"Brother, not brother look down on you. After working in the system for decades and being out of touch with the outside world for too long, your living habits can't keep up with the pace of this era. "
"How good it is to live within the system, how stable it is, and how stressful it is. Why bother at 35? Can you take the risk of failure? "
My friend's words hit me hard. Originally full of enthusiasm, I was drenched in cold water. However, after thinking about it, I think everything he said is reasonable.
Choose to start from scratch and pursue a different lifestyle, or lie in the "comfort zone" and live a good life as always?
In fact, the answer has long been thought of, but I lack courage.
1
At a small dinner on Monday night, Lao Peng pulled me and said, come out quickly. What is your salary after working hard in it for one year? If you come out to work together, your annual income will definitely be 10 times your current salary, and you are free and nobody cares about you.
My heart beats faster every time I chat, and I can't wait to go out and do something big and realize financial freedom.
In fact, the fundamental reason for wanting to travel is not to realize personal dreams, nor to travel around the world, just because of lack of money.
How can I give my parents a warm and comfortable old age without money? Since I was a child, I have vowed more than once that I must repay my parents' kindness and let them not work hard all their lives.
How to give children a comprehensive and systematic education without money? We can't let him make the same mistake as us. He only knows to study hard and can't lose at the starting line.
Recently, I attended a financial management training class, and my friends were discussing an old-fashioned topic:
Is the rich happy or the poor happy?
This question is wonderful. The poor always think that the rich are cruel to the rich and they are under the pressure of wealth. In movies and TV series, it seems that rich people are always prone to family discord, kidnapping or bankruptcy. In short, in their idea, money will bring misfortune. However, have you ever thought that this is actually a kind of loser psychology, or Ah Q psychology? Because the poor have no money, and there is no other reason to comfort themselves with the fact that they have no money, they can only convince themselves (including others) that they are poor but happy. Although the rich have a lot of money, they have become slaves to it. They are not happy, and money will bring misfortune.
In my opinion, money is a tool, and its sense of happiness and unhappiness depends entirely on its owner. You must always understand that you are the master of money, not a slave. If money will bring you misfortune, it can only prove that your master has been enslaved by money.
There is no absolute relationship between money and misfortune or unhappiness. Comparatively speaking, poverty and unhappiness will probably be more closely linked.
After working in the system for so many years, although I am a little poor, I am definitely the poorest one compared with my friends around me.
Last time I went home, my mother told me: Don't come back for the New Year. Today is your uncle's birthday. Young people come back by bus, and you, the most famous person, take the bus. What a pity!
Some words made me cry. No matter what I said, I would come out. You don't know success or failure until you try.
2
Go out for what? Start a business? You got it?
To tell you the truth, I have been thinking about this topic for several years, and there has been no answer. After working and living in the system for more than ten years, I have become accustomed to ease. Everything is step by step, and I will do what the leader says. I have long lost my enthusiasm for work.
Free time is occupied by games and novels, for us who are over 30 years old. That's ridiculous. Faced with the growing gap with friends around me, I often complain about the constraints of the system. I deeply feel that the biggest reason for limiting myself is not the freedom of the environment, but the great difference in thinking and understanding.
Surprisingly, on the one hand, we keep complaining about why friends around us can easily achieve financial freedom, and it is still difficult to buy a car or house after years of hard work; Why does Xiaoliu buy a cat with one or two hundred words to go to the front page, but she works overtime all night and practices code words hard, but she is often refused to go to the front page; On the other hand, after the age of 30, we are still used to watching fantasy novel, playing the glory of the king and spending a lot of time on eating, drinking and having fun. We always think that everyone is an uncle, as long as we live in peace, we won't starve to death anyway.
There is a brother who is two years older than me, living a lifestyle that is incompatible with us. During the break, we played cards and games, and he stayed in his room to study law. We spend his pocket money on eating and drinking, but he buys books and courses. For us science students, law has too many knowledge points to memorize, which is too difficult to learn, but he enjoys it. Last year, he won the first place in the exams in Jiangsu province. As soon as he left the company, he was recruited by a big law firm in Shanghai, and he easily realized financial freedom, while we were still lying in the "comfort zone" and living a comfortable life.
All the problems can be traced back to the source, and the difficulties encountered now are all due to the original inaction.
Being in the psychological "comfort zone" for a long time will lead to job burnout and unwillingness to contact new things. Over time, I am used to staying in one place, and it is difficult to adapt to the changes in the outside world, which hinders my growth and development.
three
Now that you have decided to go out and jump out of the current "comfort zone", you must be prepared. At the age of 35, I can't afford any failure.
A serious illness requires strong medicine. If I want to change my present situation, I must start from now on and start from time management.
First, learn to manage your time.
1, write it down. Keeping a diary is particularly effective for a person with a particularly serious procrastination. I make a weekly work plan every week and use my spare time to further refine it every day. I check the completion of today's work before going to bed every night, and check the completion of a week's work every weekend. I can force myself to finish my daily work by keeping a diary.
2. reflect. The skills I learned in the book "Study hard" are particularly useful. I spend half an hour every day reflecting on what I did, what I shouldn't say and what I shouldn't do. Those methods are particularly effective. Just like showing a movie, go through the process of the day in your mind and record all the lessons and experiences, which will be the driving force for the next success.
Step 3 read. Big coffee people will mention the benefits of reading when introducing their personal growth experiences, and their success is inseparable from reading. Choose a book list that suits you, stick to one book a week, and write a book review of at least 800 words after reading each book, so as to form the habit of reading. Although it is difficult at first, persistence will have an effect.
Second, learn to manage your body.
1, go to bed early and get up early, and get rid of the habit of staying up late;
2. Insist on exercise, arrange a certain time to exercise every day, and choose your favorite projects, such as running, playing football and climbing mountains;
3, develop good eating habits, do not drink or smoke.
Third, learn to spend money correctly.
1, insist on bookkeeping and know the monthly income and expenditure;
2. Reasonable expenditure, increase the proportion of study expenses;
3, appropriate investment, develop the habit of correct financial management.
Only by stepping out of the "comfort zone", trying new things, expanding social circle, broadening horizons and increasing knowledge can we gain more happiness. Exploring the unknown world itself is risky, but it is a state of anxiety and joy. You will be anxious at first, but after exploring gradually, you will get a great sense of satisfaction and accomplishment. This driving force will prompt you to open up a "new route" and improve the ability and quality of the whole person.