While migrant workers are increasing their income, there are also some practical problems, such as many couples can only one person to go out to work, the other has to be at home to take care of the elderly and children, then there will be physiological needs and psychological needs are not met, so the phenomenon of migrant workers, "temporary couples" has been born.
We interviewed a few migrant workers on this issue to see what they actually think, and in order to protect their privacy, they all use pseudonyms.
A. Zheng, male, 41 years old, construction site welder, temporary couples partner for more than 2 years, in order to physiological needs.
A Zheng is in a construction site to do welding, construction site work especially more, has been in this dry more than 3 years. A Zheng said more work is good, do not need them to look for work everywhere, so the income is also stable, do not have to worry about the problem of money owed. When I started to come here, I saw such a big construction site, I was very happy, and I worked very hard, hoping to earn more money and repair my old house.
Just come here when, every day after work, sleep, but did not feel anything, but the days a long time to feel a problem, because the physiological needs of a normal man is still there, but there is no way, his wife away from their own more than 1,000 kilometers away from it, this time it is particularly envious of couples to work on the site of the people, sometimes want to get out of the unorthodox place to find a solution to the physiological needs, but also afraid of getting sick. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the work you do.
In the construction site to do a long time on the discovery of a cat, site couples have part of the actual temporary partner life, many people know these things, because they understand so on the unspoken. Seeing these A Zheng was moved, once went outside the restaurant to drink a small drink when met in the place of handyman A Li, feel very eye, often go, one after another they are familiar with, and then later on cohabitation.
Because Ally is also a person out to work, her husband at home, to put it bluntly, Ally and A Zheng's idea is the same, is to solve the physical needs. As for the feelings Well, A Zheng said no is also false, after all, together for more than two years. However, the New Year's time are each back to their own homes, do not contact each other, usually rented rooms rent AZHEN two-thirds, Ally one-third; AZHEN feel that she is a woman out of the quite not easy, coupled with the welder in the site wages can be considered, so many times the rent AZHEN all paid.
Sometimes A Zheng heart is also blocked panic, innocent life, these two years full of his wife to find a woman, he felt that his own quite not a personal, promiscuous male and female relationships, his wife knows the non-divorce can not be, that is too much harm to the child. But I just can't control my own lower body, is the impulse.
Second, Ling, female, restaurant workers, before the temporary partner 5 months to cure the disease of a good person, I can not say that at that time is the physiological needs or psychological needs.
A Ling is a 36-year-old woman, in fact, looks white and clean quite good-looking, according to her because her husband engaged in transportation at home in a car accident, the bad body can not do couples things, the family knows that they sleep in separate beds for 5 years. Later, because of the twin sons and daughters are going to high school, in order to tuition fees, she came out alone to work.
Her first stop was a large restaurant, where she worked as a dishwasher, because the restaurant had regulations to assess how many bowls had to be washed every day to complete the task, and washed more money. There is a cutter about the same age as her often help, time is long, Ling found that the two of them especially chat, feel very good.
With the slow understanding of the depth of their later shopping together, sometimes go out to the roadside stalls to eat some late-night snacks and so on, once they all drank a little beer, I do not know whether it is a drink of courage or the two of them have been looking forward to just do not have a breakthrough, she followed him back to his rented room, once after she was addicted to it, because she did not feel for a long time to do a woman's taste, and so they She followed him back to his rented room. The man knew that her family has two children in school, but also often 300, 500 dollars to stuff money to her, she was very happy, because she felt physically satisfied, but also met a good man.
The good times did not last long, only a few months with the same living, Ling found himself in pain and itchy lower body, to the clinic doctor told her warts, she wanted to think of their own in addition to the relationship with him, not with other men have had sex, and find him to question, he admitted that he looked for the Miss contracted the disease, and finally, she had to hide from her family to treat the disease in this side of the, fortunately, that the man is still quite conscientious, to help her out of the majority of money, but also to help her to find the best solution to the problem, and the best way to solve the problem. The first time I saw this, it was a very good thing that I was so happy.
After she got well, she resigned from her original job and left the man, and now she works here.
She said, for the future she is very confused, she does not know in the future to meet a good man will not be moved, because a woman a particularly tired, especially at night, especially lonely and helpless.
