The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a lot to do with her husband. Many women will face this relationship after marriage. In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men play a decisive role. Let's talk about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which has a great relationship with her husband. I hope it will help everyone! The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a lot to do with her husband. 1 I had tea with some friends the other day, and a girl who was not married said, "I found an interesting thing. You who have given birth to babies, besides talking about children, especially love to talk about mother-in-law. Even two strangers, as long as they talk about their mother-in-law, there will be endless words. " 0 1 While having tea with some friends the other day, an unmarried girl said, "I found an interesting thing. You people who have given birth to babies, besides talking about children, especially love talking about mother-in-law. Even two strangers, as long as they talk about their mother-in-law, there will be endless words. " It's true. Sometimes when discussing parenting experience, people will naturally talk about their mother-in-law, because there are really too many things to get along with! Especially after giving birth to a child, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law snowballed. I met a sister before 02 because of business relationship. Call her little c for the time being. Once, I went to Xiao C's house to get my papers, and Xiao C's mother-in-law happened to be there. She took the initiative to talk to me and began to scold Xiao C without saying a few words. I am embarrassed. . . . . Later, I learned that Xiao C's mother-in-law was not good to her since she was a child. Little c endured the small friction on weekdays. What makes Xiao C hard to let go is that when she was in confinement, her mother-in-law said that she had no time to take care of her. She was very considerate of her mother-in-law and let her mother in her hometown in Henan take care of herself. But little C's mother only stayed for a few days, and she offered to go back. After careful questioning, I realized that my mother-in-law didn't say a word, and threw the rice wine that my mother used to make up her body into the trash can, always posing as a high-flying posture. Xiao C asked her mother-in-law to explain. Mother-in-law insisted that she couldn't drink. Little C's mother got angry and didn't say anything, so she went back to her hometown by car. Xiao C knew that her mother had gone back crying, and she cried herself, feeling that she was too unfilial. My mother has been working hard for herself all her life. She thought she could hold her grandson happily, but it turned out like this. She hates her mother-in-law. During confinement, what she does every day is to eat, take care of the baby and secretly scold her mother-in-law. Xiao c said bitterly, who said that her mother-in-law is not a mother? I think my mother-in-law is my mother, but she is Snow White's stepmother. She never wants you to have a good life. I asked Xiao C, after you and your mother-in-law did this, won't your husband stand up and say something? Xiao C is quite helpless, he knows, but he is too filial to hurt the harmony of his family. Smile. I am depressed for Xiao C. Why do women always hurt each other in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? I often see my daughter-in-law speak ill of her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law also speaks ill of her daughter-in-law in the street, and others are also at a loss. Who is right and who is wrong? From their respective perspectives, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are all right. I'm just curious. When these two women are fighting each other, where is the man who should be responsible? Our eyes often focus only on the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, arguing about who is right and who is wrong, but ignoring the role of one person, that person is your husband. In fact, if it weren't for this person, you might never know your mother-in-law, let alone become a family. The so-called mother-in-law relationship, the husband is the root. Among the friends around me, those who constantly endure the pressure of their mother-in-law are all because of their husbands' inaction. Specifically, the mantra is "what my mother said", and when it comes to things, it will only be "old people are like that, what's wrong with listening to her", and the most terrible thing is "it's not easy for my mother to raise me, so giving her a salary makes her happy". Excuse me, are you going to spend your life with your mother? You said he was filial, but I don't think so. Think about it. The older generation always wants their children and grandchildren to "get married" so that the family can continue. But if they don't take responsibility, can they still get married? There is a saying that filial piety is the best filial piety. If everything depends on my elders, I would rather give up my life for my elders. In my opinion, this filial piety is just a shield without responsibility. In family relations, filial piety is used to block responsibility. In fact, many big contradictions broke out on the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is nothing more than domestic violence on weekdays. If there was a small friction at that time, people with opinions would come out in time to deal with it, and they would not get out of control later. My wife and mother will complain a few words in front of her husband, all of which are love words. At this time, what the husband should do should not be a simple megaphone, and directly tell the other party what he said without reservation. The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. That's death, okay? A husband who has done something is reserved and energetic. A friend often takes selfies with her mother-in-law in a circle of friends, just like a girlfriend. I also asked her why she can get along so well with her mother-in-law. She joked, "Because I have a husband to protect me." She told a short story. She and her husband live separately from their mother-in-law. Once, she made an appointment to go back to her mother-in-law's house. As a result, she got a temporary job and had to let her husband go back by