treat yourself and be paid by others

treat yourself and be paid by others. In friends' communication, social intercourse is an essential link. You must have dinner after going out to play. When you say to invite friends to dinner, in fact, you can just invite them back next time. Don't worry too much about human relations. Let's share your treat and be paid by others. Treat yourself and be paid by others. 1

1. How can I treat others and pay the bill?

It's not pleasant to treat you and pay the bill by your friends. You will ask for help, which shows that you are not a person who likes to take advantage. Next time you treat, remember to invite him, communicate with the hotel owner, or buy the bill first when you are halfway through. Since we are friends, let's get along well, don't haggle over every ounce, people will change their hearts, and friendship will last forever.

second, what should I do if I treat you but my friend secretly pays the bill?

Please come back next time.

1. The act of stealing the bill is by no means simply rich, but he values the friendship between you more. Of course, it's not that you don't cherish it, but that his heart is richer;

2. On the one hand, I don't want to trouble my friend and make him spend money; on the other hand, he really regards you as a friend. Have you ever seen those hypocritical friends pretend to compete with you for the bill, but they can't rob you at last; Or do you have no intention of paying the bill at all, and walk away at a convenient opportunity;

3. Of course, you may not see each other for a long time, and this behavior may make you feel embarrassed, but ask yourself, you must find this behavior very comfortable;

4. How many people can bring comfort to people? Therefore, such friends are worthy of deep friendship; Slowly, you will find that there are fewer and fewer such people.

3. Will you pay the bill secretly for dinner with friends?

Yes, you are very loyal. I hope your friends deserve this. In the later dinner party, people can take the initiative to pay the bill I won't waste your kindness.

but I suggest you keep an eye on it. For friends who know your character, you can take the initiative to pay the bill. Don't socialize too much with friends who are very bad and selfish, let alone pay the bill. Treat yourself and be paid by others. 2

There are several reasons for leaders to ask others to pay the bill:

Task setting

Dinner can also show personality, especially paying the bill. Leaders treat people to dinner and set up such tests temporarily. I gave you my wallet, but it doesn't mean there must be money in it. After all, electronic payment is convenient now, and it's a test whether you can settle the money or come back to ask about the card secret.

this kind of task setting requires the parties to judge which type they belong to according to their recent performance or leadership trend in recent days, and then make relevant decisions.

Set traps

Leaders are all "geniuses", otherwise they can't climb high. If the parties have disobeyed recently, or the leaders themselves are less tolerant, payment is a trap. The loss of the parties is either money or their own character.

Randomly choose

At the dinner table, it's normal to drink too much. Leaders don't take care of daily small things themselves, but leave them to others to deal with, so that they can have more time to deal with bigger things.

it's natural to treat people to pay, and it doesn't mean much.

It is of great significance for leaders to treat them to dinner, but in the face of leaders' private purse-stuffing behavior, smart people in the workplace respond like this:

1. Regardless of the purpose, choose to pay with reliable colleagues.

It is an open thing to treat leaders, and it is more aboveboard and natural payment is not a secret topic. If leaders plug their wallets privately, they can go to the checkout counter with a reliable colleague and supervise each other.

2. Understand the inner meaning of the leader

It is not an ordinary thing to pay for guests. If the company has some related financial problems, such as the system of reimbursement, the parties can directly choose to pay for themselves and go to the leader for reimbursement. If the company lacks such system, they can go directly to the leader for payment, especially for large amounts.

A lot of people here will want to lead who will pay for it. If the amount is not large, the parties can afford it, and they can advance it themselves. Of course, they need to be the main body of this dinner party, and there may be no refund.

If the limit is too large and the wallet has no money to pay, you can confirm with the leader again whether there is enough cash or whether to swipe your card, etc., which will also avoid the embarrassment of going out to pay.

Of course, the leader steals his wallet privately. One is that the payment is a private action that needs no fanfare, and the other is that it is intentional and needs the judgment of the parties themselves.

