Eight mentalities of "achievement, learning, dedication, tolerance, normality, optimism, self-discipline and gratitude"

There are many factors for success in the 21st century, and the reasons for success or failure are also very complicated. Now I realize that "mentality" is very important no matter what circumstances you do, and it can be said that mentality is the cornerstone of everything. " Chen Anzhi, an inspirational master in Taiwan Province, said that the easiest and shortest way to succeed is to learn from the winner. If you don't get it and others get it, it means that he is better than you, so you should learn from him. Always complaining, disobeying and acting against him, in fact, you are shooting yourself in the foot and ultimately destroying yourself. It is better to adjust your mentality and learn from him. Mentality is regulated by our own subjective efforts. Different mentalities lead to different outcomes. Mentality determines fate and mentality determines success or failure. In this world, the proportion of successful people accounts for 3%, and the average person accounts for 97%. Why do some people succeed and become these 3% people, while others become 97% ordinary people all their lives? The difference is that the winner has a strong and firm belief and mentality, and has paid a lot of actions for it! Yes, people live in the world. If you want to live a wonderful life, you must constantly adjust your mentality. Only in this way can your life be enriched and enriched, and every day will be wonderful! There is a saying that "you can't change the environment, but you can change your mentality". It is better to work hard than to complain about your fate all day. Creating a good life requires a good attitude, maintaining a harmonious interpersonal relationship requires a good attitude, and future development requires a good attitude. A bright future is waiting for us. Let's start from now, start from every moment of change, and help each other through thick and thin, and never stop! Make good use of the eight mentalities until you succeed.

first, the mentality of achievement-the psychological pillar of successful personnel. If a person wants to achieve something, he must first establish an attitude of achievement, that is, if he wants to succeed, he must first make up his mind, dare to dream and dare to challenge, and then he can achieve it. In fact, each of us is a winner. Why do we say that we are a winner? If you don't believe that you will succeed, you won't work hard and you can't succeed. A person's coming into the world is a kind of success, so we must believe that we will succeed. Why are some people not successful? Have something to do with the outside world. An eagle story profoundly illustrates this truth: an eagle egg rolled out of the Ying Chao and fell into the haystack. A farmer found him, thought it was an egg, took him home and put him in the henhouse. There is a hen sitting in the henhouse. Like other eggs, she is hatched. The eagle lives with other chickens. The eagle doesn't know that he is an eagle, so he is as content as the chicken every day. The farmer wanted the eagle to fly to the sky, so he took it to the cliff. The eagle just fluttered its wings and didn't fly. The farmer thought: You are an eagle, you should spread your wings and fly high. If not, you might as well die like this. He threw the eagle under the cliff, and the eagle waved its wings hard. Finally, he flew high in the sky. Are you the little eagle that unfortunately ended up in a chicken coop? "If you are the offspring of an eagle, you should pursue your blue sky. If I were an eagle, I couldn't live in a flock of chickens. I should fly for nine days and soar in space. This is my life. If I want to master my own life, I must give full play to the potential of my life and live out the meaning of my life. Therefore, from today on, we must define ourselves as an eagle, so that we can fly high. If we want to succeed, we should stay away from those who have negative influences, associate with and cooperate with successful people, and create our own sky through our own efforts.

In our career, after you choose, you are a member of a group of bosses. You must work with the boss's mentality and do everything. At this time, you will feel very happy at work, because you are working for yourself and studying for yourself, and any system becomes not a constraint, but a guarantee of guiding ideology and motivation. You should treat every friend from top to bottom as a close cooperative partner and accompany you to achieve everything and gain everything, so we should have a positive enterprising spirit, a sense of accomplishment and a spirit of continuous improvement, and constantly correct ourselves and shortcomings, and never have a morbid mentality. I always think that work is all about making money for others, working hard for referees and bosses. Obviously, it is the boss who insists on treating himself as a part-time job. This is a positioning error and a mentality that hinders success. If a person doesn't have a strong desire to succeed, he won't take any action to achieve his goal. After a person has a dream, he divides it into several goals, turns the goals into plans, divides the plans into monthly work contents, and then does it with an attitude of achievement, not doing his best, but doing his best. I believe everyone can achieve success in the fastest time.

