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With the delay of marriage age of some young men and women, "urging marriage on holidays" has also become a "reserved program" for some families. One is an only child of marriageable age, and the other is worried parents. Parents wonder: Young man, what are you waiting for? During the Spring Festival, the reporter interviewed several "post-90 s" young men and women all over the country to listen to their views and voices on marriage and love.
-Busy work, narrow social circle, no mood for love.
Jamlom, 27, works in a publishing house in Nanjing. After nearly two years of graduation, she has been constantly urged by her family. Jamlom, who has no love experience, said that when she was a student, she enjoyed a single life, didn't care about the boys around her, and wanted to wait until after work to find someone.
But time flies. I have been working for almost two years, and Jamlom is still single. "After going to work, I found that I was busy with work and had no energy and mind to fall in love." Jamlom said that he is a junior at work, and it is "common practice" to work overtime. He finally has time to rest. He prefers reading and listening to music.
"After work, I have more contacts with books and words, fewer people outside my colleagues, and a smaller circle of friends, making it difficult to reach suitable young men." Jamlom analyzed himself and said that the fast-paced work led to the narrowing of young people's life circle and fierce competition in modern society. The busier people are, the less leisure they have to patiently understand and love someone.
"I thought about looking for work when I was at school, and I thought about looking for it after two years of work. With such a push, it seems that that person did not appear automatically. " Jamlom said that at present, she has set "finding a date" as her annual goal this year, and she is also going to meet a blind date introduced by relatives and friends during the Spring Festival.
-Give her a home and get her a "suite" first.
This Spring Festival, Mr. Wang, who works in a bank in Shenzhen, is in a relaxed mood. This year, he took his girlfriend back to his hometown in Hengyang, Hunan Province to meet his parents. After the renovation of the new house, the young couple are ready to get a license and hold a wedding banquet.
"Girlfriend parents require a wedding room to get married. Fortunately, the old man didn't ask me to have a new house in Shenzhen. Otherwise, with the income of a young man, I may not even be able to pay the down payment for a house in Shenzhen in recent years. " Mr. Wang said that after working for 4 years, he has some savings, which is enough to buy a new house of 100 square meters in his hometown of Hengyang.
Mr. Wang said that he can understand the feelings of the prospective mother-in-law who loves her daughter. "As a boy, I always want to wait for myself to struggle for a few more years, earn more money and make the other half's life better and better."
-Falling in love and getting married is not to complete the KPI of life.
Master of prestigious schools, cheerful personality, good looks, fashionable clothes ... Xiao Zhang, who has been praised by relatives and friends, has become an "underachiever" in the eyes of his parents because he has not found an object yet.
"My mother used to find a marriage expert on a marriage website with my personal data behind my back. My father even asked me bluntly whether I have psychological barriers to interacting with the opposite sex or like the same sex. " The parents' behavior made Xiao Zhang laugh and cry.
My hometown is in Wuhan, Hubei. 20 12 went to hong kong for postgraduate study, and 20 13 stayed in hong kong to work. I have been floating in Hong Kong for five years. Xiao Zhang is used to his parents "beating around the bush" asking about his marriage and love during holidays.
"I can understand my parents' eagerness, but I won't fight them. After all, my parents also want me to be happy. "Xiao Zhang said," I can only tell them that I'm in a hurry, but fate really hasn't arrived yet. Falling in love and getting married is not a simple KPI (performance indicator) to complete life. "
In Xiao Zhang's view, modern women have their favorite jobs, their own circle of friends, economic self-sufficiency, full life, and the economic function of marriage is weakened. Something that doesn't have to be done at a certain time.
"It doesn't matter if you wait, the key is to see if you have the same values and pursuits." Xiao Zhang said with a smile.