Wudi wedding custom before the founding of the People's Republic of China (2111-11-13 19:36:23) Wudi humanities

"There is no cloud in the sky, it doesn't rain, and there is no media on the ground to get married". Before the founding of the People's Republic of China, men and women were "giving and receiving, not kissing", and men and women were married only by "parents' orders and matchmakers' words", and only by paying attention to "being suitable for each other" could they "tie the knot" and "get to know each other well". In Wudi, the normal marriage customs of the Han nationality generally go through the procedures of media, betrothal, wedding invitation, congratulations, wedding reception and residence date.

through media

in feudal society, when a man was fifteen or sixteen or even thirteen years old, his parents asked for relatives through the media. In some villages in Wudi County, there are also betrothals at the age of children, commonly known as "young marriage". If the woman hires a matchmaker to ask for a relative from the man, it is called "asking for a matchmaker". In the process of winning the lottery, men and women don't meet each other. They just rely on the matchmaker's clever words to make a marriage, and then ask the fortune teller to match their horoscopes. There is no prescription to get engaged. The age of intermarriage between men and women is much more expensive than that of women. As the saying goes, "A female freshman wears a golden dress", "A female junior holds a golden brick" and "A female freshman competes with her mother".

betrothal

after the media, it is betrothal. Both men and women agreed to write invitations, indicating the three generations, place of origin, times of travel, age and so on. The bride price is prepared by the man's family and sent to the woman's family together with the invitation card. The woman's reply card is the basis for the engagement, commonly known as "changing the number" and "giving the gift". After the exchange of Cambodia, relatives and friends sent gifts and money to congratulate, and the man prepared a banquet to thank the matchmaker and relatives and friends.

Send a wedding invitation

After the engagement, the man chooses an auspicious day to inform the woman. If the woman agrees, the man can choose another auspicious day to formally send a wedding invitation to the woman, with the date of the wedding invitation, the direction of getting on and off the sedan chair and the taboos written on it. According to her own economic conditions, the woman's family buys bedding, clothes, jewelry, furniture and so on to prepare for marriage.

Congratulations

After the wedding invitations are sent, both men and women make wedding preparations. The woman buys a dowry, and the woman to be married stays behind closed doors, which is called "hidden show". Two days before the wedding, the man prepared a bride price and sent it to the woman by a special person in a box, which was called "urging the gift". At the same time, the man's native people in the village gathered together to help, with the common name of "Shangcha" and recommended a person as "President" to hold a happy event. On the night before the wedding, the new husband visited the temple, worshiped the elders of the same family, and played music with a drummer, commonly known as "performance ceremony". The next day, the man carried the sedan chair to the woman to marry at the appointed time.

Wedding ceremony

Wedding ceremony is the highlight of the wedding ceremony, commonly known as "wedding ceremony", which can be divided into "big wedding" and "small wedding". Marry two sedan chairs, the official sedan chair and the sedan chair. The groom with big red flowers on his chest, robes and jackets and melon skin hats takes the official sedan chair first, and the sedan chair is behind, which is reserved for the bride. When going to the wedding reception, a young child took a sedan chair, commonly known as "pressing the sedan chair". When returning, the young child who pressed the sedan chair and the young child who pressed the glamorous RV returned in the same car; "Big Marry" is used by only a few young people, and "Small Marry" is mostly used by ordinary people, that is, the man prepares a sedan chair and carries his new wife.

The woman to be married should drink less and eat less two days before marriage. On the wedding day, she should get up early, dress up, fold her braids into a bun, put on the red sedan chair and wait for the wedding sedan chair to arrive. When the man welcomes his relatives to the woman's house, he can get out of the car after tea and dinner. The married woman, with her head covered with red, is carried into the sedan chair by her uncle or uncle, and then the married woman takes the fruit box, snacks, fire and the like with her, which is called "sending a small meal".

when the sedan arrives at the door of the man's house, alight in the specified direction, and firecrackers are ringing at the same time. The sedan chair is equipped with a saddle, hanging stones and a red carpet, and two new bricks with double happiness characters are wrapped in red paper and placed around the saddle. Two female guests who receive the daughter-in-law from the man's family uncover the curtain of the sedan chair, and another girl carries a plate and puts a rice cake on it, so that the new daughter-in-law can grasp the rice cake tip in the middle, which means "getting higher every year", and one day it will be better. The bride got off the sedan chair, stepped on the saddle, stepped on the stone, stepped on the red carpet, walked to the courtyard, and worshipped heaven and earth, the high hall and the husband and wife in front of the God of Heaven and Earth. After the ceremony, the bride entered the bridal chamber. In some places, when entering the bridal chamber, the male elders sprinkle red dates, chestnuts and peanuts in the yard or sew them in the quilt corner or put them into pillows, which means "early birth of your son, and men and women spend their lives".

The bridal chamber is full of flowers and candles, and the new husband removes the red scarf from his new wife's head with a balance beam. The new wife sits on the kang, and the female guests dress her, changing her bun into a pan head and calling it "Shangtouer". Later, the new husband and wife ate "comfort noodles", * * * drank "marriage wine" and routinely filled pillows, and the bride began to "sit on the bed", also known as "sit on the bed", mostly for one day. On this day, regardless of the size of the generation, the busybodies make a scene in the bridal chamber until late at night. After the newlyweds sleep, there is an old custom of "listening to the room" under the window of young men and women. At the same time, the man entertained the woman with wine and food, sent her to get married, etc., and hosted the new friends and friends who came to congratulate her in turn. In the evening, the husband and wife brought food to the husband's home by two men and guests, and had a meal with the bride, which was called "sending a big meal".

If you marry a "back-to-back" (remarried woman), you don't need a sedan chair. The man has to get up early and follow a number of people of the same family, which is called "robbing relatives". Because of the old marriage system, the married woman must stick to her whole life and can't remarry halfway. If you want to remarry, you need to be married by the remarried man in a way of "robbing relatives", which is called "robbing relatives".

the date of residence

on the third day after marriage, the bride pays homage to her grandparents' grave and pays homage to her aunts, sisters and clansmen, which is called "Worship on Wednesday". Every two days, the bride's father picks up the bride and returns to her family; Send the bride to her husband's house every other day; It is also a double day, and the newlyweds go to the bride's home together, which is called "returning to the door." At this point, the old-fashioned wedding ceremony ended.