second, learning mentality-it is an eternal theme. Learning is the only way to reserve knowledge, and knowledge can put wings on dreams. Learning is to replenish energy for yourself. You have to input before you can output. Success is a learning process. The 21th century is a century of "learning, changing and starting a business". In the 21th century, if you want to conquer others, you must use knowledge. The hardest thing in life is to change ideas. If you want to change ideas, you have to rely on knowledge. Nowadays, knowledge is updated quickly, and if you don't study, you will be eliminated. In any industry, only professionals can make money. And to be an expert, you have to study. There are three cups, one with its mouth down, the other with its mouth up, but there is a hole in the bottom, and the other with something dirty in it. Three cups can't hold clean water. The cup mouth is down-water can't pour in, the bottom of the cup is broken-it leaks while pouring, and there is something dirty-the water is dirty and can't be drunk. When you resist and refuse to accept-you have nothing, nothing to learn and nothing to get. When you listen and forget-you may know, but you don't fully understand and use it. When you have a prejudice against something-you can't get its original essence. Three cups represent three learning attitudes. The attitude towards learning can be roughly divided into the following situations: some people think that learning is a matter for young people and students, and they don't want to learn when they are old and have a poor foundation; Those who come out of institutions of higher learning think that they have learned a lot and have enough knowledge, so they don't need to study any more; Some people think that their career has been achieved and they are satisfied with the status quo. Some people are afraid of some new technologies and new sciences, afraid of learning, and even find many excuses for not learning. In fact, these are all one-sided and rigid cognition, which is an obstacle on our life's learning path. When we face a new thing, we must first put our minds straight and put on a learning attitude. Regardless of whether the past is successful or not, we should forget the past and learn from the beginning. Learning, whether for students who have just left school or adults who are struggling in society, especially for adults who are still developing in today's society, learning can't stop. Only by maintaining a positive learning attitude can we be invincible. The ancients said, "It's never too late to learn" and "If you hear the Tao, you will die in the evening!" Why should we use those feeble excuses to prevaricate others and deceive ourselves? The road of life is long, the society is developing and changing constantly, and the knowledge learned by students alone is far from enough to meet the needs of social development. Today, with the rapid development of knowledge renewal and construction, if we don't strengthen our study and improve our self-cultivation, we will not be able to keep up with the rapid development of society, let alone do our work well. In short, only by solving the cognitive problems in thought and keeping an enterprising learning attitude can we further persist in learning and finally achieve good results and excellent results, and can we be respected by everyone and truly achieve final success.

Third, the mentality of giving is the only way to conquer the living environment. Giving is a causal relationship. Giving up is paying, and it is the mentality of doing things for yourself. You should do it as a profession and be brave in taking responsibility. Taking responsibility is the beginning of growth, growth is the beginning of maturity, and maturity is the beginning of success. Understand the relationship between willing and willing. Giving up itself is getting. Giving is also giving up in "giving up", giving up first and then asking for it. If you want to succeed in your career, you must pay first. There are two kinds of pay: one is to give up with a purpose, to achieve your career and to seek profit; The other is giving up without a purpose, seeking fame, respect and support, and getting the same help from others. In our career, it is an industry where everyone is for me and I am for everyone. Only when each of us sincerely pays and tries our best to help others will we get the same reward. But you can't pay blindly. ① Use the right method. Don't let new people come in, do everything to show concern, don't let others intervene, and don't give others the opportunity to exercise. If this goes on, newcomers will be dependent and unable to copy their abilities well, which is unfavorable for long-term development. (2) pay more action. Through the theoretical knowledge you think, put it into action, take the lead, set an example in everything, and everyone will learn from it, so that your contribution can be respected. (3) should focus on emotional pay. Instead of paying for benefits, our development with friends is not limited to business help, but to all kinds of help in work, life and feelings. Don't don't do it if you have no interests, but do your best if you have interests. This will easily make others think that you are not really good to him. If you don't pay with your feelings, you will certainly not get the sincere gratitude of your subordinates. The ancients said, "Give a rose and leave a lingering fragrance in your hand." People are happiest when they help others, not when they are helped, because when you help others, you can see others grow up and be happy, which can also make you happier. Therefore, giving is the source of support, respect and gratitude from others. Giving is also the basic condition for getting others to help you. Maybe all your giving may not be recognized and rewarded, but if you don't give, you will never get a reward. Therefore, it is worthwhile to pay, it is fun, and it is also one of the driving forces for your success. < P > 4. Self-discipline mentality-a packager with charisma. You can cheat some people at all times, and you can cheat all people at some time, but you can't cheat all people at all times. Successful people must be highly disciplined and self-disciplined, and they must demand themselves with high standards. In our Chinese culture, there is a word called "awe", which is also a kind of self-discipline through heteronomy. We should be good at learning and developing this habit of constant awe, which is a good character for successful people, whether it is for improving personal cultivation, being a man or doing things, or understanding of Buddhism's "karma", so that we can do a good job in team building no matter where we are. In short, only if everyone is self-disciplined with a self-disciplined attitude, will our thoughts, actions and results be unified, and our team will be stable and healthy. Self-discipline can be divided into the following categories: ① Goal self-discipline, which means setting goals that you can see and do from the perspective of pursuit. 2 Attitude self-discipline: that is, to do the best in ordinary work, and to become the owner of the enterprise by taking yourself as the owner. ③ Responsibility and self-discipline: Be a "responsible person" who dares to take responsibility, and only with a sense of responsibility can we make progress despite difficulties. ④ Self-discipline: Complete tasks assigned by superiors with high quality and respect superiors. Being good at executors is always good at accepting criticism, correcting mistakes, simplifying complex things and stressing efficiency in work.