Third, Long, male, 32 years old, construction site workers, temporary partner couple 3 years, first physical needs, and then partner out of feelings.
Long graduated from junior high school out of the dry construction site, he had half a year in the middle of the time also to the woolen factory, electronics factory, but he felt that those jobs are too boring. Too monotonous is not suitable for him, and back to the site to do.
He said that young adults like him, temporary couples are acceptable, because people have seven feelings and six desires, no sex life all year round, he can not accept, unless it is that can not. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
He is now looking for a live together, they all said beforehand, such as home to the phone, the other party to avoid; daily expenses how to allocate; usually how to contact; how to bear the rent; no matter whether it is usually or New Year's Eve, each other can not contact each other,
Later on, we lived together for more than a year, and found that the two are quite compatible, anyway, is each other is very attached to that kind of feeling, right, sometimes a few days can not see her heart strange wanting, but also to see her, and she is a good friend, she is a good friend. Sometimes a few days can not see her heart also strange want to her, but these themselves are regulated control it, because we all said beforehand, not to destroy each other's families. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it.
Later, Long's family in the town to repair a house, but also off 50,000 yuan, from her to take 50,000, and then fell short of 5,000, she helped him borrow 5,000 from the workers, this point Long is very touched, and then took almost a year to pay off the money. Then later her family building house difference of 30,000, Long also borrowed 30,000, and now also returned half of the money.
Long felt that such a relationship maintained quite good, both like relatives and like lovers.
I asked Lung, have you ever thought, this way down in case your wife or her husband know how to do?
Long silent, threw me a white sand cigarettes, he also took a lit smoke up, spit out a smoke circle.
The above is an interview with the migrant workers, the following interviews with other groups of people on this phenomenon:
First, Mr. Ma, engineering supervisor, 35 years old, the phenomenon of migrant workers "temporary couples" with a negative attitude.
I myself is to do engineering, often go to many construction sites to do supervision, in the construction site does have the phenomenon of "temporary couples", because people have seven feelings and six desires, physiological needs, so men and women on the construction site for a long time are naturally composed of "temporary couples! "
This is the first time I've ever seen a person with a high level of health.
But this kind of field points do not meet the ethical and moral well, and also have an impact on the family, in addition, if you are not careful will be infected with disease, and ultimately is harmful to others, feel this kind of thing is playing with fire, accidentally burned himself.
Second, Ms. Li, assistant to the CFO, 28 years old, the migrant workers "temporary couples" to understand the attitude.
I don't think we can judge them from the phenomenon, they have brought indelible contribution to our city, I think the phenomenon caused by the emergence of, in addition to physiological and psychological reasons, there is also a very important reason, is that they have a low income; they have a monthly income of more than 4,000, in addition to the rent, water and electricity, food, clothing and transportation, how much is left? If two people live together, this account is too cost-effective.
Some people may think that I am talking out of my ass, I also grew up in the countryside and then went to college before coming out. You know that in some places in the countryside, a family of four or seven or eight people rely on farming, a few thousand dollars a year, and sometimes encounter natural and man-made disasters that would be even worse, so for the farmers friends, every penny is very precious, are the hope of their families.
So I don't think we should stand on the moral high ground to judge this matter, they are not well educated, they don't have a skill, if they don't have no choice, they will come out to work. Wouldn't they rather be at home with their wives and children? But what can they do? Children have to go to school, two elderly people at home need to be supported, the house still need to be repaired, these are not because they are migrant workers and do not want money?
Third, Auntie Wu, a retired employee with grandchildren at home, has a negative attitude towards the phenomenon of "temporary couples" of migrant workers.
Perhaps because older people are more traditional, I can not accept the cheating behavior outside the couple, and this is very easy to cause the marriage is not stable, and there is a risk of disease transmission.
Of course, so many people come to the city to make a living is not easy, but also for the city to bring a lot of contribution, this point must be recognized, you see like the city cleaning, building skyscrapers, courier takeaway, etc., to give us a lot of convenience, so for these lovely people, can not be taken to the law to force the best way is to work couples out together, or to keep the moral bottom line, and the community is also pay more attention to it.
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What do you think about the problem of "temporary couples" of migrant workers?