourage everyone and cherish every day in the future. Collect and sort out (some statements and quotations in the text come from the internet, so here it is collected and sorted out. Author: Three Gorges online note) and add my own ideas, and write the following words to encourage you:

1. Entering the university is a new environment and meeting new people. To them, all your past is a blank sheet of paper. This is the best time for you to reshape your image and get rid of your previous shortcomings. Every time you enter a new environment, you must appear with a brand-new image.

2. "Who am I?" This is a question of role orientation and role identification. If the role of "college students" is vague, the role will be disordered, and freshmen and sophomores will become senior four and senior five; But if you are not confident, "University" will become "you can play for four years" and college life may become "muddling along".

3. "What should I do" and "What should I do?" This is a question of theme orientation and attitude. What is the theme of the university? Is it simply reading without listening to things outside the window, or pursuing self-cultivation with one heart? Do you want to be a single talent or a compound talent? Is it passive learning or active struggle? The choice is different, and the gold content of the final diploma is definitely different.

4. "Where am I going"? This is a question of positioning. Entering the university, the future choice is not over. In the future, will you graduate directly or take the postgraduate entrance examination for further study? Will you enter the professional level of blue collar, white collar or gold collar in the future? No matter how you choose, the key to changing your destiny is in your own hands, and the chance of success always favors those who are prepared.

5, often call home, always remember: children are thousands of miles away.

6. You have been informed of many things. Say thanks. Don't blame me for not informing you, because you should find out those things yourself.

7. Whether men or women take looks too seriously in college, they may not suffer, but they will suffer sooner or later. It's possible, it's possible, it's definitely possible

8. Don't be obsessed with online games. Never! Remember that I use 10 million here! !

9. Be sure to take time out to exercise every week. Make effective choices according to your own specialties! Just like me, I started playing football in college, and now I'm still in my thirties. I want to hang up my boots 50! Author: Three Gorges Online Note) There are many benefits.

10, you can get drunk sometimes, we can accept it, but you have to understand that getting drunk with real friends can stop the sad things, otherwise, you will only become the talk and laughing stock of others.

1 1. Don't complain about unfair things. Your unfairness may be just the fairness of others. So, you might as well work hard and strive for your most suitable fairness.

12, if you seldom go to the library for four years, you are wasting a lot of wealth. So, you can go there and browse at any time, and you will get something.

13, man, you may not be handsome, but you can be handsome, that is really handsome. (Of course, so do women. Therefore, you don't have to care too much about dressing up.

14, there may be true love in college, but it is only possible to remember it. Many times they are together because others are in love and envy or other reasons. Therefore, any breakup does not need to be too hurt. Remember, what I said here is too hurtful. True love is still worth pursuing.

15, many things will be found to be nothing when recalled. So, no matter how angry you are, tell yourself that you don't have to do this, and you will find that you really don't have to do this.

16. Dignity is the most important thing, but in college, you should know how to use this space to exercise yourself and let your dignity bear enough. You know, society is a place that likes to break human dignity most, and no one will keep it for you except yourself.

17, if your personality keeps many people away from you, then your personality is a failure, and the success of your personality lies in attraction, not exclusion.

18. If you accept freshmen in the new semester, when asked about the school, you should remember that you are not only a member of this school, but also bring confidence to your younger brothers and sisters. You need to know how much you trust your seniors after your freshman year.

19, you really need to learn to be calculating, but remember, always remember, there is always only one way to win in society, and that is strength, never doubt it.

20. Life is varied. Don't be angry with new things that you are not used to. It doesn't matter. For example, the problem of lovers living together has nothing to do with many of us.

2 1, the president of the student union and other cadres, if you respect them, tell yourself that it is because they are your seniors, not because they are your superiors. In fact, everyone is just a student, just a student.

22. I trained myself to be calm from college. This is an ability. When something important happens, people who can come up with a solution quietly and quickly are very powerful.

23. There are many ways to succeed. Don't refuse to accept methods you don't like.

24. If you don't take sleeping in class as an exercise and you do it, then you are strong. Remember, you should be like this. No matter how bad teachers are, they are better than students, because they are teachers.

25. Never laugh at the teacher's ignorance or monotony, because when one day you find yourself stupid enough to laugh at the teacher with sleepiness, you have already hit a lot of nails in society.

26. If someone around you is jealous of you, you can exclude him from your competitor list. It is difficult for jealous people to achieve great things.

27. You should believe one sentence: Nothing is impossible! ! There really isn't. Do it. Now we are students. What about ten years later? Think about it in 20 years.

28. "I love you". Don't say that to many people. In college, I mean, I hope you can only say to one person, that is, respect the person you love and respect your own feelings.

