1, standing in trouble and expecting happiness

Happiness is always around others, and troubles are always entangled in their own hearts. This is most people's understanding of happiness and trouble. Poor students think they can get high marks without worry, while poor people think they can get happiness with money. As a result, troubled people are still difficult to contain, and unhappy people are still difficult to be happy.

Worry is always the bad luck of those who seek happiness.

There are two kinds of people looking for happiness. One is like climbing a mountain. They think that the greatest happiness in life is at the top of the mountain, so they are panting and climbing mountains all their lives. Only to find that I will never reach the top and can't see the end. They don't know, in fact, the mountain of happiness has no top and no head.

Another kind of person is like climbing a mountain, but he doesn't mean to climb there. Stop and go along the way, watch the flowing smog, enjoy the rainbow, blow the breeze, relax and gain some self-sufficiency.

Although unpleasant, these trivial little comforts linger in my heart, as fragrant as body and mind, as quiet as myself.

Some people are very happy, but they look very upset; Some people look happy when they should be worried.

People who live a confused life are easy to be happy; People who live a sober life are easily troubled. This is because sober people look too real, too real, and there will be troubles everywhere in life; However, a confused person, he seldom cares, because his simple and rough life has found the great taste of life.

Therefore, the troubles in life are all caused by themselves. It's not that trouble can't be separated from you, but that you can't be separated from it.

Why is there trouble in this world? For power, money, fame and profit, everyone is in a hurry, carrying this heavy cloth bag on their backs, and the more they pack, the more they tie.

Almost all people are pursuing the happiness of life. However, as written in Bian's poem Broken Chapters, we often see that a person is always looking up and admiring the happy scenery of others, only to find that he is being looked up and envied by others when he looks back.

In fact, everyone is happy. However, your happiness is often felt by others.

2. The rhythm of time

I sat at the gate of the old house and looked at the raindrops dripping from the corner of the eaves, as if I saw the figure of time. The length of human life is measured by time. Everyone wants to live a long life, but time always refuses. It still walks at its own pace and never loses fairness.

When I was young, the pace of time slowed down a lot, especially in childhood, which always left more memories. The older you get, the faster life goes. You know you have to save money. However, it can't stop the rush of time. Time is a usurer. If you want to pay in advance, you will pay the most expensive price in the future. To put it simply, a person can't pay off after a night's sleep.

It's better to be unhurried. Standing under the bridge, watching the river running, one side is now, the other side is the past. Now there is only a bridge. The deceased is like a husband! It makes people sad. But then again, if you really have a lot of leisure, nothing to do and feel bored. For busy people, leisure is an oasis in the desert; for boring people, leisure is a tormenting burden.

People are curious about new things, so they are impressed. Turn a blind eye to repetitive things and are unwilling to mobilize more energy to pay attention. People always think that time is accelerating, but it's just an illusion. Childhood is slow, old age is fast, childhood is addition, and old age is subtraction, which is the same for everyone.

Race against time will only be laughed at by time. Squeezing time like a sponge is actually an overdraft. Credit consumption will cost money tomorrow. Can you use credit in today's life? Or cut the present into tiny pieces and fill the joys and sorrows of life? You can cut time at will, but you can't change its length and rhythm.

You can borrow money from others, but you can't borrow time. If you forcibly deprive others of their time, it is tantamount to killing people for money. Killing for money can't increase your time, so why bother?

The most complicated things in the world are clocks that walk in front of time. The sun is a clock. Sunrise and sunset are divided into day and night. Trees are clocks. When they wither and flourish, they turn from cold to hot. Man is a clock, which records the life in different periods of his life. People are on the road, and they have hardships. Will time make us understand things and see things clearly?

Scientific time cannot be slowed down, but psychological time can be adjusted. Let the days be as fresh as childhood! Let life grow like a tree!

