First, more serious and regular table manners
The first guest of honor is seated on the host's right side, and the second guest of honor is on the host's left side or the first guest's right side. The wine is served on the guest's right side, first the guest of honor, then the host, first the female guest and then the male guest. Pour eight points of wine, not too full. The order of serving is still traditional, cold first and then hot. Hot dishes should be on the left side of the seat opposite the guest of honor; Serve single dishes or side dishes, snacks before guests, whole chicken, whole duck, whole fish and other plastic dishes, not head and tail facing the main position. These procedures can not only make the whole banquet process harmonious and orderly, but also reflect and communicate the identity and feelings of the host and guest. Therefore, the etiquette above the dining table can make the banquet activities complete and comprehensive, so that the cultivation of both the host and the guest can be fully displayed.
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Chinese etiquette 1
-------------------------. Chinese banquet refers to a banquet with the traditional national style of China, which abides by the eating habits and etiquette norms of China people. Banquet activities can be divided into three types in terms of their purpose and nature: one is ceremonial, such as welcoming important guests or political dignitaries for official visits; Banquets held to celebrate major festivals or hold an important ceremony are all etiquette needs, and such banquets should have certain protocol specifications and procedures. The other is friendship, mainly for communicating feelings, expressing friendship and developing friendship, such as welcoming guests, seeing them off, saying goodbye and getting together. Another kind is the nature of work, where the host or participants hold a banquet to solve a certain job so as to discuss the work at the dinner table. These three situations often complement each other and have both. The purpose, form and nature of the banquet are different, but the basic etiquette followed by the host and guest is the same.
(1) basic etiquette of banquet
(1) seating arrangement. For formal banquets, seats are usually arranged in advance, so that the participants can sit in order and be polite to the guests. For informal banquets, seats don't have to be arranged in advance, but there are usually points for sitting up and down. The following points should be considered when arranging seats: First, take the position of the host as the center. If there is a hostess, the host and hostess are the center, and those close to the host are the top, which are arranged in turn; The second is to arrange the guest of honor and his wife in the most important position. It is usually right-oriented, that is, the owner's right hand is the most important position. The farthest position facing the door is the upper seat, the nearest position facing the door is the lower seat, the second position is on the right of the upper seat, the third position is on the left, and so on; Third, under the premise of following the protocol order, make the neighbors as easy to talk as possible; Fourth, the host's accompanying guests should be inserted between the guests as much as possible, so as to talk with the guests and avoid their own people sitting together.
(2) Etiquette of the host and guest
Etiquette of the host
It should be said that the success of the banquet depends on the host's hospitality, generous hospitality and meticulous organization. Officially speaking, the host's duty is to make every guest feel the host's welcome to him. The host holds a banquet, whether it is Chinese food or western food, no matter what the reason and purpose, the host should send an oral or written invitation to the guests in advance, and arrange the time and place of the reception according to the habits and characteristics of the guests. Etiquette banquet etiquette is more grand and exquisite. Before the banquet begins, the host should stand in front of the door and smile at the guests, with the younger generation in front and the older generation behind. For each guest, you should greet them in turn. After most of the guests arrive, come back to the banquet venue and greet and socialize with the guests separately (the family informal dinner is more casual, and the host may not greet the guests at the door, but shake hands before the guests arrive). The host must be sincere and treat the guests equally, and not just pay attention to socializing one or two and ignore other guests. Before taking a seat, all cigarettes and tea should not be delivered by others or waiters, and the owner should hand over the cigarettes and pour the tea in person as much as possible. After serving, the host should first propose a toast to the guests and say some kind words of thanks for coming. After that, when every dish comes up, you should raise a glass to invite you to drink, and then ask the guests to "lift chopsticks". To take care of the convenience of guests, change dishes or turn the dining table in time. Guests with special tastes should change their dishes in time. After the banquet is over, the host will go to the door to see the guests off. For those guests who didn't take care of much at the banquet, we should say a few words of apology and thanks. For the guests who walk behind, you can say a few commonplaces.
Guest Etiquette
As a guest invited to a banquet, it is a respect for the host to be punctual, behave properly and pay attention to etiquette. We should also pay attention to the following issues: (1) Clothing. Before going to the banquet, guests should consider their own dress according to the purpose, specifications, objects, customs or the requirements of the host, and the dress should not affect the mood of the guest and the host and the atmosphere of the banquet. (2) order food. If the host has arranged the dishes, the guests should not order any more. If you attend a banquet where the dishes have not been arranged, you should pay attention to the etiquette of ordering. When ordering, don't choose dishes that are too expensive, and at the same time, it's not appropriate to order dishes that are too cheap. If they are too cheap, the host will be unhappy and think that you look down on him. If the cheapest dish is exactly what you really like, you should do something and try to put it mildly. (3) eating. When eating, be polite and polite. "Don't eat horses, drink cows, swallow tigers, swallow whales, chew food, make no noise, leave no marks on your lips, bones and filth, and don't throw them around." When facing a table of delicious food, don't move chopsticks in a hurry. You can't move chopsticks until the host moves chopsticks and says "please". The host raises a glass to signal the start, and the guests can eat. If the amount of alcohol can be tolerated, the first glass of wine to the host should be drunk. Guests at the same table can persuade each other to drink, but they should not force each other to drink in any way, otherwise it is impolite. When you are unwilling or unable to drink, you can refuse. When picking vegetables, one is to use public chopsticks; Second, the right amount of vegetables, do not get too much, can not eat the rest is not good. The third is to take food in front of yourself, and don't stretch your arms to reach the distant food; Fourth, you can't flip the dishes on the plate with chopsticks at will; Fifth, when you encounter a dish you don't like, you can rarely put it on the plate and don't eat it. When this dish comes to you again, you can excuse that the dish on the plate hasn't been finished, so you can stop putting it on. Finally, you should eat all the dishes on the plate. Try not to cough, sneeze, yawn or blow your nose when eating. If you can't restrain yourself, cover your nose and mouth with a handkerchief and napkin, turn around, face sideways, and lower your head as low as possible. (5) It is best not to leave halfway to the party. As a last resort, you should say sorry to the person at the same table, and at the same time solemnly apologize to the host and explain the reason. After eating, you should wait for everyone to put down their chopsticks, and the host will signal that you can leave the seat. After the banquet, you can go to the host in turn, shake hands and say "thank you", and say goodbye to the host, but don't hold the host's hand and keep talking, so as not to hinder the host from seeing other guests off.