⑤ study self-discipline: make yourself an indispensable member in the process of improvement, because the process of learning is the process of constant competition for capital from all walks of life, and complacency is the biggest natural enemy of learning. ⑥ Self-discipline in details: In other words, we should learn to manage ourselves in small matters and seek innovation in details, because habits reflect the quality, get rid of our bad habits and create a healthy work image. ⑦ Relationship self-discipline: We should establish a benign and interactive working relationship, pursue a harmonious colleague relationship, actively resolve the contradictions among colleagues, do not blindly express ourselves, and make up for the lack of leadership with our own performance. 8 Self-discipline of mentality: Keep a positive working mentality, go to work with a grateful heart, bravely face hostile eyes and adjust the anger that will lead to the imbalance of working mentality in time. As long as you have the above eight self-discipline mentality, all systems will become basic work standards, and work standards will become habits, so there is no constraint on people, so self-discipline is the soul of the team and the soul of success.

5. Tolerance mentality-the lubricant for combing interpersonal obstacles "A big belly can accommodate things that the world can accommodate, and people who laugh at the ridiculous people in the world often open their mouths". The power of tolerance is enormous, and tolerance can make you fewer and fewer enemies and more and more friends. In real life, whether we get along with our family, friends or strangers, we have to associate with people if we live in the world. Especially if you are in a team and want to get ahead quickly, you should not only improve your professional ability, but also improve your ability to deal with people. You don't have to think that praising others and respecting others means belittling yourself. Once you understand and tolerate others, you will be wronged. This mentality is the mentality of breaking the road. What road to break is to break the road of interpersonal communication for ourselves. Everyone wants to be praised and respected by others, and he is a little wrong and wants others to tolerate our mistakes. But if you don't praise and respect others and tolerate others, how can you be respected and tolerated by others? Therefore, regardless of our customers and friends, we should try our best to be patient when we are angry and praise others loudly when we recognize them, so that you will have more and more friends. There's an old saying in China that "a little tolerance leads to great mischief". When you achieve something, you will face many challenges and temper of patience. When our endurance can stand the test, we will learn the way of empathy. That is to say, when you encounter something, first think about it from the perspective of others, and you will understand and be considerate of others. As the saying goes, "There is no love for no reason in the world, and there is no hatred for no reason." If you understand the difficulties of others, you will master their psychology, so it will be much easier to solve the problem. When you tolerate others, you are also tolerated by others, and the rest is happy and easy things, which will achieve all the same goals and achieve greater success.

Sixth, the normal mentality-the balancer of success and failure. Mr. Wang Fuzhi, who was called a simple materialist by Chairman Mao, said these words very well. He believed that a man should be "six natural" and "four looking". The so-called "six natural": one is "self-detachment". When you are alone, you should be very detached, regardless of fame and profit, especially in today's market economy and commodity economy. The second is "dealing with people." Be kind to people when you get along with them. The third is "nothing is clear." It means quiet and far-reaching, and it is very quiet when there is nothing to do, which is related to "self-detachment". The fourth is "doing things decisively." Unlike us, who are sometimes caught in a dilemma, procrastinating, hesitating, making decisions without stopping, this is not right. If we make up our minds, we must make up our minds. The fifth is "proud and indifferent." Very weak, taken a fancy to by the leader, taken a fancy to by the superior, entrusted with an important task, sealed the senior officials, weak