3. The length and density of life

If you are 70 years old, your life is only over 25,000 days, but I still have to "calculate":

A friend asked me a question and asked me to answer it without thinking. He said, "Is there 50,000 days in a person's life?"

I said there must be. I think 50 thousand yuan can be earned back in one day and spent in one day. Can a person's life have 50 thousand days? But the friend said, "No."

So a careful calculation, sure enough: life is 70 years old, which is rare. According to the age of 70, life is only over 25,000 days, even less than 30,000 days! No wonder Tayu Lo sang in Song of Ordinary People: "Life is so short, why do you want to stay?"

Life is so short that each of us is just a meteor. Let's see, I was born in the late 1960s. If I can overcome seven diseases and eight disasters, I will be lucky to die. At most, I will write this paragraph on my epitaph after my death: 1969~2050. There were ancients before, and there were newcomers after, which I have never seen.

Life is hard-won and charming. Every life has experienced competition with hundreds of millions of opponents, and every opponent was once the favorite of parents. A busy life is like a galloping chariot. Disease, pain, jealousy, and curse are all bullets whizzing by on both sides. But we can't stop. We have to live tenaciously and finally stand on the top of victory and shake hands with dignity.

This is an epic in itself. But life has its length, which varies from person to person. I am sure that the length of life depends on its density. With this in mind, I understand the reason why I envy those artists: they are always more committed to paying attention to others and their own lives and destiny, and are more willing to show, show, beautify and create those lives full of personality charm and the same fate, and even a large part of them are deeply involved with their only lives, with no regrets. Like Hemingway, Balzac, Beethoven, Van Gogh ... their life density has increased, shining with Jin Gangzuan's tenacity, and the art endowed with their souls is closer to eternity.

And those who work hard all day. Who can say that those simple and honest people who may not understand aesthetics and art are meaningless shells?

You and I are mortal, but our lives can still be "encrypted". When we bring our wisdom and enthusiasm to the extreme, our bodies and souls are like fruits-laden crops; When we actively face all kinds of accidents in life and stick to our beliefs; Why should we worry about the fleeting time? Why can't we proudly say that I have loved, dreamed and lived?

Cherish life and die without regret.

4. Cruel reality

A father went to visit his good friend in a company. The following is the dialogue between them:

"Are you still the vice president of this company?"

"Yes, what's the matter?"

"My son just graduated, and I hope he can get some exercise, enrich his life experience and start making a little money."

"If you need me, I can help."

"Of course. I hope he can start from scratch and form a correct view of labor and money. "

"That's good ... I think we can make him the general manager. The general manager doesn't need to do anything specific. I asked him to come, and he came to talk nonsense. The salary is 80,000 pesos per month with bonus, and the company is also responsible for reimbursing some daily expenses. Is that okay? "

"Well ... no, that's a lot of money, and the position is too high. Is there anything else? "

"Then the project director. The job is to instruct the reports submitted by subordinates and do some other trivial things. The salary is 50,000 pesos per month, there are bonuses, as well as catering and travel subsidies. "

"Not good. You know, he just joined the work. Is there a lower position? "

"That ... department manager. Give employees some instructions and training words every day, with a monthly salary of 30,000 to 80,000 pesos, bonuses and travel expenses, as well as paid vacations. "

"hmm ... is there anything lower?"

"The person in charge of the project or the competent analyst or financial director can also. The salary is 30,000 to 20,000 pesos per month, and there are bonuses. What I do is also very simple: make a few phone calls from time to time and chat with visiting customers. "

"No, I want him to study more and cherish his work. Is there anything else? "

"Oh, well, I asked him to be the deputy director of the office, assist the director of the office to manage the following analysts and supervise their work. The monthly salary is 20,000 to 20,000 pesos and the working hours are nine to five. What do you think? "

"Come on. Is there a more grassroots job? "