himself. She is very sorry, thinking of coaxing her mother-in-law next time. As a result, her husband came back and all the bags were brought to her by her mother-in-law. She asked her husband and mother-in-law, isn't she angry? Her husband said: "My mother was a little depressed at first, so I said,' Actually, your daughter-in-law also wants to see you, but that client is very difficult and she is also annoyed. There is nothing she can do about her job. Your daughter-in-law misses you and is angry! "Then my mother asked me to stare at you and eat more, not so hard. "Sure enough, my husband is reliable and responsible, and friends can get along well with their mother-in-law. Like girlfriends, it is not surprising. There is a saying that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been natural enemies since ancient times. I agree with this sentence, but it is incomplete. The integrity should be that the man is not responsible and the mother-in-law is a natural enemy. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a lot to do with her husband. Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for two families. It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with. Some people will ask, is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law good? Many times, as a daughter-in-law, she feels that she is doing the right thing, but in the eyes of her mother-in-law, it is not the case. The problem lies in the lack of communication. People can establish friendly relations, mainly through communication, and tell each other more about their true feelings. Only by being good at communication can we solve problems in time, resolve some small contradictions and avoid the accumulation of small contradictions into big contradictions, which will lead to two extreme cold wars in the family. Dr. Gong, played by Christina, is a famous obstetrician and gynecologist in Shanghai. She graduated with a doctor's degree, and her ability is outstanding. She gave birth to a second child, completed the job-hopping career upgrade, but still trapped in the family. In-laws dote on their children, don't listen to dissuasion, coax their children to feed, and let Dabao play ipad while eating, on the grounds that "you can eat more" and "the meat on your child has been fed in one bite". Mother-in-law refused to add complementary food to Bauer, and also produced evidence of her son who reached middle age: "Li Si was from snacks to three years old, otherwise he could grow so tall and so smart?" Gong Beibei made a rule for his son not to play with the ipad. When the child cried, the father-in-law was furious: "It was fine. When you come back, everything is out of order! " The husband accused, the mother-in-law wiped her tears, and a woman who came home after a busy day outside became the culprit. Gong Beibei decided to end this life and change houses. As a result, they had a quarrel when they were looking at the house, and every sentence was worrying. Men insist on living with their parents, while women insist on separation. Women want spiritual communication between husband and wife, and men think that life is like this. Women feel that marriage should not be just companionship, and men feel that their contribution to the family has not been exchanged for a thank you. Such couples have many wives. Living apart is considered a big mistake. Living together, but can't persuade parents to change their education methods. Among the dilemmas, only sacrificing his wife is his most convenient solution. Gong Beibei's tears and sobs are the grievances of thousands of Qian Qian women in their marriage. Even so, she has to submit to humiliation. When her husband has a conflict with others while driving, she will calm down and coax him to fasten his seat belt. But in fact, there are no unfilial daughters-in-law, only sons who are not sensible. It is this man who connects the two women. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a subtle triangular relationship, and the key lies in the son. Smart men with high emotional intelligence will always make both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law happy and will not be overwhelmed by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I once saw a story: "Xiaoli always thought that if we want to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we should try our best to please our in-laws and get along well with them." That's what Xiaoli did when she met her parents with her predecessor. She bought some valuable and thoughtful things for her parents, beautiful clothes for her mother, and was the first to wash the dishes after dinner at home, for fear that her parents would have a problem with her. But even so, his parents kept making things difficult for him, and his predecessor always persuaded his parents to raise him, which made Xiaoli more tolerant. Finally broke up, and later met my current husband. After being with him, Xiaoli realized that the contradiction between you and your mother-in-law can be completely resolved, and there is no need to do too much. Your husband can make Xiaoli and her mother-in-law live in harmony. With her husband, Xiaoli doesn't need obvious grievances but can't say it. Her mother-in-law is not so hostile to her. Her husband will speak well of Xiaoli in front of her mother-in-law, and she will also talk about her mother-in-law's difficulties in front of Xiaoli. "Many men will have this idea when facing their parents and wives:" It is not easy for my parents to raise me, so you should be filial to your parents. "But it doesn't make any sense. It's not easy for your parents to raise you, but they didn't raise your wife. A wife should be filial to her in-laws, but this is not the reason why it is not easy for your parents to raise you. A woman married to your family is not related to your parents. She is not a family at all, but a stranger. It was because of your that she "walked into a house". Your parents worked hard to raise you, which has nothing to do with her. As a husband in marriage, only by not taking sides and letting two women know that they are very important in your heart, regardless of each other, can we really live in harmony. Only by being good at communication can we solve problems in time, resolve some small contradictions and avoid the accumulation of small contradictions into big contradictions.