Preparing for marriage notes | first time to meet the parents of the strategy, quick code to live!

One, the first meeting of the two parents Q&A

1, when to arrange the first meeting of the two parents?

Two people decided to get married, you can arrange for both parents to meet, this meeting is mainly to discuss the matter of marriage on the agenda, there is also the "recognition of family" said.

2, the first meeting should be proposed by who?

Generally proposed by the man, of course, is also a private decision to meet, the man's parents formally proposed to meet, invited to host a banquet.

3. Where should the meeting place be set?

If two people in the same city: can be set in the local elders are more recognized by the old hotel/high-grade restaurant, if two people in different places: generally by the male parents to the female city to visit the female parents, can be set in the female side of the more well-known or better reputation of catering hotels/restaurants.

4, which people need to participate? Can I bring my relatives?

Generally not recommended to bring relatives, but will be constrained, problematic, on both sides of the parents and children on the good, at most bring grandparents grandparents. Wait until after the engagement party can invite relatives to attend.

5, meet how should I address?

Both parents generally do not change their mouths when they meet for the first time, the younger generation can address each other's parents: uncle and aunt. Between the two parents can address: so-and-so dad, so-and-so mom, if the two families are more familiar, you can also directly call in-laws, in-laws.

6, parents to give red packets for the first meeting?

If this is the first time the children see each other's parents, or before that did not give a red envelope, the parents can give each other children to prepare to meet the red envelope, of course, also depends on the local customs of Oh.

7, the parents of the first meeting to give the bride price?

This meeting is to marry the child for the purpose of mutual understanding, to determine the marriage and recognize each other, so do not have to give. If you have talked privately before, talk about it, this meeting as a betrothal, it is possible to give.

8, to give gifts?

Children should give each other's parents to prepare gifts, this is the basic etiquette.

9, both parents meet for the first time to talk about what?

Chatting about the family, recognizing and familiarizing each other, chatting about the bride price or marriage customs (if you are engaged to talk). The wedding preparations, choose a date (if you are engaged to talk about).

10, who will settle the bill?

If it is the same city, usually the male knot. If the male parents to the female side, usually the female side of the knot, in order to avoid conflicts, it is best for the two first to end the account, do not let the parents knot it.

Two, both parents meet, how not embarrassed?

Before the meeting, the young couple to be fully prepared

1, to their parents to introduce each other's parents/family basics, such as occupation, temperament, hobbies taboos, etc., to prevent chatting about inappropriate offenses, but also for the parents to find topics. Appropriate in front of their parents to praise each other and each other's parents, both parents meet for the first time before the young couple to visit each other's parents, so that each other's parents recognize you, like you, so that when you meet will also be friendly to your parents.

2, before meeting, the young couple to take the initiative to introduce their parents family

Meet during the parents are advised to start from nagging family life. If their parents are more talkative, do not have to worry too much, parents will have their own way of chatting, if neither is too talkative, you can open the topic by you.

3, can talk about the topic point (if the atmosphere is relatively cold, you can talk about these, drive the atmosphere).

Weather, different places can talk about local attractions, features, food, etc. their respective occupations, work, etc., usually hobbies, children's funny things, praise each other's children, the date of the wedding, the form of the wedding held, the children's ideas about the wedding (if it is an engagement can talk about it), the wedding customs (if it is an engagement can talk about it).

4, remind parents never talk to themselves

The wedding needs to be negotiated and not decided without authorization. Respect each other's habits, wedding customs, not excessive favoritism / bragging about their own children, but also be demeaned, criticizing each other / their own children. Disagreements on things, do not say some bad words or face to face, you can go back and then discuss, by the youngest two to negotiate and communicate, to express the wishes of their parents.

Three, how to talk about the bride price is not embarrassing? (If it is an engagement party can chat)

1, the young couple be sure to discuss in advance

Want to not be embarrassed, don't really spread out to chat at the table, it's easy to talk about the collapse. It is best to meet before the small couples will be parents and their own ideas to communicate with each other, to be consensus, there is not too much disagreement before arranging to meet. After meeting, then confirm and communicate details.

2, meet the best male first open, take the initiative to remind parents of these words do not say

Temporary change of heart, change of words: will appear to be insincere, we feel that the 10 w is not enough, at least 15 w.

Attitude, non-negotiable: to talk about the rhythm of the collapse of the family on the 6 w, more than no, you look at the matter.

To give a downward spiral, flinging face is bound to annoy the other side, and is not non-marriageable!

3, too fine a problem do not have to talk about

Talk about too detailed, easy to argue, parents only talk about it can be, the details of the problem of private discussion.

4, the scene is not right, stop in time

In case of disagreement between the two parents, the children must stop in time, parents, uncles and aunts, we eat first, the food is going to be cold, these we talk back, not in a hurry.

Remember:Thinking of meeting with the premise of marriage, the significance of meeting with parents is to go through the motions to show recognition. Married couple, about the wedding related serious things are both sides of the door and their own parents to talk about, parents will give you a bottom line. After that, it's the engagement party! Principle:Not too humble, mutual respect, there is a discussion!

Four, send each other's parents gift list

Fresh fruit: Bali, kiwi, fruit gift box.

Wine:Maotai, Wuliangye, Dream Blue, Guojiao, red wine.

Cigarettes: China, Su cigarettes (boys send, need to ask the girlfriend in advance).

Health care products: American ginseng, bird's nest, honey, fish oil, Colla Corii Asini.

Health care products: foot bath, massage instrument, latex pillow.

Food gift box:Nut gift box, pastry gift box, milk, flower tea gift box.

Tea: Pu'er, Longjing, Tieguanyin, Jinjunmei.

Jewelry and accessories: pearl necklace, earrings, scarf, shawl.

Skincare & Beauty:Skincare set, lipstick, mask, perfume, hand cream.