"That's just engineers and accountants. These two positions need to master a lot of financial and planning knowledge, and deal with managers, project managers and customers all day. Overtime is a common practice. Without overtime pay, the result is often someone else's. The minimum wage is 8,500 pesos, and you work hard every day 12 to 13 hours. Only half an hour can be used for eating, and I have to take my work home every day. "

"Oh ... these jobs are really thankless, but they really let my son learn from them. Can my son do this job? "

"Impossible! The person who does this must have at least a master's degree, be fluent in English and French, and have enough relevant work experience! "

5. Wide and narrow are roads.

No matter at any time or any phenomenon, life is unique. This grape is different from what I ate yesterday, and this cup of sour plum soup is also different from what I drank on Zhonghua Road when I was 15 years old when I went to Taipei. There is no need to compare my past experience with the present.

Most people like to compare the past with the present, and even eating a plate of fried rice with eggs will find the one fried yesterday more delicious. Zen pays attention to "difference". People living in the past experience, the most can't understand is "similarity". If they don't realize it, a lot of pain will occur.

If you can understand that every minute is different and you don't need to take any second as the standard, you will live well. It makes no difference whether you are alone in the scorching sun in the African desert or in a comfortable air-conditioned room with your friends. Every minute is a part of your life, which adds up to your life.

One year I won the "Outstanding Youth Award" and the editor-in-chief of Hong Kong Oriental Daily asked me to write an article.

"What should I write?" I asked.

"Write a rugged road."

"What's that?"

"Your history of success. Write down how you achieved today's success. "

I can't write. Because there is no rough road in my life, it is good for me, no matter what the situation is. "

If I walk on a rough road, I will appreciate it with the heart of a rough road; If I walk on the avenue, I will taste it from the perspective of the avenue. I don't think the boulevard is superior to the rugged path. Once you really understand the meaning of life, there is no difference between good and bad.

No matter how much water is left, I just want to "I still have water" and don't care about the amount of water. I drew a cartoon: the source of the Yellow River is life, and the mouth of the Yellow River is death. Of course, the whole process of its life is sometimes long, sometimes rough, sometimes smooth sailing, and sometimes smooth sailing; Sometimes wide, sometimes narrow; I taste wide when it is wide, and narrow when it is narrow; Face adversity when it is unfavorable, and enjoy it when it is favorable. I don't want my life to be carefree and plain from beginning to end.

6. Which tree did you want to cut most when you were a child?

When we were in college, we once visited the home of an old professor. At that time, when we were young, we talked about lofty sentiments as if everything in the world was omnipotent. The old professor listened with a smile all the time and didn't participate in our various topics.

After everyone's enthusiasm passed, the old professor suggested a test, and we all joined in. The old professor asked, "If you go to the mountain to cut down trees, there happen to be two trees in front.". One is thick and the other is thin. Which one will you cut off? " When the question came out, everyone said, "Of course, cut down thick trees!" The old professor smiled and said, "The thick one is just an ordinary poplar, and the thin one is Korean pine. Which one will you cut now? " As soon as we thought that Korean pine was more precious, we said, "Of course, if we cut Korean pine, poplars will be worthless!" " "

The old professor looked at us with a constant smile and asked, "If the poplar is straight and the Korean pine is crooked, which one do you cut?" We felt a little confused and said, "In that case, we still have to cut poplar and Korean pine, and we can't do anything!" " As soon as the old professor's eyes lit up, we guessed that he would add conditions again. Sure enough, he said, "Although poplars are straight, they are mostly empty in the middle because they are too old. Which one will you cut at this time? "

Although we didn't understand what medicine the old professor was selling in the gourd, we still started from the conditions he gave and said, "It's still useless to cut Korean pine and hollow poplar!" The old professor then asked, "But Korean pine is not hollow, but it is too twisted and difficult to cut.". Which one would you cut? " We didn't think he wanted to draw any conclusions at all, so we said, "It's no use chopping poplars. Of course it's good! " Out of breath, the old professor asked again, "But there is a nest on the poplar tree, and there are some birds hidden in the nest. Which one would you cut? "

