The most acclaimed answer Allen answered like this:
Many people have suffered all their lives, and there are no adults here;
And many people who come here are just dignitaries before them and suffer after them;
The most frustrating thing is that many people here don't actually suffer too much.
Why is the gap so big?
In fact, people with low cognitive level often like to take "bitterness" as a measure of success;
People with high cognitive level refuse to suffer from "worthless".
When Huawei was first established, it was short of funds and had limited experience. Ren can only fight guerrilla warfare with his friends and do what he can make money.
Selling electronic products, selling tight goods, and even selling health care products and diet pills all ended in "failure".
Afterwards, Ren began to reflect and summarize the reasons for the failure of starting a business, and understood that if you don't want to accomplish nothing, you must find the right direction.
He once said publicly: Suffering has no value, but what is valuable is the thinking and summary you get in suffering.
One day, Ren attended a banquet of an old comrade-in-arms, and happened to meet the director of Liaoning rural telephone management office.
During the chat, he learned that the "telephone exchange" is not available in China, and it depends entirely on imports.
At this time, the market economy environment is improving, and the number of telephone users has also begun to surge. Ren immediately realized that this was a huge market.
With a goal, he started to do it. He found Liang Kunwu, the boss of Hong Kong Hongnian, and hoped that the other party would agree to adopt the credit trading model.
Liang Kunwu was infected by Ren's honest and frank personality and directly gave him a credit line of 654.38 billion yuan. He also confessed: "You can turn over the payment first and pay me back when you are not nervous."
Soon, Ren earned the first bucket of gold in his life, and the gap between people appeared.
From repeated failures in the early stage of starting a business, to selling telephone exchanges, and then to realizing wealth, thinking and wisdom were employed to find the right direction for starting a business.
Don't do useless work, let your efforts bear fruit.
Writer Wang Xiaobo once shared the memory of suffering. In order to remember that painful experience, he specially cooked a pot of rice with unpalatable food, which attracted everyone to queue up for the toilet.
He said: "The easiest thing to get in life is pain. Do people who add a lot of inexplicable bitterness to themselves really understand life better?
Is it really necessary to experience pain for the sake of experience? This idea is not only harmful, but also morbid. "
There are two kinds of sufferings in the world, one is valuable and the other is worthless.
Valuable pain is the pain of harvest, but after hard pursuit, you can achieve your own pain;
Worthless suffering is painful suffering, and it is the suffering that you can't achieve yourself after paying your physical strength.
A truly powerful person often refuses the "worthless" suffering and chooses the "valuable" suffering to achieve himself.
In most people's cognitive logic, successful people have suffered, so they must suffer if they want to succeed.
They firmly believe that as long as they are suffering, it means that they have been exercised. These sufferings will not be eaten for nothing, and one day they will repay themselves in another form.
As everyone knows, this wrong cognitive logic is to mistake others for themselves.
I have read such a story:
Little parents started from scratch and wholesale fruit. After countless bitter days, they finally ushered in a rich life now.
In their view, suffering is a compulsory course for success, so I warn Xiao, he must bear more suffering before he can make a difference.
During the summer vacation of college, Xiao was called home by his parents to sell tomatoes, while his classmates went to famous enterprises or big factories for internships.
Xiao resisted several times, but his parents insisted that instead of sitting in the office and blowing air conditioning every day, it was better to suffer more.
In order to sharpen his mind, his father specially asked him to drive to the urban area 100 km away from home to set up a stall.
During that time, Xiao was chased by the city management every day, suffering from white eyes and grievances.
But this kind of running broker, doing small business, is not helpful to his major, and the gap between him and his classmates is getting bigger and bigger.
After graduating from college, with rich internship experience, some students got their favorite offer, and some entered state-owned enterprises. Because I don't have any internship experience, I can only go to the insurance company to be the lowest-level salesman, and sometimes it is difficult to make a living.
Xiao obviously has a better choice than others, but he plays well.
Obviously starting higher than others, but getting lost in unnecessary detours, all this comes down to blind pain.
Wang Xing, founder of Meituan, once said:
"While we are still young, we should use more brains, learn more skills, accumulate more knowledge and pay less attention to our own hard work;
Eat less unnecessary hardships, let alone judge whether a person can bear hardships. "
Wang Xiaobo also wrote in the article "The Return of Human Nature": Man is an animal that will deceive himself. We suffered a lot of unnecessary suffering and wasted many years; But I also want to say that this experience is noble.
Although it sounds heartfelt, it is true that most people flaunt their suffering spirit with this wrong view of suffering.
A person's value can't be measured by whether he bears hardships or not, and can't be acquired by the spirit of bearing hardships.
Suffering is never a shortcut to success. The wrong view of suffering will only make you deviate from the correct track of life. You should think about what kind of suffering is worth eating.
Now many company leaders and the older generation, as experienced people, often say: Today's young people are too delicate to bear hardships.
If the working environment is not good, there will be complaints; Turn your face if you work overtime, and you can't stand 996 at all; If you work hard, you will have a burden, and it is easy to resign.
However, is this really the case?
Netizen Han once shared his experience on Zhihu.
He graduated from university in 985 and was born in a well-off family in the provincial capital city. As an only child, he has never suffered anything since he was a child.
But he chose to go to Sydney as a construction worker, and his work was very tiring, especially at night.
Go to work at 6 o'clock in the evening, get off work at 5: 30 the next morning, and rest for about an hour.
The job is to tear down the house and decorate the cabinets and ceilings. Every time I finish my work, my leg hurts and I fall asleep as soon as I get home.
The morning shift is also very hard, because the work arranged for him is not necessarily in the same area. It usually starts at 6 o'clock in the morning, and he has to get up at 4 o'clock in the morning to take the bus.
Seeing this, some people may wonder why he is willing to be a construction worker, even though it is very hard.
There is a simple reason. His sufferings can be rewarded and help him grow.
Although I have to work 50 hours a week, my salary is more than 7,000 and my pension is 700, which adds up to 30,000 a month.
In fact, it's not that young people can't bear hardships, but that their cognitive level has improved. They know that they should actively choose those hardships with equal value returns to achieve themselves, rather than suffering meaningless hardships.
Suffering itself is a kind of transaction, and you pay for it in exchange for a certain return.
Since it is a transaction, we must pay attention to equivalent exchange;
No one wants to do business at a loss. If the reward after suffering is not enough, there is absolutely no need to suffer this kind of suffering.
Real hard work should be rewarded accordingly, whether it is wealth or knowledge, skills, experience, etc.
Before we do anything, we must think clearly about why we have to endure hardship, whether it is worth it, whether it can help us grow up, and never be a person who suffers hardship for the sake of suffering.
If you are busy every day, but you get nothing, and even people with your ability are ahead of you, it is necessary for you to reflect:
Are you, are you suffering meaningless pain?
Sometimes, overemphasizing a person's fighting spirit does not make us a real "cow".
First, make clear the value return you want, which is the premise of "bitterness".
Cognition is like a seed. Once it is wrong, the seed can't grow.
We should cultivate a correct view of suffering, instead of treating worthless suffering as lofty.
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