For families, the dining table is the place where people are most concentrated and meet frequently. Everything in the family is decided at the dinner table; What's new in the outside world is also said at the dinner table. The dining table is the family conference table and the best place for family "press conference". For a family with strict education, the dining table often becomes a platform for education, which occupies a decisive position in family education.
In my experience, dining education has the deepest influence on me, which is the first lesson of dining education and the enlightenment of life cultivation. Dining education is about a series of rules for eating, from taking a seat in the door, holding chopsticks in the bowl to serving rice, bit by bit, all of which are required to be quite satisfactory. Careful scrutiny of these rules is sometimes demanding, but many of them are full of the truth of being human.
serve. When there are guests, let them sit down first, and then sit down by themselves. When sitting, you can only sit half of the stool, and remind the guests when you get up, so as to avoid the guests from falling down when they sit sideways; Don't lie prone on the table with both hands, especially the right hand and elbow of chopsticks, so as not to poke the guests. Children can't go to the table casually, and they can't continue to eat until the guests have finished eating. When I was a child, I couldn't understand it at all. I always felt wronged and thought my parents were unreasonable. As an adult, I understand the truth: children have weak self-control, and when they see something delicious, they just stretch their chopsticks first, which will neglect the guests; If you climb all over the table with a runny nose and drooling like shrimp, it will make the guests frown and turn off their appetite. The guests will feel that the children have no tutor and the masters will naturally lose face.
serve rice. When a guest comes, the younger generation should take the initiative to offer the guest a meal. When the meal is served, the rice shovel should not touch the rice cooker, which is a signal that there is no food to eat. It is unlucky that the guest will not dare to eat when he hears it. The rice should be full, not too little. Without guests, you will think that you are stingy and reluctant. You can't pretend that the rice is sharp, otherwise the guests will not be able to put vegetables in the bowl; You can't make the bowl edges full of rice grains; In the process of eating, we should always pay attention to the guest's bowl, so as to serve the guests enthusiastically at any time.
end the bowl. You can't put your rice bowl on the table with your left hand lazy. That's "eating the master's rice", so you must end it with your hands. Adults can hold the bottom of the bowl with their palms, while children must grasp the edge of the bowl with their thumbs to avoid falling.
clip vegetables. When your chopsticks reach into the dish bowl, you can only hold the dish on your chest side in the bowl, and you can't reach to the side or the opposite bowl; You can't use chopsticks in the dish bowl to find your favorite dish, but you can only catch what is what. Because even though you eat vegetables in a bowl, it is impolite and unsanitary for you to do so. In addition, in rural families, as a host, we should also enthusiastically serve delicious dishes for our guests, which is the way to entertain guests. However, this rule has been hard to find in urban families, and the owner has taken into account the hygiene; In today's rural areas, this point is gradually fading, and only public chopsticks are used to greet guests under the hospitality.
eat. When guests are present, they should not only eat by themselves, but also warmly greet them. Chopsticks can't touch the edge of the bowl; You can't make a sound when chewing, and it's really unsightly; It is also unsightly to drink soup when it is loud; No matter how hungry you are, you should not gorge yourself, but chew slowly, which is good for your stomach and won't make your guests look ugly. After eating, you can't leave with a wipe of your mouth, but you can't leave until the guests put the bowl. Sometimes I have to eat with my guests.
These sparkling general rules are full of courtesy and hospitality, and also imply the attitude of self-denial and self-respect. I have been to a friend's house, and my friend's only son started yelling too early before the food was served. As soon as the food was served, he reached out and grabbed it in the bowl. When eating, chopsticks rummaged around in the dish bowl, blindly looking for something delicious ... I felt a little unhappy. Although he is a child and not sensible, he always feels lack of education. Every time at this time, I will think of my parents' earnest warnings about eating when I was a child, and I can't help feeling that Fiona Fang can't be made without rules, and some of the most basic things will never be out of date. Although they are meticulous and trivial, if they can be kept in mind, they will certainly benefit people for life.
In addition to these dining etiquette, table education includes food education, frugality education, courtesy education and so on. There are thousands of kinds of education in thousands of families, but no matter what form of education, there is a basic theme, that is, how to treat people, how to behave, how to cultivate one's morality, and so on.
Dining table education is the condensation and epitome of all the education in a family. Its educational enlightenment function and its subtle influence are hard to learn in class and books, and it is also hard to replace.