Finally, someone asked, "Professor, your question made us cut poplars and Korean pines for some time. The choice always changes with the increase of your conditions. What do you want to tell us and test? " The old professor put away his smile and said, "why didn't anyone ask himself why he cut down trees?" Although my conditions are constantly changing, the final result depends on your initial motivation. If you want to make firewood, you can cut poplars, and if you want to make handicrafts, you can cut Korean pine. Of course you won't go up the mountain with an axe to cut down trees for no reason! "

After listening to these words, we all seem to have some feelings in our hearts, but we can't catch anything at the moment. The old professor looked at us and said, "Just now, you seem to have talked about everything in the world. However, when you set foot on the society and many things are in front of you, you just focus on doing those things and often forget the original intention in various variables, so you often do something meaningless. Only when a person has a goal in mind and a purpose first can he not be confused by various conditions and phenomena and not deviate from the right track. This is my test, I want to tell you! "

7. Leave room for others

There are many persimmon orchards along the rural roads in northern Korea. Autumn is the season for picking persimmons. Local farmers often leave some ripe persimmons on the trees. They say this is magpie food.

Visitors passing by here will find it incredible. At this time, the tour guide will tell you a story: this is the habitat of magpies. Every winter, magpies nest on fruit trees for the winter. One winter was very cold and it snowed heavily. Hundreds of magpies that couldn't find food froze to death overnight. The next year, an unknown caterpillar suddenly flooded, and that autumn, the orchard did not harvest a persimmon. Only then did people think of those magpies. If there were magpies, there would be no insect disaster. Since then, when persimmons are harvested every autumn, people will leave some persimmons as winter food for magpies. ...

To leave room for others is often to leave energy and hope for yourself!

8. No effort is taken for granted.

The old man is an overseas Chinese in the Philippines and has traveled overseas for half his life. After several ups and downs, he returned home with the idea of helping the world and benefiting his neighbors.

So, the old man wrote to the principals of several schools in his hometown, hoping that each principal could provide a list of more than a dozen students, and he selected candidates from them as the targets of his own funding.

The family really blamed him for not being sensible. Since it's a donation, why make the procedure so complicated? Wouldn't it be better to take a shortcut, such as "Hope Project" or "Spring Bud Project", and give up a wish neatly?

The old man shook his head and said, "My hard-earned money is only for those children who deserve him." Which children are eligible for funding. No one knows the answer in the old man's heart, whether it is those children from poor families, excellent students or special students.

The list was quickly sent to the old man. The old man asked his family to buy a lot of books, packed them in different categories and prepared to give them to the children on the list. The family looked at each other. Isn't this meager gift too shabby? Everyone thought there was a gold house in the book, but they couldn't find the paper money in the book after tossing and turning. But on the first page of the book, I saw the handwriting of the old man and gave it to the students with excellent academic performance. The address, name, telephone number and e-mail address of the old man have all been signed.

The family was puzzled, but they didn't want to go against the old man's wishes, so they had to send him those books one by one.

Sunset comes and goes in a hurry, and old people often stare at their mobile phones and sigh inexplicably. From the withering of yellow leaves to the falling of snowflakes, no one can guess what the old man did.

I finally understand the old man's heart, which originated from a greeting card for the New Year. This is very common. It says: Thank you for the book you sent me. Although I don't know you, I will remember you. I wish you a happy New Year! Unexpectedly, the old man shouted excitedly: there is an echo, there is an echo, and finally I found a child who can be funded.

The family suddenly realized that the old man was unhappy these days. The book he sent has become a touchstone, and only those who are grateful are entitled to his support.

The old man said: the land will become a desert without water and nutrients, and people will become barren without gratitude and nutrients. An ungrateful person is doomed to be a cold and selfish person who doesn't care about others. Even if he is given sunshine, he will not give off his own warmth in the future, and he does not deserve the love of others.