3. Directly let the leader pay for himself

Payment is different from other behaviors, and involves certain privacy, such as card secrecy such as cash or "secrets" hidden in the wallet, which are not for subordinates to peep at.

The parties can directly put forward the facts and reason, and refuse to pay directly with their wallets. Instead, let the leaders operate by themselves in a different way, which will also avoid all kinds of money disputes that will follow.

It is a common behavior for leaders to invite guests to dinner in the workplace, but no matter what the purpose of the banquet is, participants should try their best to maintain perseverance and not be confused by some appearances and get themselves into "difficulties". Treat yourself and be paid by others. 3

In that year, I was promoted to the head of the department, and I still had seven employees. After hearing the news, several employees urged me to invite everyone to dinner. In fact, even if they don't encourage me, I'm determined to invite a few colleagues to have a good meal so as to carry out the follow-up work.

I specially took the time to book a high-grade Chinese restaurant in this city, and booked a box, some dishes and drinks. At that time, the calculated price was more than 3,111 yuan, several bottles of good white wine, and some dishes.

at that time, I paid the money, thinking of eight people, sixteen dishes were enough, and the drinks were not enough to buy later.

after I booked the restaurant, I informed several employees that the news was in place. The time was set for Friday night and the next day was just a rest.

Our group went to the restaurant together after work that day, because the time was agreed with the restaurant. When we walked into the private room, cold dishes were served and hot dishes were coming to the table.

Because we are colleagues, we all know each other, so I didn't ask my colleagues to order what wine to drink. According to the usual practice, they all like to eat in these sixteen dishes. Girls drink red wine and boys drink white wine, all of which are hundreds of yuan a bottle of good wine, which is to pull up the grade.

At first, when we were seated, everyone was a little stiff, not to mention them. It was my first time to come to such a high-class restaurant. However, because of the reservation, we also saved the embarrassment of waiting for serving, so everyone picked up chopsticks and started.

after three rounds of wine and five flavors of food, the atmosphere on the wine table suddenly rose, and the whole private room was filled with a happy and lively atmosphere.

Colleagues jokingly asked me to be promoted in the future. Don't forget this group of subordinates. I nodded again and again after drinking. We raised our glasses and talked about interesting things at work and our ideals in life. Happy times are always so short.

Soon the bottle bottomed out, and all three girls were restrained. We haven't finished a bottle of red wine yet, but all five of us boys have bottomed out with three bottles of white wine. I originally planned three bottles of white wine, but I couldn't stop the enthusiasm of several colleagues. I thought it wouldn't be difficult to have another bottle of white wine. I finally had a high-end consumption, so I had to enjoy myself.

At this time, Xiao Wang volunteered to go to the front desk to get the wine. I told Xiao Wang domineering: "I still want to drink that white wine, and today's grade can't be low."

At that time, while drinking happily, Xiao Wang left without paying special attention, and several colleagues continued to talk and laugh. After almost half an hour, Xiao Wang hasn't come back yet. During this period, several colleagues went out to look for Xiao Wang, but they couldn't find him.

When we were about to call Xiao Wang, Xiao Wang came back with a bottle of wine. We teased Xiao Wang if he had been there for so long. Xiao Wang just smiled and didn't talk, and skillfully opened the wine, so the dinner between the old men was renewed with wine.

During this period, I don't know why, but Xiao Wang changed his usual practice and made a toast to me very politely. At first, I only thought Xiao Wang had a conscience, or had drunk too much. I didn't know until I went to check out the bill. It turned out that Xiao Wang wanted to get me drunk and be a sucker to pay for himself!

We ate this dinner from 8: 11 to nearly 12: 11, and it just came to an end. Most of my colleagues were already drunk, and two ears were whispering. I took a sip of tea to sober up and prepared to go to the front desk to pay the bill.

I turned left and right and went to the front desk to buy the bill for the bottle of white wine. Just as I was about to take out WeChat to pay the bill, the cashier respectfully said, "Hello, your consumption is 3,111 yuan."

