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Three families, three classes and three kinds of thinking. I have to say that the settings of these three classes in the play are very classic and true.
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Kiss dad, Lao Jin is angry in the park and scolds himself. Xiaoyu's father and Lao Zhang heard it. So the two began to talk about their helplessness.
Lao Zhang persuaded Lao Jin to start teaching experience. What's wrong with the catering? What if he didn't do it? Are you scared? ..... I can do such a big business, but I don't take face seriously. Face can be worth a few dollars, and money is to be collected ... People have a "comfort zone", which is called contentment at best and worthless at worst ... Listen to me and try boldly. I sold shoes before I sold my house ...
The dialogue here reflects the different modes of thinking of the two classes. It should be ideology. Flexible thinking, broad vision, long-term vision or limited to the immediate, easy to fall into the "comfort zone" or dare not change and adjust. ...
There is also a scene where Lao Zhang persuades Xiao Yu. Lao Zhang said that you are the eldest son. Do you know how important this position is ... let me analyze it for you. Even if I give you the company in the future, the ceo education is now open, and your education will be listed later. If others see your education, will others buy my stock? ..... Our company has many talents from Tsinghua Peking University. Can you sit still? .. go back and apologize to Tina. It's not a mistake, it's an apology. What's the matter with you bullying other women and crying? ...
It just reflects different classes, different ideologies, different things to consider and different things to think about. So I got the following little insights and discussed them together.
one
Lao Zhang, the big boss, is only beautiful in appearance, but his family is not so harmonious (it seems that the "ego" always has to catch something). He is characterized by grasping the big and letting go of the small, which is quite in line with his career role. At home, I am the one who is often caught in the middle, but I can only bear it. Being scolded by Xiaoyu's grandparents pointing at his nose is over. He knows these things can't be ignored.
Taking care of children is not so meticulous, and Xiaoyu's poor grades can only be accepted. This matter is not so tense, and the entanglement of children's learning will naturally disappear. And considering going abroad is also a way. Naturally, there is no problem economically, and there is nothing to worry about. Plus Xiaoyu has a good temper and is aggressive. Although he is sometimes too impulsive in practice, he can listen to reasonable words and won't hide his thoughts, so there is nothing to worry about in this respect.
His greatest wish is probably that his family can be calm, and his son and wife (a gentle wife much younger than himself) can live in peace. Family harmony is very important.
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Laojin's family, Qin Qin's father and Qin Qin's mother. Qinqin's mother is strong at home, and she is bent on going abroad for Qinqin, thinking of being proud and getting rid of class. I was so persistent about going abroad that I even thought of selling my house from the beginning. Because of a logical deduction, perhaps this simple deduction thinking is also the characteristic of this course. Sister Qin Ma chose to go abroad at first, and now she lives well abroad. She started a company to do business and became rich. Qin Ma felt that she missed the opportunity because she didn't choose to go abroad. If she had gone abroad, she would have developed, so she went abroad.
Joan's father is not so active. He is a sincere person, who would rather be content with the status quo than be so flexible. It is also a weak side in front of Qin Ma. Because there is no culture, there is no concept of driving a taxi. Just live a good life. Later, Qin's mother returned to China to open a restaurant, and Qin's mother pushed Qin's father to her sister's restaurant, wondering what she would do. However, Qin's father can still make concessions for his family and mother. After listening to Lao Zhang's experience, he can immediately adjust, put down his posture, go home full of energy and try his best to satisfy his mother.
However, they have no awareness of education at all, that is, they have never talked about what kind of education parents should give their children, how to do family education, how to educate themselves now and so on. There is nothing spiritual in their usual communication (this may be a feature of this class), even quarreling in front of the children, and the thoughts expressed by talking to the children are not very profound. Generally speaking, they still stay in how to live a better life, make big money, have status and so on.
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Doma, a company executive, is a strong woman. Dad, an ophthalmologist, a good traditional occupation. As a strong woman, Doma returned home as an executive mother. When the blossoming accident happened, it was in the state of "I went to the trial", and then it was pulled by my father, sometimes it could not be pulled. The general state is unstable, unstable, always want to move forward, and must be solved immediately. Subconscious numbers may be a feeling of trying to squeeze into a higher level, afraid of falling behind and trying to maintain this class. This may be related to Thomas' generation becoming the first generation of the middle class by their own efforts, so their spirit is a little weak and they have not yet fully reached the middle class. This is also the case with blossoming at home, where children are treated as project management and pushed hard, and all kinds of tricks that can improve performance are used. If you can't go to a key high school or a key university, your life will be over ... all kinds of worries about the future, sometimes things haven't been clarified, saying that the wind is rain, and the fast pace of wind and fire is to kill all bad signs in the first place. As her daughter, it is stressful to think about it.
Dad, on the other hand, tends to be gentle and mediate in the middle, and has a better relationship with a traditional good man like mom. In the battle of wits and wits with such a powerful role as Thomas, EQ was brought to the extreme. Secretly help the blossoming papers to change the answers, help the blossoming dogs to stay, secretly take the blossoming out to play, help the blossoming novels, enlighten the blossoming and so on. Every time there is a contradiction between blossoming mother and blossoming mother, we must find ways to ease the ambivalence of both sides and channel them separately.