29. People who love you, whether you accept it or not, should thank each other, which is your respect.

Listening to the radio at night is also a kind of happiness.

3 1, don't complain about CET-4 and CET-6, it's a good thing to prove your ability.

32. Being friends with MSN can be a tool to make friends, but don't trust friendship easily, let alone fantasize about what friends are like. More importantly, don't meet friends like you.

33. Everyone has potential energy, but it is easy to be covered by habit, blurred by time and consumed by inertia.

You may not like something, but you should learn to accept it-if you can't change it.

35. Impulse means that you still have a life. Always impulsive means that you don't understand life.

36, postgraduate entrance examination, early preparation is definitely better than late preparation.

37. Never make up your mind to be a person who doesn't offend anyone. Some people object, some support, and then make their own decisions. This is a wonderful life.

38. Go to the school job fair in my sophomore and junior years. You will feel a crisis in the future. It will also give you some motivation to move forward.

39. Make good use of public speaking, presentation or exercise opportunities. It will be of great help in the future. I know this very well.

Don't swear, know the power of habit. When you are looking for a job or in contact with others, your casual words or sentences will greatly reduce your image in the eyes of others.

4 1, courage, courage, even if you fail, don't let your life be mediocre.

42. If you like someone, tell him or her bravely. Pursuing the person you really love, as long as you think it is worthwhile, is worthwhile.

43. If your family is average, then remember never to spend money for your family and your future. Remember, forever. If you have money at home, always remember that the money you use is your parents' hard-earned money.

44. I don't think about whether I can succeed. Since I chose the distance, I only care about hardships. I don't think about whether there will be cold wind and rain behind me. Since the goal is the horizon, all I can leave to the world is the back. This sentence is also very useful to everyone, remember! Think about it when you encounter setbacks.

Regret is an emotion that enervates the spirit. Regret is a bigger loss than loss and a bigger mistake than mistake. So don't regret.

I believe that the power of time can dilute many things.

47. Never look down on poor students in universities.

48. Laugh more, and you will gradually make yourself truly happy.

49. Learn to recognize. The acquisition of cognitive ability is a basic skill for future social survival.

50. Learn to innovate. When we pay attention to the world's scientific and technological progress and social development with a comprehensive and developmental vision, we will deeply feel that "innovation is the soul of a nation's progress and an inexhaustible motive force for the country's prosperity."

5 1. Although Lei Feng is an example of the last century and a thing of the past, don't forget that many people in this society are nostalgic. If you can do what Lei Feng did, it will undoubtedly improve your personality charm and existence value.

52. Friend, your college friend is likely to be a part of your future career. They will help you. But you should also give yourself the strength to help them, so you should work hard, and you and your friends will build a brilliant career together in the future. Sounds good, doesn't it? But remember, you must all work hard.

53. Go home more during holidays. Maybe the outside world is wonderful, but don't forget that everyone at home is thinking about you. The great rivers and mountains of the motherland are magnificent, but the warm affection at home is beautiful. Go home during the holiday, not to see your parents, but to let them know that you will always be their pride!

54. Many bosses will ask you during the interview: What would you do (if you could meet the boss)? Maybe you can actually remember this question now so that you may answer it well in the future (especially for liberal arts students).

55. Learn to be a man. For us college students who walk into the ivory tower through big waves, knowledge and methods can be mastered quickly, but good habits, excellent quality and noble morality cannot be achieved overnight. Only by combining knowledge with being a man perfectly can we grow into people who are useful to society and truly realize our own value.

56. As a social person, the closer you are to the society, the more opportunities you have, the more you can exercise yourself, and the more things you can do when you enter the society in the future.

57. You are old, mature and steady, but it is not contradictory. An impact and endurance on work and study will give you special charm and personal strength.

58. Seek hope from despair, and life will eventually be brilliant.

If you don't smoke, your energy will be much better than when you smoke, which is absolute.

60. To a stranger, treat him or her as a blank sheet of paper, or treat him or her as your friend. In short, don't treat him or her as an enemy, even if you hear more bad rumors about him or her.

6 1. Only you know if you should use it in college.

62. Don't relax in the first year, and establish your leading position, which is more beneficial to your future study.

63. You must learn computer well. This is very important for further study. Don't take it seriously

Don't be too sloppy in the dormitory, otherwise it will affect efficiency.

65. During military training, you must pad insoles. Girls should not be tempted by instructors. Your future doesn't belong to them (hehe, just kidding, I believe you won't. Author: Three Gorges Online Note).

66. Watch more movies. Improve your artistic accomplishment and communicate more with others.

67. Pay attention to accumulate relevant work experience during college so as to get employment in the future.

It is very beneficial to participate in interdisciplinary activities in other departments.