With this sentence, I was drunk directly, and I was scared into a cold sweat behind it. I was so excited that I asked again, "How much is it?" The cashier's line is still the same: "Hello, your consumption is three thousand yuan."

I am puzzled: "I came to make a reservation yesterday, and I have already paid for drinks and vegetables. I only ordered a bottle of white wine today. How can I spend 3,111 yuan?" Are you sure it's not a mistake? "

The cashier looked at it and said again, "Sir, there is nothing wrong with your bill. Look for yourself. You also consumed two Chinese cigarettes and three bottles of white wine later."

At that time, my brain went blank, and 3,111 yuan was really a lot of money, not to mention I didn't know how I spent it. I asked the cashier again, I have no idea about this consumption. Who spent it?

The cashier said sadly, "It was the young man with glasses at your table who consumed it. He also brought a bottle of white wine into your private room. We specifically confirmed this."

my heart is dying. It's hard to guard against domestic thieves, but I didn't expect to be set up by one of my own.

At that time, my brain was running at a high speed of 3611 revolutions per second. In less than a minute, I came up with a plan to make Xiao Wang pay the due bill with dignity.

immediately, I bought the bill for the bottle of white wine we drank. Then tell the cashier to play a good show with me.

I strode into the private room, and now I'm no longer drunk. When I entered the private room, I glanced at Xiao Wang coldly. From Xiao Wang's guilty expression, I was even more convinced that this boy had cheated me.

if people don't attack me, I won't attack. if people attack me, I will be convicted. Since Xiao Wang doesn't give me face, I don't need to give Xiao Wang face.

in a short time, the cashier came and cooperated with me in putting on this drama.

The cashier knocked politely at the door first, and then got my reply. After that, the cashier came in, looked directly at Xiao Wang and said, "Sir, this is the consumption list of our restaurant. Please have a look."

Xiao Wang subconsciously turned his eyes to me at this moment. I pretended not to see him and ignored him. Then, the cashier continued: "Sir, this gentleman (referring to me) bought the bill as early as yesterday, and left an extra 1111 yuan." This is your personal consumption in our restaurant tonight, two Chinese cigarettes and three bottles of high-grade liquor. Do you think it will be paid in cash or by mobile phone? "

I "suddenly realized" and said, "Xiao Wang, why don't you tell your brothers about buying two Chinese cigarettes and three bottles of good wine yourself? You don't know how to share good things, which is too much, or your boy will enjoy it, and we are reluctant to buy such expensive cigarettes and wine."

with my help, Xiao Wang ate coptis, but he couldn't tell the pain. Silently took out his mobile phone and bought the bill.

when I left, I gave the cashier a tip of 211 as a performance fee, and by the way, I punished this guy who took advantage of his good manners.

The next day, several colleagues sent me a private message, still blaming Xiao Wang for being so ignorant that he went smoothly at the leader's dinner and praised my wit.

I restrained myself and told them that I had privately communicated with Xiao Wang and forgave him for the time being.

But actually, will I forgive Xiao Wang? Maybe, maybe not. However, within a few days, Xiao Wang submitted his resignation report to me, and I didn't keep him. A month later, Xiao Wang left the company.

after what happened, leaving may be the best choice for him. Because he can't say for sure, I will give him a hard time in the future.

Write it at the end

Actually, it's not a trivial matter to follow the smoke and wine. This is related to a person's principles, moral standards and the bottom line of his own behavior. Whether you are my client, colleague, subordinate or leader, you can tell me if you want, and it's up to me to send or not.

You want it, but you don't tell me, and you secretly follow the instructions. This involves the issues of principle and bottom line. When dealing with such people, you are the only one who gets cheated in the end.

I can betray you for alcohol and tobacco, not to mention encountering greater temptation in the future. Why not just sell you?

in any case, when you meet such a person, my advice will always be: stay away from him, as far as possible.