As husband and wife, on the whole, many parents are still on the same front, with strict and gentle methods, but in the same direction. This is for sure, because the differences and contradictions between husband and wife are more harmful to children. Therefore, the decision made by Duo Ma basically agrees with Duo Dad, and of course, sometimes we have to go along with Duo Qi. Because Duoma's decision is based on whether it is conducive to learning, most of them have not discussed it with Duoduo and have not respected their children's feelings. But Duo Dad is often at a loss. Sometimes many mothers are too fast-paced, and then they make a big fuss about the whole thing, and the result is out of control, but they still have to find a way to clean up the mess.
As a middle class, the material level has reached a certain level, so parents and mothers will also discuss some issues about blossoming education, their own education methods, how to cooperate and how to adjust. This is good, but the results of frequent discussions have not changed substantially. It seems that this is mainly because of the spiritual core of Thomas, whose consciousness is slightly lower, and her profound significance to family education is completely unconscious. Finally, all the changes come back to how to promote learning.
Dad is more reflective than mom, probably because he is the second generation of middle class in terms of quantity (his family seems to be ok), so there are some spiritual presentations. In addition, I have a student who is a foreign (foreign Chinese) and has some discussions about Chinese and western education, but I can't beat my strong mother and I haven't really understood it yet. But at least my father thinks more about his education, which should pave the way for the following plot, and then there will be a more intense war at home. The education of the whole family should be changed.
This family describes the most, highlights it, and writes a little more.
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Therefore, the formation of stratum includes not only material level and income level, but also spiritual core and spiritual strength. This spirit is the decisive factor of vision and pattern (this word seems to be used a lot recently, and will not be overused), and it is also the key factor to maintain class, inherit class and even break through class (so there is something called aristocratic spirit, and there is something called being rich for three generations).
A very important competitiveness in the future is spirit. In fact, we can also see this from many celebrities and great men in the past. For example, Franklin in the United States, a great figure, can be found from his autobiography that he began to reflect on himself, sum up himself, deliberately train some morals and skills, and constantly practice, attaching great importance to inner morality and inner spirit.
But the spiritual level seems to belong to the superstructure, so most of us are not familiar with it. However, with the prosperity of China's economy and the development of the whole society, it is now appearing in people's sight more and more, being discussed and valued.
Let's go back to education. Parents don't seem to have any methods and skills to deal with their children. But they really need to understand how three-dimensional a person is, and children are independent individuals. There are many other things to learn about children besides learning. Is to focus on the whole life. Parents should know how to live a spiritual life and live a spiritual life with their children. Spiritual life is actually an opening of consciousness. It is also the direction that our course has always emphasized and led everyone to work hard.
We must open our consciousness, perceive ourselves, perceive life and observe the world, so as to truly understand education. Otherwise, just learning courses about methods and skills will often get out of shape, get stuck, or become a firefighter in practical practice, and sudden new incidents will always be in a state of fire fighting. Perhaps, a better state is a state of fire prevention, but there is no prevention at all, because there is no fire.
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The three children also have different personalities, which seems to reflect the characteristics of the parents of three families.
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Xiaoyu doesn't know if it's because there is no mother staring at him. Dad didn't pay much attention, and he wasn't so meticulous. On the contrary, it makes his character very straightforward, very aggressive, and has no small thoughts. I will listen to what is right, and I will resist what is unreasonable.
He quarreled with Tina because she didn't sign it. Later, Qinqin said that people are also right. Every time you get a low score, who dares to sign ... so he immediately went back and put down his posture and smiled and gave gifts to make peace. After that, Tina got the drum set dirty and they had another big fight. Dad came to persuade him to go home (that's the scene from above). It makes sense, so he accepted it and really put it down. It was all over, and then he became kind. How many people can do this kind of acceptance?
Personality is a bit bold and bold. But I am really loyal to my friends and attach great importance to them. It's just that sometimes it's too impulsive and can be exaggerated. I shed some tears, but I figured it out and I can recover immediately the next day. I wonder if this is the difference between boys and girls?
So Xiaoyu's personality is probably the most suitable for going abroad.
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Qinqin's personality description is not too much at present, and her personality is not as distinct as the other two children. Study hard, be sensible and smart. Perhaps because of parents, parents often quarrel in front of their children because of some things, and children have to reconcile their parents' relationship, which makes them look sensible and makes adults worry. I also hope that what they do can make adults worry, and they will be sad and worried because of their parents' quarrel. So overall, it is an example of a good boy. But on the whole, their own characteristics and characteristics will be erased a lot.
In this future era, personality and characteristics are actually very important. I don't know how Qinqin will enter the society, whether it will change or not, but also has its own true temperament (this gentleness, cleverness and hard work are quite similar to the customs clearance of Ode to Joy. It is said that customs clearance will break out in the second quarter.
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Blossoming seems to be between Xiaoyu and kissing, straightforward and cheerful, but not as ostentatious as Xiaoyu, and usually behaves like a good child. But she has her own ideas in her bones, and some of her peers like her very much. She feels that she has her own ideas, but Dora doesn't seem to see this, or she doesn't think it's worth appreciating. She probably thinks that too many ideas are not conducive to her study.
At home, blossoming is always suppressed by her mother, forcing her to study and eager to be understood. Although her father is still open-minded, she can't beat her mother's principles and policies. I have suppressed many things in my heart, and I have the power to choose for myself. I don't know when it will erupt, and I strongly resist. So in the later development, blossoming ran away from home, which I haven't finished yet.
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Everyone has his own characteristics, even if the personality is not distinct, it is also a characteristic. So there is really no comparability, and it is impossible to predict what will happen in the future. After all, he is still so young. Who knows what will happen in the future? However, as long as you keep that innocence, grow up gradually, become more independent and mature, and maintain integrity, it must be the direction towards happiness.