Indeed, nothing is taken for granted and nothing is necessary. Therefore, not receiving it can make indifference feel at ease, and everyone should be grateful. A flower is brilliant and charming because of a drop of rain, a grass is swaying because of the spring breeze, and a fallen leaf makes the lake ripple. One heart should smile quietly with another caring heart.

9. Reasoning needs more tolerance.

A friend and boss went to a restaurant for dinner. The waitress has a bad attitude and there is no smile on her face. My friend was very angry and wanted to complain about her, but the boss stopped her. The boss said, "Maybe she is lovelorn, or maybe she has just been scolded by her boss. In short, we should forgive her. "

"No matter what the reason, should not affect the work. This is her fault. "

"Yes," the boss said meaningfully, "it is because she is all wrong and you are all right that you need your tolerance."

A friend said something to make the boss gush: "I didn't expect you to have the spirit of being a fool."

"So, I'm the boss," the boss said with a smile. "You are my employee."

When we feel unhappy and hopeless about life, can we go to the window to see people in a hurry and think about the pain of others? In a world of understanding and tolerance, it is easier to breathe and the air is fresher.

10, it takes struggle to be happy.

Imagine such a beautiful life:

When you were born, your parents took care of you wholeheartedly at home, and your mother received full salary during maternity leave. And your father also enjoyed nine months of maternity leave because his wife gave birth to a child.

Before you reach the age of 16, your parents can get the living expenses. You will never be "the children of poor families take charge early."

/kloc-after 0/6 years of age, you have completed 9 years of compulsory education and want to continue your studies? No problem, the state gives you a study allowance.

What's wrong with you? Don't panic, you can enjoy sick leave allowance. The amount depends on the length of sick leave, which is equivalent to 75% to 100% of your salary. Most of the medical expenses and medicines handled by doctors are borne by the state.

Out of work? Receive unemployment benefits. 65,438+0,30000 kroner per month, equivalent to about 65,438+0,30000 yuan per month, higher than the average white-collar worker in Beijing and Shanghai. If you take another part-time job without paying taxes, your life will be more prosperous.

Old? The country supports you.

This is the wonderful life of the Swedish people. Rich countries have formulated welfare protection for people from cradle to grave. Its citizens don't worry about food, clothing and illness. They are happy when they are unemployed and live a decent life when they are old. Living in a beautiful environment, I am only worried about global warming and other issues.

This kind of life created by heaven and earth is not a fairy race.

Wait a minute, look at this data: 2000 Swedes commit suicide every year, which is one of the highest suicide rates in the world. Not long ago, Swedish wrestling world champion Michel Ljungberg committed suicide at the age of 34.

In the negative news of Sweden, the words "young people's pranks" and "suicide" are common. Not long ago, a school shooting in Finland killed eight people. Two young Swedes were amused, so they sent a notice on the Internet, saying that they would make similar incidents in Sweden. After hearing the news, the police quickly arrested him.

One of the reasons for their suicide is that life is too good. They don't have to struggle, have no pressure, do nothing, live a carefree life and think: What does God want me to do? What does God want me to do? If you can't find the meaning of life, just think and think, and if you can't figure it out, you will commit suicide.

Think about our lives. We should make a five-year plan and a long-term goal. Working hard every day, the poor salary should be filial to parents, raising children and cars. If you accidentally become a house slave, you have to raise a house and be sure to keep good health. If you are sick, expensive medical expenses will make you more than you can chew. How dare you kill yourself? The kindness of parenting has yet to be reported. The responsibility of bringing up children rests on our shoulders. Life is not our own. We can't sleep, complain and dream about 5 million. I never think that struggle makes our life full of vitality, responsibility makes our life full of meaning, pressure makes us grow constantly, and achievement makes us full of pride. Don't complain about the hardships of life. It turns out that struggle is also a kind of happiness. Isn't it?