69. Read more about this and master the cutting-edge trends in this field. Don't study when you are a college student.

70. Boys in college should be polite. Girls always have all kinds of problems that boys need to solve. At this time, boys always act as repairmen, electricians and carpenters, ready to help others.

7 1, develop good living habits. In the future, there will be no parents nagging you, such as taking a bath often and not blowing the electric fan all the time when you sleep at night, so don't indulge yourself, or you will definitely get sick. Everyone has to learn this lesson several times, otherwise it will not grow up.

72. Never put valuables on the table and bedside. The university dormitory is not your home, so be careful.

73. Dare to learn what you can't. Like computers, you may be fine at first. Some children from remote areas may not know anything at first, but after a period of time, they may eventually become excellent computer experts because they seek advice from everyone. In college, you must be ashamed to ask questions, and don't be afraid of losing face.

74. If you have the idea of starting a business, you might as well spend more time with your classmates. Maybe you can team up for the business plan competition.

75. There is plenty of time in college. Without a plan, it is easy to waste the past. You'd better give yourself a plan.

76. University education will improve a natural person's personality and sublimate his soul; Will lead a person to seriously think about what kind of life is a meaningful life; Will re-establish your values, outlook on life and world outlook. Generally speaking, during the four years of college, everyone will be baptized by the soul.

77. It should be said that safety is always the first factor in everything, and going to college is no exception. It is important to love and cherish yourself! Because nothing is more important than losing health, than losing life! Please pay attention to safety and take care of yourself. Remember: never give up on yourself!

78. Military training is the first lesson for freshmen. As for bitterness and pleasure, only those who have experienced it know what it feels like. Up to now, I miss the short time of military training. She left a deep impression on me and a good memory. I hope everyone will cherish it!

79. Although the emergence of e-mail has brought great convenience to our life, the traditional way of sending letters still has incomparable advantages. As the saying goes, "seeing words like a face", holding the manuscript paper you wrote in the distance, you will have a kind feeling. Friends, you might as well write a letter when you are free.

80. Cheating depends on others. Slowly you will understand that sometimes others are unreliable, and it is too late. Believe in yourself and rely on yourself. Be an honest and trustworthy person!

8 1, "College students in the era of popularization can no longer pretend to be social elites, but should participate in employment selection and employment competition with the mentality and orientation of an ordinary worker."

82. "Attitude is everything." I don't need to explain, do I?

83. "Close to Zhu Zhechi, close to jet black." The polarization of universities is serious, and those who are powerful will naturally have stupid idiots.

84. "It is better to light candles than to curse the darkness." We should look to the future optimistically and move on from now on.

85. We expect actions, not complaints; We should spread hope, not rumors.

86. The world is fair, and God won't give anyone too much. It is only a matter of time before a person gains something in some places and is doomed to lose something in others.

87. Never study for exams. In universities, grades are important, but they should be strategically valued and strategically despised.

88. Don't tie yourself down. Try to think of some novel, bold and even crazy ideas, don't bind your imagination, and test your guesses with practice. Many times, it is not impossible, but unexpected.

89. The teacher will be your friend. A teacher is not only a person who teaches you knowledge, but also an elder who can guide you forward and a partner who can discuss knowledge with you.

90. Remember what should be remembered and forget what should be forgotten. Change what can be changed, accept what cannot be changed, and distinguish the two with wisdom.

9 1, sunrise in the East China Sea and sunset in the West Mountain, one day sad and one day happy; People are comfortable when they are not entangled in things.

92. As long as we do what we can, our life will be full. We realize that a little happiness is a reward we give ourselves!

93. Always work like you don't need money; Love forever, as if you have never been hurt; Always dance like no one is watching you; Always, always live like a paradise on earth.

94. The most beautiful thing in the world is to have a few friends who are honest and solemn in their thoughts and hearts.

95. Today you are the fragrance of peaches and plums, and tomorrow you are the elite of China;

96. Today you are proud of your alma mater, and tomorrow your alma mater will be proud of you!

97. Excellence is a habit. I hope to see this habit from everyone.

98. As long as we do what we can, our life will be full. We realize that a little happiness is a reward we give ourselves!

99. From now on, let the sound of books reverberate in the beautiful campus, let the vigorous and heroic in the sports ground, let the colored pens depict the splendid future, let the tapping keyboards connect all corners of the country, let the wings of angels hang straight in Yun Fan, and let the passionate youth fly in the wind.

Heaven rewards diligence, no pains, no gains, no sweat and no success. Let's sow the seeds of hope together, work hard and look forward to the next harvest autumn!

//There was a man who started studying literature at the age of twenty, but he failed in the exam. Then I practiced martial arts, and as soon as I made a move in the martial arts field, I was fired from playing drums. Change the medicine, write the prescription, eat it, and die.