I don't know exactly what the Buddha said about obsession. But there is probably a saying that obsession is the root of pain, and you can get rid of it if you let it go.

obsession is a bad thing, which I should have known for a long time, vaguely understood or not understood. If you don't enter the world of mortals, you can't see through the world of mortals, and if you don't notice the obsession, you can't let go of it. I think too young too simple is too old to understand obsession, let alone really understand it, and I don't even know it when I have a lot of obsession.

I have a lot of obsessions, a lot of obsessions, and now I can observe some of others' obsessions. In the past, I understood both choice and obsession as one meaning. Because I chose, I showed persistence, which led to obsession. But now I think they are different. Obsession is obsession, and choice is choice.

I am 31 years old, but my growth is estimated to be only in 2115. Five years ago, I was in high school. At that time, I began to think freely and began to think about the meaning of life. Really, I clearly remember discussing the meaning of life with my classmates in the dormitory of high school. Although it was fruitless at that time, the picture was deeply imprinted in my mind.

with thinking, you start thinking, and you start the journey of breaking your obsession. Today, after 2115, I have a landmark new understanding of obsession, and I am very happy, because all of a sudden, many things in my head began to unlock, making me more free. Thinking will become more free and carefree, and I will be excited and happy from the heart.

I have an obsession. I want to shelter my loved ones from the wind and rain. I don't know when I had this obsession. I analyze myself. I think it's because I feel that I have gone to college, and I am more educated and knowledgeable than most of my relatives. I can see a better and farther life, at the same time, I think their current living conditions are not good enough, I think they also want to develop in a better direction, and I think they really need my help.

To my parents:

My parents raised me hard and suffered a lot before. Now I have the responsibility and obligation to let them live a better life. This is my biggest obsession. I am in favor of parents' ingratitude. Every adult is an independent individual, and his own life is mainly arranged by himself, including his parents. Of course, it's not that I don't have to take care of my parents. It's mainly that my parents have to choose their own lives to fight for, and they can help if they need help, but their affairs are dominated by them.

My parents grew up with hardships, and I can't imagine the hardships in the 1971s and 1981s. Comparatively speaking, they are actually happy and rich in their present life, and they are satisfied themselves. My wishful hope to create a better life for them is actually entirely my own idea, but it is not their inner thoughts. I have given myself an obsession. In fact, what my parents want is to see me live better on the basis of my present life.

Life is not hard for parents now. They can enjoy themselves. As long as I don't give them too much trouble, it is enough to give them proper care.

this is my obsession in treating my parents. I imposed my thoughts on them and on me, which put a pressure on me and produced too many negative emotions.

For the wife:

In my opinion, the wife is the closest person among all relatives, and the importance of the relationship is the wife >; Children > Parents > Other relatives. My wife and I are * * * the same body, and misfortune and * * *. Her business is my business, and my business will also be related to her. The mutual interest relationship is superior to all other relationships. I will try my best to protect our interests and make our life more stable and beautiful.

but what my wife wants to do may not be in our interest, but that's what my wife wants to do. From my understanding, my wife should not do anything that is harmful to our interests, but must do it with my consent. Because we are the highest level of everything.

This is my choice, or my obsession with marriage. In my marriage view, the wife is such a role, otherwise there is no marriage.

For children:

When children are not adults, their parents are their days. In the process of children's growth, what kind of environment parents create for him, the children will be affected. I hope that children will grow up in a good environment, have a good influence, and be able to become talents in the future; For some people with bad habits, I hope they will appear in the children's living environment as little as possible.

perhaps it is my obsession to protect my child too much and hope that he will become a success in the future. Children are not so sensitive, and they are corrupted after a period of time. I am too cautious, similar to cleanliness.

I remember a time when children were crawling on the ground, covered with dust. It was just winter. The child climbed on the crawling mat at first, and then climbed to the ground. I felt that the ground was very cold, so I picked him up with one hand. As a result, the child hit his head on the ground and was bleeding. This incident tells me that paying too much attention to one problem will easily lead to other problems, and the best way is to persuade it to change slowly.

this is my obsession with children. Forcing my supervisor's idea on children not only violates the law of children's development, but also has bad consequences.

at present, I look at myself and find that I only have obsession when I treat my closest relatives, and there is no excessive obsession in other relationships. However, I have some obsessions about the risks in my life. I always hope to completely isolate the risks. When the risks exist, I am too nervous. I think I should embrace the risk, and the integration of body and mind can avoid the occurrence of risk problems to the greatest extent.

The above is my observation of myself as a man, and I also have some observation of the obsession of ordinary women.

For parents:

Parents' problems are integrated with their own, and they have the obligation and responsibility to take the initiative to help their parents solve problems, shelter from the wind and rain, and create a better life for their parents.

In fact, this is an obsession. Parents really need you to take over his mission. Without your parents, you can't solve the problem. You can certainly solve the problem better than your parents. In fact, these are all personal subjective thoughts, that is, their own obsession.

To the husband:

The husband should be considerate of what he has done and support himself almost unconditionally, because he thinks he is doing the right thing.

In fact, this is also an obsession, or a wrong concept.

For brothers and sisters:

Brothers and sisters have difficulties, which are all related to me. I will actively help them. They really need your help. They can't solve the problem without you. You can certainly solve the problem better than them. In fact, they are all personal subjective thoughts, that is, their own obsession.

I think obsession and choice are different. The biggest difference between them is that obsession is to impose other things and things that are not related to one's personal interests on oneself subjectively, and then choose and carry them out persistently. The choice is to know that this is someone else's business or your own business, and then try to do it well.

now, let me talk about the obsession of the picture. The title picture comes from the second season of the TV series "nirvana in fire".

In the TV series, the old prince has always been a good minister who keeps his duty and is loyal to the monarch. He only hopes that the country will be stable and less war, and he has no intention of higher rights or even usurping the throne. However, after the death of the old emperor, the new emperor ascended the throne, and the old prince held a high position. Some other ministers speculated that the old prince might have the heart to usurp the throne and seize power, so he was bent on weakening his rights, which led to many struggles. In the end, the two sons of the old prince were in danger because of this struggle.

In this case, the old prince's ambition and loyalty to serve the country wholeheartedly were not recognized by the new emperor, but he became suspicious. If the old prince still insists on his original intention, continues to occupy a high position and holds power, and wants to be loyal to the emperor, it is actually an obsession. I subjectively imposed the important task of defending the country on myself, but the new emperor didn't want you to do these things, but thought you were a threat.

In this situation, the old prince gives up his rights and the military power, which is liberation, otherwise it is obsession.

I think this story explains obsession very well. Since I saw this scene on TV, I have kept this photo, which has been on the computer desktop for a long time. I'm so happy that I finally figured it out today.

finally, click on the question. It's terrible to cling to this thing! ! !

PS:

By the way, I found that there is another insurmountable obsession, cognitive closure. For the sake of cognitive closure, I have been thinking continuously for nearly 15 years, and finally it is closed. This obsession may still be with me, and I want to think about how to get along with her.

hylan 2118-4-15