In addition to the objective factors such as high and strict school education requirements, excessive pressure, monotonous study life, boring teaching methods and boring content, it is difficult to adapt to students' characteristics and development level. The sense of learning powerlessness formed by learning failure is an important reason, which leads to loss of confidence and interest, and then passive escape and self-abandonment. Serious development will lead to truancy.
Tired of learning, as the name implies, is that children are not interested in learning, resulting in boredom and indifference, which is manifested in behavior. Specifically, it will be manifested as thinking that reading is useless, treating learning negatively and avoiding learning activities.
Children who are light and tired of learning are not interested in going to school, but they have to go to school because of family or external pressure. If the learning state at school is negative and the learning efficiency is low, people will become restless, sentimental, easily angry, inattentive, even unhappy about anything, bored with themselves and others, and live in dire straits every day. What's more, when he feels that he can't go on studying, when he feels that going to school and studying is simply a kind of torture for him, he may hate going to school and studying from the bottom of his heart, and may eventually choose extreme behaviors such as dropping out of school and running away from home.
The proportion of good students who are tired of learning is on the rise.
Case 1: Small, female, senior two student. Xiao is a child who loves reading and is eager to learn. He has been studying in key schools from primary school to high school. His parents disciplined him extensively in his studies without much pressure. But one day she suddenly solemnly told her parents that she wanted to drop out of school. Parents think that children are just talking about the pressure of study. I didn't expect the child to really stop going to school from the next day. No matter what parents say, the teacher refuses to go to school. Early the next morning, my father urged Xiao to go to school. My father has never hit the child, but he has been hitting her, but Xiao is still indifferent. Later, when communicating with Xiao, she said that she just wanted to sleep, and her father suddenly felt that the child was really bitter!
Case 2: Xiao B, male, a junior two student. Xiao B's grades in the class have always been in the top few. Suddenly one day, he caught a slight cold and didn't go to school. This cold dragged on for two months, but his parents refused to go. Little B told his mother that he didn't like school and his class.
Case 3: Xiao C, female, a junior two student. After junior high school, Xiao C couldn't finish his homework at first, and then he couldn't even finish his homework in class. Xiao C said that he was always absent-minded in class, and he could be absent-minded four or five times in a class. However, she can realize that she is distracted and adjust in time. From the second day of junior high school, she found that learning became more and more useless and she lost interest in learning.
Case 4: Little D, male, senior one student. Little D is the math class representative in the class. Once he spoke in class and was thrown a chalk head by the math teacher. According to his parents, he was pushed down later. After that, the children never want to go to school again. Although the math teacher came to apologize, the child refused to forgive him.
In the investigation, the author found that the proportion of students with good grades who are tired of learning is increasing, which is the most unacceptable fact for parents and teachers. The above cases are typical and may not be universal, but weariness of learning has indeed made many children "run" impermanently and even "start" like a computer virus. The Institute of Child and Adolescent Psychology of Shandong Mental Health Center conducted a survey of 100 students in two junior high schools in Jinan. The results show that 42.6% people feel great pressure in study, 42.8% people feel nervous about exams, 15.8% people don't adapt to school life, 16.7% people don't understand their parents' poor test scores, 36% people feel bored with study and 65,433 people feel bored with life.
Imperfect personality development is the inducement of weariness of learning.
In the process of understanding the above-mentioned cases, the author found that the reasons for these students who are strongly tired of learning cannot be simply attributed to the great pressure of learning. Under the guidance of psychologists again and again, after in-depth communication with these students, the reasons for being tired of learning were presented one by one, which surprised teachers and parents.
Little B doesn't like going to school for complicated reasons. He was once blackmailed by the "small gang" of the school. Although it was reported to the school, it did not attract enough attention and eventually went away. In addition, he had a crush on a girl in his class when he was a teenager, but he was rejected. Several students in the class know about it, and he feels that students often talk about him, point fingers and isolate him.