(3) Other etiquette
① Usage of chopsticks. Although chopsticks are simple and convenient to use, they also have many rules. For example, you can't talk to others with chopsticks up. When you talk, you should put chopsticks on the chopsticks rack, or put them side by side next to the rice bowl. Don't use chopsticks to push rice bowls and dishes, and don't use chopsticks to fork steamed bread or other food. Other taboos for using chopsticks are: avoid licking chopsticks-don't lick the attachments on chopsticks with your tongue; Don't be obsessed with chopsticks-holding chopsticks but not knowing what to clip, wandering back and forth between dishes. You can't use chopsticks to dial the dishes on the plate. Tears-free chopsticks-dripping with vegetable juice when picking vegetables. You should take the saucer, put the dishes in the saucer first and then bring them over. Don't move chopsticks-just put the dishes in this plate and then put the dishes in that plate. You should put another plate after eating. Don't knock chopsticks-knocking chopsticks is disrespectful to the host. In addition, chopsticks should usually be placed next to the bowl, not on the bowl. If you need to leave temporarily during the meal, you should put chopsticks gently next to the bowl on the table and never insert them in the rice bowl. At present, some banquets carry out public chopsticks and mother spoons, so you should remember that you can't use chopsticks spoons for personal use to pick up food and scoop soup for others. (2) the usage of napkins. Nowadays, many restaurants have prepared napkins for customers. Usually, you can't take them out and spread them on your legs until the honorable person sitting at the top of the table picks them up. Don't shake them out in the air like a bullfight. When the napkin is large, it can be folded and used. Don't pin the napkin on the collar or vest. The main function of napkin is to prevent food from falling on clothes, so you can only use a corner of napkin to print your lips. You can't wipe your face and blow your nose with the whole napkin, and don't use napkin to clean the tableware. If you are leaving your seat temporarily, please fold your napkin on the back of the chair or the armrest of the chair. After eating, fold the napkin and put it on the table, but don't knead it into a ball and "abandon" it there, like a flower that you have destroyed. ③ Generally, tea drinks and drinks will be prepared for each diner on the dining table. Usually, tea drinks and drinks are on the right side, so try not to use them wrong when drinking. (4) As the host (especially the accompanying person), you may pour wine and serve food for the guests during the banquet. You should serve food from the guest's left side and pour wine from the guest's right side.
Third, buffet etiquette
Buffet is characterized by no fixed seats, you can choose any seats, or you can stand, which is lively and convenient for communication. Dishes, food and tableware are placed on the table, allowing guests to help themselves, and what they like and the size of the quantity are completely independent. Pay attention to etiquette on this occasion. It is not advisable to take too much food at a time, and you can add more if it is not enough, so as not to make others laugh that you have not eaten or seen the world. If you eat a pile left, it will be even more rude. In addition, you should put bones, fishbones, etc. to one side of the plate. You can't take the food out of the restaurant after eating the buffet.
fourth, other dishes should be civilized, and you should wait until the dishes are in front of you, and don't grab the chopsticks in front of your neighbor. It is not advisable to pick too many dishes at a time, and don't pick your favorite dishes. Don't touch your neighbor when picking vegetables, and don't put the dishes on the table. If you accidentally drop the dish you are clamping on the table, don't replay it on the original dish, but put it on the dish containing the residue.
eat gracefully. Don't chat with people while eating. Don't wolf down your food and soup, and don't make unnecessary noises. If the vegetables and soup are too hot, wait until they are cold before eating. Don't blow them with your mouth. Don't spit the bones and fishbones in your mouth on the table. Cover your mouth with a napkin and take them out with chopsticks and put them on a plate. Use toothpicks instead of fingers when picking your teeth, and cover your mouth with your hands or napkins. Don't play with the chopsticks to make the tableware make any noise, especially don't point the chopsticks at others. Ladies should pay attention not to touch lipstick on cups, straws or bowls to avoid indecent.
If you need to leave the table for a while, you can put the napkin on the seat. If you put it on the table, it will be considered as leaving after dinner.
after eating, don't take away the items on the table casually, and don't take away all the entertainment items (including candy, fruit, cigarettes, etc.) except those specially indicated by the host as souvenirs.