Generally, there are six processes: receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, inviting, and getting married.

Accepting talents, also known as proposing marriage, means that the parents of the man entrust the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's family, and the matchmaker introduces the man's family, his appearance, age and so on. Go to the woman's house and leave a proposal form after the woman's parents agree.

When asking the name, the man will ask the woman's surname (including the adopted woman's name), maiden name, date of birth and so on. Through the matchmaker, and the woman writes the above content as a post, which is delivered to the man by the matchmaker.

Najib, also known as "too small post". After asking the name, the man asked the fortune teller to get married for divination. That is, men and women of the same family can't get married. On the other hand, after divination, the woman was told that the engagement was preliminarily agreed.

At that time, it was also called "big post". After the man asks for marriage, the engagement and gifts are sent to the woman's house, which is also called "makeup promotion". At this time, I was officially engaged.

Please ask the date, the man chooses an auspicious day as the wedding date, and informs the woman by book, which is also called "sending the day"

There are two rules for marriage. On the wedding day, the man organizes a ceremony to go to the woman's house to marry the bride, which is called "marriage", and the groom goes to the woman's house to get married, which is called "big wedding".

Interpretation of marriage dialect;

"Homeward": that is, the woman goes to the man's house to see the family situation.

"Eating fertilized eggs" means "eating engagement dinner". If both men and women agree, the engagement ceremony will be held at the man's home one day. On that day, the man's family will hold a big banquet and give the woman a happy event (ranging from four colors to eight colors).

"Eat Yuan": After the engagement, choose an auspicious day of the zodiac and hold a banquet at the woman's house. The man and the matchmaker will go to the woman's house together, and the woman will give the man a gift, so the marriage relationship will be settled.

"Dowry": The bride's dowry is sent to the man's house by the woman two days before marriage.

"Kang pressing": The night before the wedding, three to five boys from the groom's younger brother and nephew are chosen to sleep in the new house with the groom.

The bridal chamber: There are many underage men and women who come to have fun day and night when they get married.

"Back to the door": Three days after marriage, the couple went to the woman's house, and the woman's house gave a banquet to her son-in-law.

Etiquette taboo

Etiquette: In the old days, Baodi had complicated etiquette and distinct generations. Etiquette was very important in big and small matters, in dealing with people and in daily life. Today's surviving and emerging etiquette after the founding of the People's Republic mainly include: hat-taking ceremony, bow ceremony, fist-making ceremony, kowtowing ceremony, handshake ceremony, hand-raising ceremony and so on.

Miscellaneous gifts:

"confinement": female fertility, commonly known as "confinement". After the birth of the child, relatives and friends, especially those close to the maternal family, came to visit and congratulate, and brought white flour, rice, brown sugar, eggs and other things. Some people also send flowers, cloth and children's clothes to congratulate their babies.

"He Twelve": the child was born 12 days, commonly known as "Twelve". This is the biggest celebration day after the baby is born. There are many gifts from relatives and friends, such as cakes, children's clothes, cloth, lucky money, bracelets, anklets, necklaces and so on. The host gave him a grand banquet. Today, most of them are clothes, hats, sugar noodles, eggs and lucky money.

"Happy birthday": In the past, people in county towns usually put on new clothes and ate noodles and eggs to celebrate. In case of old age birthday, sons, nephews and younger generations will hold a banquet to celebrate their birthdays, and some relatives and friends will also come to congratulate them. Nowadays, birthdays are mostly for children and the elderly, mainly banquets.

"Birthday": In the old days, family elders usually celebrated their birthdays every ten years after they turned 50. The ceremony is to invite relatives and friends and entertain guests. Birthday greetings include birthday books, birthday couplets, wine, meat, fruit and so on. Before the banquet, a birthday ceremony was held, the younger generation paid tribute to it, and relatives and friends sent greetings. Another married daughter bought a knife of pork for her 66-year-old parents to express the custom of wishing them a long life.

"Congratulations on the new house": In the old society, people in the county regarded building a new house as a major event. When the new house starts, red couplets are posted and firecrackers are set off, indicating that it can drive away good luck and avoid evil, and congratulations are also expressed. Moving into a new house is called "housewarming". At that time, the master moved the fire from the old stove to the new stove at dawn, which was called "receiving the fire". Relatives and neighbors sent wedding couplets and congratulatory messages. The host invited tea and wine to express his gratitude. Relatives and friends sent more money, vegetables, wine and other things to help, commonly known as "paying food".

"Warm pot": The married daughter set up a kitchen in her husband's house, and her relatives sent cookware, matches, ponytails, rice wine, pasta, fish and so on to cook for her, symbolizing that life is booming and horses and mules are rising step by step.

"Looking hot": In the first summer after marriage (the first summer when unmarried young people began to get engaged), the man went to his wife's house to visit Wang Yue's parents with gifts such as melons, peaches, wine and meat.

Taboo: Baodi is commonly known as "Example". There are many taboos in China.

For example, beginning of spring, a newly married woman, went back to her mother's house that day and said that she was interfering with her brother. Having a haircut in the first month is an obstacle for my uncle; Doing needlework on the first day of the first month means that you can't be idle for a year; On the fifth day of the first month, avoid buying and selling, and avoid traveling; On February 2, the dragon looked up and moved scissors every day, calling it attracting snakes and scorpions.

The anterior chamber is higher than the posterior chamber, which is called bullying the ancestors; The window of one house faces the door of another house, that is to say, the window faces the door. If you don't go to court, you will die; The gate of the courtyard faces the aisle, indicating that people and ghosts are on the same road; Avoid moving in the first month and September; When building a house, iron objects are hidden in the foundation or wall, which is called buried objects.

During the mourning period (generally on May 7th, the first day of the first month to the 15th), it is forbidden to visit relatives and friends, get married and wear strange clothes; Women who have given birth for less than one month are prohibited from entering other people's houses; By car or boat, avoid saying the word "turn"; Avoid getting married on a single day.

Funeral custom

Before liberation, wooden coffins were generally buried underground, and the etiquette was complicated. After the founding of New China, rural funerals generally follow the old procedures. After the 1970s, the number of urns gradually increased.