"If you miss the ideal university, you will inevitably suffer great psychological pressure and pain, especially some candidates who have done their best. Stimulated by huge contrast, they often have stress disorder, depression, anger, regret, depression, despair, and lose confidence in the future. "
According to Kong Derong, deputy director of the Children's Psychology Committee of the Medical Association and president of Zhengzhou Eighth People's Hospital, the vast majority of students who failed the exam will suffer huge psychological trauma, and those with strong psychological endurance will gradually ease in a week or so, but some candidates will recover for a long time. "As a candidate himself, we must first find our lost place, take the initiative to get out of the psychological shadow through objective reflection, and turn our attention to the direction of progress. We must not fall into the bad mood of blaming ourselves or complaining about others. "
Kong Derong said that in addition, we should take the initiative to get out of our own small circle, try to do some aerobic exercise outdoors or go out with friends, engage in some activities that are beneficial to the body and mind, and divert our attention through tourism, sports and entertainment activities.
"As parents, children should not only restrain their disappointment, but also pay attention to their emotional and psychological changes so as not to make excessive behavior."
Hao Cheng, secretary-general of the Psychological Professional Committee of the Psychological Society and a second-level psychological counselor, said that for some children who are extroverted and usually good at communicating with others, parents should talk to each other, express their views and jointly determine the future development direction. "Children who are introverted generally keep things in their hearts. When they encounter blows and setbacks, they tend to be hot-headed and stubborn. Parents should prevent such children from excessive behavior. If they find themselves locked in the house, not talking for a long time or often in a daze, they must pay attention. It is best to take your child to the psychological counseling center for professional psychological counseling. " Hao Cheng said.
Judging from the telephone and online questions, the two experts agreed that only13 of the students really suffer from depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder. In addition, there are 1/3 students who are stressed after the college entrance examination, and 1/3 are depressed. Therefore, he warned the students who failed in the college entrance examination not to label themselves indiscriminately, so as not to form unfavorable psychological hints.
Experts say that even if you suffer from depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder, you can fully recover through effective treatment without being overly nervous.
He reminded that parents should intervene in advance and actively communicate with their children before the college entrance examination to nip the symptoms in the bud. At the same time, we should use scientific methods to guide the treatment, otherwise it will easily lead to mental illness.
For many candidates who failed in the college entrance examination, how to adjust the depressed state and get out of the trough? The two experts put forward professional suggestions respectively.
Hui Liang said that after failing the college entrance examination, the psychology is very fragile and extremely sensitive, so the first task at present is to learn to adjust the mentality. Only with a balanced mentality can we rationally choose the future.
For the adjustment method, Hui Liang gave four ways: First, vent your emotions, shed tears, relax yourself, never hold back, find a suitable time, place and object, and pour out your inner feelings; Second, evaluate yourself correctly, don't be controlled by bad emotions, and be good at controlling yourself to develop in a positive direction with will; Third, actively hint, get used to relaxing and smiling, bravely accept the status quo, and tell yourself "I am in a good mood today" when I get up every morning; Fourth, cultivate hobbies, enrich your life in hobbies, and often imagine yourself as a smart, confident and capable person, so that you can establish a new self-image in your brain.
Yuan Fang Lin also put forward his own adjustment method. First, if you pay, you must recognize the result, no matter whether it is good or bad; Second, you should sit down and re-plan your future life path; Third, find the initial passion and pass it on to yourself through others or other things; Fourth, stick to it, jump to a higher level and realize your own value.
College entrance examination is not the only way. Facing the failure of the college entrance examination, how to choose a suitable road is a problem that needs to be taken seriously. In this regard, Hui Liang gave his own suggestions. She said that if you feel that you have not played your due level in the college entrance examination, there is still a lot of room for improvement after re-reading. You can choose to repeat, but if the college entrance examination has played its usual level, there is no need to repeat.
Candidates should start from their own interests and specialties, investigate the possible development direction, and then choose the corresponding qualification training; If you don't want to go to school for the time being and meet better job opportunities, then candidates can also consider getting a job first, or concentrate on learning a professional skill in the short term and use their professional skills to find a job.