Xiao C has been practicing piano since he was a child. In order to let her practice the piano well, her low-paid mother spent all her money, bought two pianos before and after, invited the best teacher, and almost always accompanied her to practice the piano after work. The teacher said that Xiao C was very talented in music. Xiao c has passed the piano band 8 exam. However, from the second grade of primary school, she suffered from TIC disorder and had to give up the piano. Up to now, she can't touch the piano She shed tears when she talked about it and felt sorry for her mother's careful cultivation. This knot also affected her study. She is very demanding of herself. When she can't reach her goal, she will blame herself for all her mistakes. She feels that she can't bear the great hopes of her parents and there is no way out, which leads to more and more pressure and weariness of learning.
After in-depth communication with experts, Xiao D admitted that the teacher not only pushed him, but also slapped him in the face in front of the whole class, which made him feel humiliated and held his head up in front of his classmates and teachers. In fact, this math teacher attaches great importance to little D, cultivates him into a small seed of Orsay, and often gives him a "small stove". However, after this incident, Little D hated the math teacher and even said some malicious words about Korosensei. The teacher must have done something wrong, but Xiao D didn't forgive the teacher after he apologized, and he didn't tolerate the teacher at all. Experts pointed out that in addition to the double pressure from family and school, many students' interpersonal phobia is also an important reason for being tired of learning. These students are often very discordant, afraid to communicate with their classmates, and unhappy at school. In the long run, they lose interest in learning. In addition, the class atmosphere is also a very important reason. In classes with bad class atmosphere, there are often more students who are tired of learning.
Cultivating children's perfect personality is the foundation.
Experts said that from the common situation, the reasons why students are tired of learning are generally divided into three aspects: First, our children's endurance is getting worse and worse, and their ability to resist setbacks is weak, but parents and society have higher and higher expectations for them. Children would rather hide in eggshells at home than go to school. Second, at present, our education is in line with the results, lacking a comprehensive standard to measure children. Parents have no correct and timely guidance on their children's growth, and they are extremely lacking in education on their living ability, sense of responsibility and sound personality. Only when there are problems in our study do we feel that there are problems. Third, many children are tired of learning because they are addicted to online games. Because children's life is monotonous and there is no happy experience, the focus is on this point.
In view of the tense relationship between teachers and students, experts pointed out that teachers should always observe students' psychology, find students' bright spots, give them appropriate encouragement, and let them feel that teachers attach importance to them. Once students' family pressure is found to be too great, they should communicate with their parents in time, do a good job in family work and decompress appropriately.
According to the survey, 90% parents attach great importance to their children's intelligence and cultivation, but neglect their children's good character, that is, the cultivation of emotional intelligence and interest in learning. Many of the children who are in frequent contact are excellent in primary school, but after junior high school and high school, they gradually hate learning and become willful and selfish. Even if such a child can be admitted to a master's degree or a doctor's degree, his personality defects, such as complete disregard for others and poor anti-frustration ability, will eventually seriously affect his future work and life. Several suicide cases of doctoral students this year are good examples.
In addition, schools often rank students and punish students badly, which will affect children's interest in learning. In addition to the examination-oriented education methods that should be reformed, teachers must also change their teaching methods and pay more attention to students' psychological and behavioral development. Ask him what he likes. In fact, for such a young child, everything in the world is for him to learn. Give him whatever he wants. For example, if he wants to play, ask him what to play. If he answers that he doesn't want to go to kindergarten, ask him where he wants to go without going to kindergarten. If he answers that he wants to stay at home, it's best, because staying at home is the most boring thing, but he hasn't realized that you have kept her at home for a few days, and then ask him what he likes, which makes him exhaust all his IQ. He can't figure out what he is doing, and his interest will gradually shift to kindergarten to live a collective life. In fact, at present, there are many classes in kindergarten, but the key is not what your children have learned. But whether it has learned how to learn and how to communicate with others, which is related to his future study and life. In this regard, he won't listen to anything you say. This thing can only be slowly touched and pondered by itself. Every child is a genius. If he has mastered the method, the starting point is the same as whether he has it or not. If he is not a scientist in the future, from a macro perspective, it will be endless. To put it bluntly, he knows the method and learns everything quickly. Few people know what the method is, so as long as the child is honest, kind and fair. Let him do the rest, maybe he can be better than you and know the method better than you. He is also a good man, to say the least.