Yu Huanshui's Middle-aged Dilemma

There is a very popular drama called "I am Yu Huanshui". Many people say that it is too real, which is simply a portrayal of life.

During the May Day holiday, I finally caught up with the drama, but after watching the first episode, I couldn't watch it anymore, because Yu Huanshui was really miserable. When people reached middle age, their children were eight years old, and all the bad things came crashing.

At home, I was disliked and accused by my wife, pushed out and laughed at by leaders and colleagues in the company, and bullied by my neighbors in the community. I lent my mother the only 131,111 yuan I left for myself to my friends. Originally out of trust, I was coaxed and cheated by the other party when I asked for money back, and the more I ran, the more I deviated.

All the cowardice, embarrassment and helplessness of middle-aged men are all on Yu Huanshui. We can feel the middle-aged breath of depression, helplessness and even despair through the screen.

And all this actually stems from the accident that made Yu Huanshui miss the opportunity to start a business.

At the beginning of the TV series, Yu Huanshui was driving a motorcycle and was on his way to introduce the project to the big investors. On the phone, he told the other party: We must stall them anyway, and we will arrive soon. This is definitely a good project to make money.

However, when he was not careful, the speeding motorcycle was knocked down by a bus. Yu Huanshui missed the opportunity to introduce the project, missed the investors and missed the career that could have made a fortune.

ten years later, as an ordinary cable salesman, the whole person has long lost his former glory and looks like a coward.

Yu Huanshui's apprentice, who was brought out by himself, openly treated him with strange feelings. His wife sat in someone else's car complaining about him and betraying him.

However, all these reasons point to one fact: Yu Huanshui has no money and is poor.

once a person is poor, even his own dog may hate you, because you can't give him bones to eat, let alone people! The world is cold and human feelings are warm and cold, which can be seen.

Most of the cowardice of middle-aged people is due to lack of money.

How important is money?

when I was young, when I was full, the whole family was not hungry and had no money, so I could eat instant noodles for one month and wait until my salary was paid next month.

But when you reach middle age, you are surrounded by people who are counting on you to make a living. If you are still poor and have no money, you really have no dignity as a man.

This year, catching up with the epidemic, many small business owners have been unable to operate for a long time, but they have to pay high store rents, such as catering, tourism and foreign trade. As the epidemic spread around the world, many factories stopped working, and many migrant workers at the bottom directly cut off their income sources.

According to statistics, 75,111 people became US tour riders during the epidemic. Because of the epidemic, there were three times more taxi drivers in Beijing this year than last year.

These two occupations may have been disdainful to many people, but because of lack of money, many people who used to work in offices or even programmers have to bow to reality and "commit themselves" to make money.

In the TV series Everything's Fine, Su Mingzhe, the eldest son of Su's family, originally had a decent job and life in the United States. However, because of his mother's death, he took a leave of absence from the company to return to China, which coincided with the company's layoffs. He was not spared from having a good relationship with his boss and was dismissed by the company.

I thought a good job was not hard to find, but I was repeatedly rejected in the interview and never found a job.

Later, when eating in a restaurant, a food delivery waiter greeted him, and he discovered that it was his former colleague. An excellent programmer has now become a vegetable delivery man.

Su Mingzhe is very emotional.

He used to be a face-saving person. He would rather stay at home than do a job that he didn't feel worthy of his identity, even though his wife told him to put down his unnecessary face. Anyway, we can live by working and earning some money.

Finally, I went for a walk, as proud as Su Mingzhe, but I returned to America and took an ordinary job.

When people reach middle age, reality will force you to surrender. Even if you are kneeling to make money, you have to do it, because life is cruel and you can't live without money.

Written at the end

There was a popular passage on the Internet, which probably meant: Why do many men like to stay alone in the car when they get home from work?

Because of many roles, heavy responsibilities and great pressure, I need a space of my own to breathe.

when you reach middle age, you are not yourself. You are carrying everyone's small family, mortgage and car loan, parents' medical expenses, children's education expenses and wife's beauty expenses on your shoulders. Although it is as hard as an old cow, you may not be able to meet everyone's expectations.

Tagore, a famous Indian poet, once said in the book The Judge: When people reach middle age, they will give up the illusory world and unrealistic desires, and always confine them to their own power.

grounding gas and earning money to support the family may be the minimum requirement for middle-aged people.

However, Mr. Qian Zhongshu also said: When people reach middle age, as long as either of the two basic desires is strong, people are not old.

So, instead of complaining, it's better to work hard, earn money and live a good life.

You should know that the cowardice of middle-aged people starts from lack of money, while middle-aged men who have no ability to make money are doomed to be besieged on all sides.

Everyone wants a better life, and everyone tries their best to live.

the difference is, have you made your family live a better life, and have you gained the due respect and status through your own efforts?

*** encouragement.