When interacting with others, many women are always very concerned about their own evaluation, in order to win the goodwill of others, they always hide their true selves and go to cater to others, for others to put forward the request never consider their own actual conditions, no matter how much cost is embarrassed to refuse, and even take the initiative to help others to do a lot of things.

You in the minds of others may be very kind, warm, cordial, easy-going, helpful, your selfless image, so that more friends are willing to find you to help them know that you will not refuse their requests, although at first they always feel a little embarrassed, but for a long time, you are happy to give, against their will, to act as a supporting role, in the aftermath of the sacrifice that they have become accustomed to you! The most important thing is that you will become more and more accustomed to it, and even take it all for granted, at most say thank you, and sometimes even do not ask your opinion, directly for you to make a decision. Because they all understand that you are not going to disagree with them on this decision, so that you sacrifice a lot of time and energy for others, but can't influence your own life.

Maybe you're already tired of maintaining a helpful image, but you're afraid that if you reject someone's request and they find out what you're really thinking, the good image you've been trying to maintain will be greatly diminished in their minds, and your friendship may be over from then on.

These fears are not at all unreasonable. Sometimes friendships between people are based on mutual utilization, and the reason why your friends are close to you may be because you are good-tempered, responsive, and can bring them a lot of benefits. If you refuse to help, they may feel that you have little value to them and part ways with you. But if you make too many sacrifices because you're worried about that and don't want your friends to know what you really think or how you really feel, it's not fair to you, and you may pay a larger price for it without the other person knowing all about it.

For example, your friend comes to your house to play, and she is very interested in the special snacks of a nearby restaurant. So, every time you go out to eat in the future, she will always propose to go to that restaurant, but you inwardly do not like to go to that restaurant at all, because you are not interested in the special snacks there, and the cost of consumption there is very high, in fact, you are still willing to ask her to eat at home, but you are too embarrassed to refuse her, in order not to sweep her off her feet, but still agreed to do so. So she does not know what you really think, but also thought that you also like her special snacks there are fond of, so every time you go to your home, will always propose to go to that restaurant, you have to pretend to be very happy every time you readily agreed. In this way, originally a very easy and beautiful thing into a burden, more pathetic, your friend for you to make this sacrifice but did not notice at all.

And then there's the weekend you're looking forward to after a busy week, and you want to stay home and relax, take a bath, watch TV, listen to music, or do whatever you want, and then go to bed early. But then your friend calls and asks you to go to the park with her, and even though you're tired, you're too embarrassed to say no to the enthusiastic request on the other end of the line, and you agree to it as if you're having fun. So your plan is broken, when you walk in the park with her, although the park's scenery is very beautiful, but you do not have the mood to appreciate, only think can quickly go home and lie comfortably in bed to sleep. In this way, the park would have been a very easy thing, but for you at this time has become a kind of pain in the ass.

After the park, you thought you could go home and restart your own program, but your friend is not yet finished, playing very excited, she also strongly requested to go to the neighborhood to climb the mountain, listed a large number of climbing benefits to the body, you do not want to combat her enthusiasm, had to go. By the time you get home, it's already late, and you're already tired, you feel even more tired, and your weekend plans just fizzled out, and you probably felt chagrined about it and lost your temper with your family, which was really asking for it.

Why are you so miserable and exhausted? It's because of your selflessness. So you need to change your image of Miss Nice Guy, express your true thoughts clearly, and don't always attach yourself to others. For example, eat with friends, when she asked you what you want to eat, do not always say "whatever", "eat anything", she ordered what you eat; when the weekend friends again invited you to go out, ask you where you want to go, do not always say When your friends invite you to go out again on the weekend and ask you where you want to go, don't always say "you tell me", but say where you want to go and don't be embarrassed. In fact, expressing your true thoughts will not only make you feel satisfied with yourself and won't live so tired, but also make those who are with you in a relaxed mood.

So, you need to learn to say "no". No, is a very simple word, but let women easily say out is not a simple thing, sometimes even if they have the courage to refuse others, boldly say "no" to others, but give people the feeling as if you have done something wrong to each other, as if there is no bottom. In fact, this is not necessary, everyone has the right to refuse others, for you do not want to eat the meal, do not like to do things, can be justified to say "no". Although at first you will feel uncomfortable, some friends may be away from you, but really cherish your friends will re-recognize you, they will be happy for you, and a know how to say "no" woman in the eyes of men more charming. For themselves, over time, you will realize that saying "no" allows you to avoid making too many sacrifices for others, leaving more time to do what you like to do, and enjoy life without restrictions.

Friendship sometimes has a great deal of camouflage, for those who are always from you to ask for, when you want to take advantage of your good intentions, but do not care about your feelings or ignore you for them to pay for all of their friends, you should let them know your tolerance. Only when necessary, and then their own goodwill truly conveyed to others, only this kind of heartfelt charity, will allow you to experience the joy of being a giver.

Refuse to be "Ms. Nice Guy" and don't make sacrifices so that you can avoid investing in higher costs.

Bestselling author Judy Resnick wrote in "Women Want Money" that it is dangerous for women to never plan for their future. Women need to be youthful, beautiful, meet a good man, and more importantly, be rich to be happy.