"Scapegoat effect"

Those people around you who love to dump pots? If you don't want to be a scapegoat, observe these points!

"Dumping the famous scene"

Small Zhang is a financial management personnel, the recent organization of the company's financial self-inspection, he and Sister Li two people busy, finally almost get through the head, but in the final session, she felt that their hands seem to be unable to complete the work report on time, so he said with the side of the Sister Li, "Sister Li, the boss accounted for the This financial self-inspection, your hands are done with the work?" Sister Li said: "My side are finished, just missing your statement, you grasp a little tight."

Small Zhang said: "Why don't you take a look at it for me? I have other things to do and I'm in a hurry to get it done, and the boss is pressing me hard for this statement, so I think you're experienced enough to handle it." Sister Li is also out of good intentions to take over, but I did not expect the boss called to urge the progress, Zhang and the boss report, their own things are finished, just missing Li hand a little unfinished. The first thing that happened was that she became the one who took the blame.

"The scapegoat effect"

This is a very common example in life, and some pots can even ruin a person's life. These conscious and unconscious dumping of pots is called the scapegoat effect in psychology. The scapegoat effect, also known as the "frustration-aggression" theory, which is the concept of crowd psychology, refers to the frustration caused by the aggression of a phenomenon to shift the target of attack.

Generally speaking, the aggression caused by frustration will be directed at the perpetrators of the frustration, but if people are unable to fight back against these perpetrators, they will transfer the aggression to someone or something, usually the weaker person. The cat is the only one who can take it out on the cat next to him, kicking it and saying, "What are you screaming about?

This effect is staged every moment in life, and does not entirely mean that others intentionally dumped on your behavior, more often than not, this behavior is unconscious, like some single parent family of origin to the children's adverse effects, due to the mother and father often quarrel, unconsciously put the gas in the child, and even the identity of the passer-by, they can not afford to take on their own body of the emotion and pain. Transferred to their own children.

Because the father is usually lazy and quarrels, it may evolve to the child's rebuke, "you grow up can not be like him, you better have a little bit of success, to afford me to work hard to raise you", this time the child has become a "scapegoat! "So, how do we avoid becoming a "scapegoat" in life, being dumped by others?

1, do not self-doubt, carefully review, clarify their own thinking, so that their thinking is clear.

2, do not try to convince yourself that "it's no big deal" you first need to face up to the experience, in the end, who is wrong, tolerance will not make your life better.

3, learn to reasonable to ease their own emotions, and learn to talk to yourself, in all of them, you are the most important.

4, away from those who constantly dumped on you, and those you like things or let stay together, do not force to integrate the world of others.

5, some people tell you to be kind, to be independent, to be beautiful, these are correct, but have these at the same time with the sharp edge, in their own encounter with unjust treatment, to be brave to resist.